Maintain an erection without stimulation - venous leak

Ok, there is a lot of scare recently with all this venous leakage stuff.

Most of the people who reported that said they can actually have an erection while jerking off but cannot maintain them without stimulation.

Is that really an issue? I mean when you are inside a woman you are consistently stimulated so there’s no problem.

As far as I can remember , I don’t get many morning woods.
I’m not as excited as I was when I watch porn and I need stimulation to get a boner. I don’t ever have any random erection during the day.
Finally, I can’t maintain an erection for more than 15 or 20 seconds if I stop masturbating or making love.

But I can have a rock hard erection on demand, I just need the right stimulation.

Do I have a problem? I always thought it was because I had a very active sexual life (lot of sex and masturbation), or because I smoke a lot (actually I smoke even when I masturbate but I want to stop doing it), but now I start to be scared a little bit.

How many times can you guys keep your erection when you stop touching your dick?

I can keep the erection several minutes without a physical stimulation. That is if I am in the right mood. If I give oral to my woman, I usually get a boner and it wont fade away unless I get very tired or something. If we change position, it is not a problem if it will pass a minute or so and if I go to the closet and get her favourite vib toy, no problem for me. If I have been drinking, and now I do not mean much but a couple of wine glasses, I do get problems to maintain the erection and if I am drunk, I have trouble having sex at all. Also, if I get uncertain I have this problem as well but it was more than 15 years since I was with another woman than my wife so…perhaps this is not relevant.

But if you have a very active sex life, I guess you will need more stimulation. My wife and me have sex perhaps 2 times a week and I masturbate about 1-2 times apart from that.

My few cents…;)

No.

No.

Yeah, smoking is not going to be good for your erections in the long run, even if your dick functions fine right now (as it sounds like it does).

I have the same issue and have been wondering myself if it is normal. I was recently fooling around with my girlfriend and I told her that I usually need more constant stimulation otherwise my erection tends to subside, I asked her about her previous encounters with boyfriends and she said they weren’t really like that, that they remained hard once hard for a while. She wasn’t at all malicious about it and I was the one who asked, and she stated that it wasn’t a problem for her. It doesn’t bother me except for the fact that I feel like maybe I have an issue that I should take care of.

Normally if I stimulate myself to erection then stop it will start to subside within 10 seconds or so, if I have been erect fro 20 minutes of so it will stay harder for longer (30-60 seconds or more). Is this normal? I’m 26.

Para-Goomba,
What makes you say it is normal?

So for you other guys out there how old are you? How long can you maintain an erection once stimulated on average?

I had this problem intermittently before PE, now I take small doses of Cialis to cope with it.

I fit into this part of what the OP had to say. I think he touched on it when he said “excited”. I think the maintaining of erection is directly related to excitement. If you have an extremely active sex life ( sex or simply masturbation ) it effects the excitement of the actions. So there are to sides of the spectrum maybe,
1st side would be you hardly masturbate and have sex this results in random erections and lots of morning wood because your dick is ready to go
2nd side would be if you are active in stimulation then your dick is less turned on and more in the “I already got some” mood.
Just some thoughts that were tossing around in my head, I wish I would get hard and stay like that for hours on end but at the moment I don’t so oh well. I do get morning wood every day though. However I do feel that the random erections is directly related to how excited you or your dick is.

Dumb question: are you guys saying this a general problem you’ve always had, or are you suggesting PE’ing has resulted in these issues for you? I know Sophomoric says he experienced this prior to PE.

For me personally it became noticeable when I started using MDMA on a regular basis.

You mean erections without mechanical stimulation right ?

I can mantain my erection if I watch porn or am with my gf without mechanical stimulation, just visual/audio stim, exception is when performance anxiety sets in, but that’s not often.

I guess I should clarify, I can usually maintain an erection with just my thoughts but I can’t really do this when I am with a girl since I’m trying to focus on her. Maybe the real thing is not as stimulating as my thoughts/porn? I’m not sure.

Alin,
Yes I mean mechanical stimulation. Touch to my erection (e.g. Hand, mouth, vagina, etc).

Sophomoric,
That’s not encouraging to hear. How old are you? Do you need cialis to have sex?
I don’t need a drug to have sex I just can’t wait 2-3 minutes between stimulation; hand job to intercourse, blow job to intercourse, etc. I usually only have maybe 10-20 seconds. Putting on condoms can be difficult as well.

Growing09,
I’m not saying it is from PE, but I wasn’t having sex before PE so I’m not sure. I’m not sure I remember a time when my erections would stick around without mechanical stimulation. I have wondered if it could be from PE but I have nothing to compare it to since I have been doing PE since age 20 or 21 and I don’t remember if I was different before (I’m 26 now). I guess it could be from PE the thought has entered my mind but I don’t think it is.

Tossedsalad,
What is MDMA? Ecstasy?
I’ve never used any drug other than marijuana and I haven’t used that in 8 years. Hmmm, you make me think about pornography use and dopamine release though. Doesn’t Ecstasy cause dopamine release artificially and through long term use can deaden the receptors to dopamine?

Silicone Jelly Cock rings do the trick, cheap and effective. Also good for maintaining engorgement after pumping

Manage,

That’s an idea that I might try but I would like to be able to maintain the erection while with a girl without her touching me constantly. At least for 60 seconds would be great.

Intercourse, handjobs and blowjobs are enough to keep me erect, but, without cialis, the “in-between” time causes me to lose quite a bit of my erection. Also if a girl gives me a crap blowjob, the same thing happens, erection starts flag.

Cialis keeps me dead hard at small doses, and if I wanna really impress somebody, I take 25mg-50mg of viagra. The problem existed before PE; PE made it worse.

Why do you think PE made it worse?

I’m exactly the same. Always been that way, I’m 21 and had the problem since I can remember. My refractory period after masturbation is a while too. I believe refractory periods may have something to do with it.

Plus my glans are not full, I’m assuming many guys with this same problem do not have full glans. Mine only get full when I kegel or use a clamp. I remember tweaking speaking of the soft glans issue.

It may have something to do with the shape of the dick. I have an upwards curve too and when erect my penis does point more upwards. I think someone who’s is straight out would find it easier to keep fully engorged. Anyway after stimulation stops I almost immediately start to loose the erection a little. I can keep it at maybe 70-80% for a little longer, 10’s of seconds. Oh and when standing up I find it hard to stay hard at all.

The last thing I want to throw in, is concentration. When I’m watching porn, sometimes I’m not fully into it. I see the image and that’s enough to have an erection. But a full 100% takes concentration and feeling into it. So possibly.. The people who loose erections without stimulation are loosing interest in the sexual activity because there focus is else where.

Then I also did worry I might have low testosterone levels which caused it. It could be a combination of all factors. I’d love to fix it too. It’s ridiculous, because I start getting erect just pulling it out or starting to PE but can’t remain 100% hard easily to save my life.