Like drinking from a firehose

About once a month, I’ll get to thinking about PE again. I will decide I’m committed.ready to go.

I’m 5 1/4” unofficially. Unofficially in that that’s non-BPEL.I need to re-read how to do BPEL and then I’ll have a better measurement. I’ve felt inadequate at this size my entire life. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before, but it’s amazing how much we let our size become a focal point at times. I could probably attribute my promiscuity in school in relation to my need for size validation.the more girls I slept with, the more validation I felt, however fleeting.

Anyway, I digress.

I come here once a month with one specific goal in mind. I would like to be bigger than 6” for once in my life. 7 or 8 would be just jim dandy, but if I could meek out better than six.if I could finally call myself “above average”.if I could be bigger than my wife’s old serious boy friend (we’re 10 years happily married and have good sex, but she once admitted he was a bit bigger than me).if I.well, you get the picture. It’s important to me for a number of reasons.

However, each time I come here, I’m completely overwhelmed. I’m glad that there is so much information out there, but wow. I simply can never decide where to start. So much information seems contradictory.so many techniques work for some and not others. Plus, there is not really (at least that I can find) a sequential list of things you need to know before hand. For example, last time I came I recall reading about a way to determine by the angle at which doing a kegel didn’t retract your penis significantly how much potential you have for good gains through PE. I have no idea now what it was called, or how to find it. I’m not even sure it’s considered accurate by the greater community. But these are types of things that are confusing. So many techniques.so many devices.so little time. I really wish there was a page that contained “Community Generally Accepted Facts”.where guys like me could go to get the latest updates on what truths the community has uncovered. See, it’s challenging, because forums are forever but truths are fleeting.opinions change, and there’s no easy way to get the latest info. I could be reading a post on a technique that is now considered a waste of time and never know.

I simply don’t see how you guys do it. I know a lot of you have to have demanding jobs (I work two.one during day and consulting during night) and families.I have three young boys myself. I simply can’t spend hours and hours.I really really want to do PE but keep hesitating. What if my plan is the wrong one?

It’s funny.I’d almost pay for a PE advisor.a PE trainer (PEPT ? ;) .

Anyway, sorry for rambling guys. Guess I’m a bit emotional about it today. I really want to get started and see what happens, but given my schedule and my family I can’t hide away in the bathroom for an hour each day. And it’d be different if I felt confidence at all in what I should be doing.

Thanks for reading, and any guidance or encouragement is very welcome.

Thanks,
Parna

Parna,

Welcome to thunders. All of us where initially overwelmed by the bulk of information. My suggestion is to find out what works and stay within in. It took me 3 months of reading
About an hour a day to start piecing together what appears to work.

Good suggestion will be staying within the newbie program for your first 3-6 months, and then switching to something more advanced.

Hello perna :) I suggest you just start with the Newbie Routine, and just read about the two simplest exercises that the routine is based on. Stretching and jelqing, and then do those exercises. Of course, read as much as you can about PE, but those are really the only exercises that you need to be doing.

Have faith and determination parna. I, too, was once your size. After almost three years, a lot of work, and a few hiccups, I have finally hit the 7” mark on the ruler. I have increased the girth as well. Start with the newbie, and be persistant. I have a feeling you will see gains after only a few weeks, and you will notice better overall penis health. Print off the newbie and follow it to the letter.

You don’t need an hour a day.

My newbie routine took 20 to 30 minutes. I did one day on, and two days off.

And the periods were shorter than that, as I did stretching in the morning, and jelqing in the afternoon

Start here for a very manageable newbie routine, it is similar to what I did but probably better:

NEW newbie + advanced routine

More at link, well worth reading if you haven’t.

A less is more routine works for a lot of guys.

Quote:I ‘ve felt inadequate at this size my entire life… . , But it’s amazing how much we let our size become a focal point at times.

I suspect this sense of inadequacy has been about since the fig leaf was haute couture. PE liberated me from this destructive sense, hearing other men’s stories, discovering routines; learning about averages was a biggy.

Here’s a platitude for you, I’m good at them; “Life is not a hurry till you’re dead. Then it’s too late.” I, too, haven’t a clue what it means.

But, take your time. Attempt some PE exercise from the newbie routines, as suggested by the Ones Who Go Before.

Now, breath in, breath out and don’t forget to give a blessing for unfortunate looking women.

Cheers,
Mykl

Right before bed, when the kids are asleep, do the newbie routine in bed with your wife nearby. Support is always a good thing! Good luck!! :)

No reason to sweat over where to start— as others note above, hit the newbie routine— in fact there is a whole newbie forum that you might find handy ;)

Thanks for all of your recommendations. I really appreciate it. I’m sure each of you were probably as overwhelmed as me.in fact, just reading this thread today (The Newbie Routine should be reconsidered?) where they recommend completely revamping the newbie routine.no wonder this stuff is bewildering! I guess in the absence of better places to start, I’ll start with the old newbie. However, anyone have any opinions on this new recommendation?

Thanks!
P

I have to do stealth pe my girlfriend thinks its weird. But every morning I do about 10 mins of very slow jelquing in the shower and it seems to be working. I think I used to over do pe a lot and nothing workrd except stretching. Now with a lesser routine I’m finally gaining girth. Just keep reading and learning as much as you can when you can.

Also as a side note every time you go to the bathroom stretch it out a few times. Good luck

Ok start with the newbie program find out if you are one of the guys who gain from just jelqing and manual stretching. Once you find out that your a hard gainer or easy gainer you can change up your program.

There are basically 2 types of guys here guys that use weight and extenders and jelq a little or guys who only do manuals, both are good and both can yield results but if in six months of a constant manual program you get no results, then I would say you are like me and others that will need to use extenders or hang or both.

I do both it works for me and others on here that got no results from jelqing but you have to do the jelqing to find out which type of guy you are. It also conditioned the penis for more demanding work outs later in you PE journey I say journey because it takes time. Plus if you gain just from jelqing then look no further keep doing it till you stop gaining. Hope this helps.

Things I would read TGC thread.

Lurk in the hang form and read reviews on every product out there before you buy anything.