Just Got Caught Doing PE By Parents.. Need Advice

Hey all, sadly I’m 21 still living at home. When I do PE, I lock the door to my room in the second floor. It takes me about an hour- hour and a half. There’s been many times where my sister or my mom will randomly try coming into my room, and I kind of just shoo them away. I got caught in the middle of it a couple of times, since the smell of coco butter was in the air and she knew it wasn’t for my skin. I made up a lie to my mom which I told her I massage my testicle because I have a vericose vein (I actually have one) since it hurts and that helps soothe it.

Today the internet went down, and in the middle of my session she came knocking on my door. She was on the phone with comcast and in panic I tried telling her to leave me be. I cleaned up as quick as possible and opened the door.

I then went to the bathroom, and thankfully had some baby oil and finished my session. After she got off the phone, she started telling me that I’m sick in the head and obsessed, she also brought up the fact that she found a device that she knows that I use to wash my penis XD she was talking about the bathmate, I left it in the open once a long time ago and she thinks that I use it everyday in the shower to wash my penis and that’s why I take so long! Now keep in mind I haven’t used that thing in over a year since I had testicle crushing problems. I take long showers because it’s a place I sit in and relax to get away from everything. I don’t pe or anything just listen to music and relax.

She’s now telling me that I’m not allowed to close my door, that whenever she sees it closed she gonna come upstairs and bang it down. I don’t understand why a 21 year old isn’t allowed to have privacy, but I refuse to give up on PE.

I just wanted to know what is it that I can do to continue my PE workouts, I recently gained a quarter inch, and there’s no way in hell I’mmma let a year of effort go down the drain. P.S. I’m naturally an introvert, I spend a lot of time alone in general so I like to have my door closed but she now probably thinks I spend hours “massaging my testicles”. Moving out isn’t an option for me anytime soon since I can’t afford it being a broke college student with a regular job.

Worst thing is that my mom is a stay home mom, and she literally almost NEVER leaves the house. She’s in here 24/7

Flip it on them and tell them what you’re doing because of the genetics they were so kind to pass down? Ask you’re mom if she’d like if you’re dad was bigger and you can do it together? Ok ok joking aside (my apologies if it came off rude or insensitive).

Honestly I’d be mortified, I don’t know what advice I could give. Swing for the unscented lotion (personally I don’t like lotion and buy Astroglide). To continue it, hit up the bathroom and just tell them you’re pooping and that’s why you’re in there so long? Weirder, but more private, leave you’re door closed (so you can hear it open) and go in the closet?

Layout of the house, private spaces etc. All things that play a factor in being able to ditch out. I’d say cut it down time-wise though, try 10 min in the shower and then cut back on some of your other exercises to curb the time factor (I think with that time limit you run the risk of injury, but I’m no expert and some of the longer term vets might be more insightful).

This is a difficult situation. At 21 you are right to feel the need for respect of privacy and boundaries, the obvious issue is that you don’t own your surroundings.

Some parents will give you space and keep their distance, others won’t. In the end it is their nest and they have the right to do as they please within it.

Try to negotiate your situation as best you can through advice received by the collective wisdom here at Thunders, but ultimately you need to continue on a path that will allow you to build your own nest where you can do as you please.

Best wishes

Landfill 2, you’re twice the man Landfill 1 was…

Oh damn, I just couldn’t help myself

+1

This is a difficult situation. You might have to cut back on the routine and break it up into 2-3 shorter sessions to quiet suspicion from your Mom. So instead of the traditional 60-90 min session you could break it into multiple 20 min sessions when convenient. I know it’s not ideal for PE but your situation may call for it. Best of luck.

Also, I do find it strange that your Mom is so interested in what you are doing behind closed doors at the age of 21. Seems rather odd. Will be a nice change for you once you move out and get some privacy.

Talk to them about PE. Tell them your motivation for it. It may be difficult to find scholarly articles on PE. But I’m sure, you’ll find articles on penis sizes and present an argument or rhetoric for the use of PE. When my mom caught me smoking marijuana(she’s very much against it. I told her why I smoke and she let me be.

