Just divorced-Need Help Getting Bigger

First off I just want to say that this forum is great. Finally I’m able to take things into my own hands(no pun intended) and make myself the size I want. I was wondering if I could get some input from senior members on my situation. I am recently divorced after many years of an essentially sexless marriage. During my marriage I never thought my size was an issue. I was a little over 6” BPEL and probably about 4.7” mid girth. I figured I was at least average or slightly above on length and average or slightly below on girth. Overall average. Then my ex-wife hooked up with a guy 10 years younger and then when we started dividing up property she started getting nasty and saying things like I have the tiniest dick ever. I know that’s not true but if I were 8 x 6 I would definitely know it’s not true. Anyway, now I’m starting to date again and obviously I’ve developed a complex. At first with my new girlfriend I was so self conscious about sex and my size I could barely maintain an erection. I frantically discovered this site and others but settled here because it’s the best I’ve seen. I can’t help thinking that she has ranked me somewhere in her head like I am in the middle or bottom half in size. Now the good news. I have been doing PE for 4 months now. I generally do about 1 week on and then 1 week of just light stuff due to lack of privacy. I have clearly made progress and am now 6.8”BPEL and almost 5” girth mid and 5.2 base. I have gotten the prized “Is your penis getting bigger?” statement from my girlfriend. At first I was super excited and then I thought, why did she think it was small to start? I think if I were 7.5 x 5.5 I would shed this complex. Like I said I was kind of frantic at first and bought the fast size extender, the bath mate and doing the manual exercises. I can’t wear the extender more than an hour so I barely use it. The bath mate works pretty well I think. My current routine is 5 min warm up, 10 minutes stretching(left, right, down, rotations), 10 minutes of assorted horse squeezes, pseudo clamping with an OK grip, then 15-20 minutes of the bath mate and then I might jelq for anywhere from 20 minutes or longer after that. Sometimes I can’t stop myself. I hope I’m not over training. My girlfriend has commented that certain positions actually hurt now with the length(from behind) although clearly sex has improved greatly the last few months. She admitted that women talk about penis size all the time and she actually used the word girth to describe size. So now I’m like great I’m feeling pretty good about the length but it’s actually causing discomfort and girth is probably what feels best and I’m not that impressive on that stat.

So, for more experienced members reading my situation do you think I should concentrate on girth? Am I over training? Any recommended routines based on my size, situation,girlfriend’s comments and 4 months plus experience with PE?

As you’ll have read round here, keep doing what your doing if your gaining. You seem to be currently working girth quite well and should continue gaining from your routine in girth anyway.

As for your girls comments its an opportunity not to bang ball deep in certain positions because following the above comment hopefully you’ll keep gaining :)

I won’t give you some zen like advice on sex but enjoy it and take more time realizing that your in the big enough to hurt her category.

brag.

edit to say congrats on your gains so far !

Congrats on the gains and welcome to the forum. I guess I’d suggest that what your ex says really doesn’t matter. She gave up her right to “vote” when she left. (and really, any woman who’s bitchy enough to make a comment like that doesn’t count anyway!) The comments you should be listening to are your current gf. Good luck and keep us posted on your gains!

You ex wife was lying.

That is the first lie a nasty vindictive woman tells.

I once had an ex-girlfriend of mine tell my new girlfriend that I had a small penis.

My new girlfriend thought it was hilarious — “Um, Does she not realize I already know what size you are and that she is full of crap????”

So forget her crap, and be the confident lover you know you are.

DON’T SECOND GUESS YOURSELF, stud.

As to PE, it sounds like you are well on the way — CONGRATS on the GAINS!!!!

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. I think I had been living in my own little world where women don’t care about penis size. This year I was shocked to learn that not only does it matter but women talk about it all the time. In fact my gf used the term girth to describe what she and her friends talk about with size. I was shocked she got a little technical there. At least she didn’t say something like mid shaft girth or BPEL! That would have been a bit much.

Welcome to the forum e211!

I agree with what the other members posted above. You have a routine that works, do NOT change it. Only change it if it stops working.
Good luck!

I think every scorned woman tells their ex they have a small dick. I’ve heard it—it seems like a reoccurring theme on this board. Women know that that is a touchy subject and can hurt us.

She may or may not have believed it. Either way, who cares, it’s in the past, and we’re all lucky to have discovered PE. Congrats on the gains and thanks for sharing your story.

Ah yes the instant automated vicious reply from a departing loved one.. As everyone else has mentioned your gains seem to be coming on leaps and bounds.. Keep it up.

Good gains mate, well done and keep going. As the other guys have said, the small dick comments are made by every bitch as their butt leaves your life, so don’t take it too heart. :)

Glad to see you are doing well man some women thrive trying to destroy a man’s ego it’s sick.

All these guys are right. She’s just saying bullshit because its the only leverage she has on you now. That shit kind of reminded me of Joe_Joe’s post on gaming and of Dane Cook’s
Ninja brain.

Don’t let her ninja your brain buddy. haha

PS-Very impressive gains and stats. Even though the goal is always to get bigger, I’d say that you have stats right now where it would be ok not to.

She was just messing with your head to be hurtful.

Looks like it worked.

You should deal with that before you deal with your pecker. People you are close to, or have been close to, can hurt you easier than others because their opinion of you counts more. In this case, her words are meaningless.

e211-

That’s okay, next time you see her tell her she’s fat.
Most women can’t stand that!!! No matter how much
weight they lose, they will always think they’re fat.

Good luck!

-=Ironbird=-

Heh, and say it casually too, like “I see you’ve put on some weight since last I seen you” instead of “you’re fat” because that just sounds like a blatant insult and she’ll see though it.

I was about to say the same thing! Yeah, and make it sound like you care. “Are you okay? You’ve really put on some weight.”