last too long during sex?

First of all, thank you so much thunders place. I slept with my gf for the first time last week and she commented me for being well endowed. But i digress. During sex i could just pound away for what seems to be hours, and we would stop because she says she cant take it anymore. I am sure she is quite lubricated because she is fairly wet. so my questions come to this:

1. has jacking off and PE desensitized my penis?
2. how can i make intercourse more pleasurable for the both of us?

thanks again forum!

Yes jerking off has made you less sensative. Try not jerking off for a week then have intercourse. Try different things, see what turns you on that will make sex more enjoyable. Maybe anal? =)

When I masturbate the day of sex, I bust a lot sooner. Test it for yourself, jack off then have sex, then do not jack off then have sex. Repeat the above with PE.

Get the FleshLight and jack off with that.

You will get your sensitivity back.

Try more lube, try less lube.

Try only jacking off once a week for about a month.

It depends on a few factors.

1) How hard and how often you jerk off…the harder and more frequent WILL desensitize you.

2) What type of pe? Pumping and kagals will make you more sensitive.

3) How hard and fast you pound your gal! Hard fast pounding…if it doesn’t make you cum right away, will desensitize you. Try rubbing the skin on the back of your hand hard and fast for a few minutes…it will start to numb to sensation.

Solutions; quit jerking off, make sure you do your kagals, try pumping (optional) and go slow when having sex with your gal…then don’t complain in a new thread that you can only last 2 minutes! :)

How about having your girl friend jack you off before sex, in other words, do y’all have good foreplay, and I mean good down right nasty foreplay. I”m talking blowjob ball, sucking clit licking, tongue stimulating, nipple sucking, all out fun. Foreplay is good therapy. Also, if you are are going to have sex, (or fuck), don’t think about PE or your dick, concentrate on her, get her off, and if she does, you will too. What do you think?

Thank you everyone for the kind inputs.

I have been jacking off less and less. She is rather inexperienced and so am I, after about 10 minutes she would say it hurts too much to continue and that im “hitting her organs.” The thing is i dont feel like my penis is bumping against a wall or anything, in fact it feels pretty loose, im not sure how it is hurting her.

We do have pretty decent foreplay but i think you folks are right, my problem is just simply that i jack off way way way too much.

bonercat,
Make slow, sweet love with your woman. This means, take a good long time with everything before you even touch her genitals (at least 30 minutes).

Let your emotions come to the surface during your intimate time. Concentrate on how much you care about her, how good she looks, how good she smells, how soft her skin is instead of thinking about what position you will try next or how well you are performing. Allow yourself to enjoy all the sensations of making love without the pressure of performance. Concentrate on reading her responses; if she seems like she is in pain, work with her to change to something that isn’t painful. Talk with her; not just dirty talk and don’t keep asking “is this OK” or “how about this?”

Sex is better when there is an emotional connection between two people. However, sex is like pizza: when it’s good, it’s really good. When it’s bad, it’s still pretty good! ;)

PS: skifree rox!

When she says that you are “hitting her organs” maybe you should stop just “pounding away for hours” and think about what you’re doing.

1) Just pounding away doesn’t make her feel good, so try to actually get her g-spot. It’s only about 2-3” into her and there are many nerves there. Try getting that instead of pounding into her cervix. If you continually flicked or hit the glans of your penis for a while, it would eventually hurt.

2)Just like everyone else said, go slow and concentrate on her and how wet she’s getting, and soft her skin is. Also, remember that most of the nerves in the vagina are in three places. The clitoris and the lips, the g-spot and way up there in the cul de sac (about 7.5” up there). So most of the nerves are in the front. Get those first and foremost. (Don’t try for the cul de sac until your really know how to use yourself, because you could end up hurting someone.)

Have Fun!

Rock on grx.

Sometimes when you are too long for her, and thrust hard, it jostles the ovaries…it is the female equivalent of getting kicked in the nuts!

Good advise here, take it, and watch your deep thrusts.

If you want to go deep, do it slow and see if that is better for her.

And use lubricant if you need it.

I second this!

If its hitting cervix how can i hit the cul-de-sac? I’ve read about it in the forums but Ive never really found a comprehensive sex-guide per se.

Thanks again for the wisdom everyone.

Dude! are you not reading this stuff?

Like peresearcher posted, It’s good advice.