The analogy may be weak. It may be awkward to talk about this with your housemates; but they already knew, right?

That’s my two cents.

Honestly, you’re going to have to switch to shorter manual routines. Or buy a cheap sliding latch and install it on your door. If she wants to bang your door down, let her. She isn’t bold enough to waste the money it would take to replace it. And quite honestly, lets substitute PE for masturbation. It’s still YOUR room, YOUR penis and you aren’t hurting anyone.

She can judge all she wants but she can’t dictate what you can do to yourself because that’s how she feels and doesn’t want to respect you having a door. If you aren’t doing drugs or anything dangerous she ought to leave you alone.

I do not mean to be crass but I have had an intrusive mom do this sort of thing. It drives a rift between mother and son but…just hoping she will leave you alone is a poor choice, because she likely won’t. I mean I wish I had better advice, honestly. That is all I have.

Show her the videos of the exercises and explain what they can do. Don’t worry she has seen dick before.

I would say, it is a way to make sure my penis is and is going to remain healthy. Your mom is a woman. She will understand. You will be surprised with how many things moms can understand.

You don;t have to say it is for growth. Say it is for erection quality and good blood circulation. Which is. You are not lying. You are telling half of the truth.

I went to visit my mom and I needed to do my routine. So I said I need some privacy cause I wanna do some penis exercising to keep it healthy cause you know years pass I am not getting any younger. Helps with blood circulation. My mother said, ok I won’t bother you. Just that. She is 60.

How about going to bed a little earlier or getting up a little earlier. People won’t disturb you if they think you are asleep.

If you feel you can talk to her about it, give her a week to calm down. Then find a time she is relax and not stressed. She’s probably still in shock.

As for the rest of you living at home, start preparing your stories now. E.g. Afternoon nap, because you’re tired from late night studying. Don’t wait until it all turns to shit. ;)

Do your PE with the door open. She’ll close it real fast.

If she tells you you’re obsessed with your dick, tell her yes, I am, just like every other male on the planet.

Your dad probably knows what’s up. Maybe try talking to him about how to get a little privacy

All these covert ops comments are just avoiding the problem.

Your mother does not respect your boundaries while she reasonably should. This is not the 18th century, we don’t put chastity belts on people anymore.

You’re going to have to either confront her or move out. Do it alongside your father. Face the issue. You have a varicose vein and you are worried about your penis health, therefore you are taking reasonable steps to improve it and reduce your pain. Make sure they know you will do it regardless of what your parents think about it. This is your body and they have no jurisdiction over it. Tell them that if they don’t respect the decisions you make in life then they have a bigger problem than you do. You’re not dealing drugs, you’re not raping children. You’re doing what you believe to be best for your body and they have to respect that.

If that doesn’t work, follow BDs advice

The only solution that will really work is to move out. Is the problem no jobs or apartments/rentals too expensive?

Although you do have a right to privacy, it’s their house and their rules. I had similar problems with privacy when I was 18 and living with family and ended up moving out. Changing your schedule a bit seems like the best idea so far, buts it is a temporary solution at best. When my grandmother thought I was “up to something” she went through all my stuff sometimes twice a day, and constantly made excuses to come around, no matter where I was or what I was doing. Your mom may actually be more worried that your introverted, the comment about you being sick and obsessed seems a bit odd, it’s not uncommon for men of any age to “massage their testicles” she may genuinely be more worried about your social habits than what your massaging.

I’m not trying to poke fun at you, I am an introverted person, and my family always treated it like a crime, usually coming to the worst conclusions. Maybe talk to her about your introversion a bit, assure her you’re just busy from college/work and trying not to lose focus on the bigger picture of a career and a future. Lastly, don’t mention PE to your parents; parents have a nasty habit of talking to other parents about their children and what they’re up to. You also mention having a job, if the problem continues trying offering a little rent money in exchange for privacy. I hope some of this helps, finding privacy for PE can be a pain in the ass sometimes.

+1 whether she is right or wrong, it’s her house.