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Is it too soon

I’m kind of losing all hope. I’m 21 and a virgin and extremely depressed. My penis isn’t tiny (just under 6 inches length, but about 4.25 inches in girth). The girth is my issue. But in addition to the size, I have fordyce spots, pearly penile papules and I prematurely ejaculate. So, I have read about guys being depressed with only one of these things.. But, hey, lucky me! I get to have my finger in each pie.

Please don’t say something along the lines of “go out and have sex”.. Because how do you think that will end? Firstly, I have no confidence about my penis size, and secondly it won’t be much enjoyment for the girl because 1) I’m a virgin, 2) I’m well below average in girth and 3) I’m a premature ejaculator. It would be embarrassing to say the least.

I have gone on and off with PE, because I just become too depressed and give up because I wonder why should I have to do this? It’s just so unfair, and not a day goes by where I don’t think about how crap this all is, and how bad it makes me feel, and what will I do if I never have the confidence to be with a girl. My parents and family are suspicious, and I don’t know how long this can go on.

So, what I want to know is whether it’s too soon to be doing some of the more advanced stuff without completely injuring myself? I have been very on and off for about a year or so and have probably done about 2 months of the newbie routine all up.

I would really appreciate some good suggestions. If I dry jelq, what is better C-grip or regular? All I care about is girth.

If I can get some girth then I feel I can tackle my other problems. While I feel I have been burdened with this penis, I am an attractive guy (which actually makes it so much more difficult) and I’m of high intelligence. I’m sorry if that sounds conceited, but I honestly find no form of solace in those traits because all I care about is this issue of my penis. I just mention it to illustrate how it goes towards exacerbating my already undesirable situation.

I should note that the two aforementioned aesthetic issues aren’t too noticeable, and I’m confident I can get rid of them (at least mostly), but one step at a time.

First thing you need to do is change your attitude to a positive one. If you want to make improvements in the areas you mentioned, it’s going to take patience and consistency with a routine.

If I were you, I wouldn’t get too carried away with advanced PE until I was consistent with the Newbie Routine.

Since results are always individual, I would try different jelq grips and see which works best for you, always being safe of course.

As far as the premature ejaculation issue, just edge! You’ll have to be consistent with it as well. Add a Fleshlight to the mix for the realistic stimulations if you can. Edging worked so well for me.

Don’t worry about being a virgin! You said you’re attractive and intelligent, so use those to your advantage. Go meet some girls and get some experience. You’ll more than likely realize that the size of your penis doesn’t make a difference.

Good luck with your endeavours, and search the forums for your specific issues. There’s more than enough info to get you pointed in the right direction for gains and self confidence.


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Originally Posted by scissors123
Please don’t say something along the lines of “go out and have sex”.. Because how do you think that will end? Firstly, I have no confidence about my penis size, and secondly it won’t be much enjoyment for the girl because 1) I’m a virgin, 2) I’m well below average in girth and 3) I’m a premature ejaculator. It would be embarrassing to say the least.
Dude, you’re barely…and I mean barely…smaller than me and I have had nothing but great sex my entire teenage and young adult life. I swear sex is 85% mental and if you approach it with a piss ass attitude like you have, yeah it’s going to suck. About your pre-ejac, there is plenty of resources on this site that can help you with that. Get into the habit of edging and maybe look into forking out some money for a fleshlight. They feel like a real vajayjay so it will give you practice and teach you stamina. As for exercising, unless you’ve done the newbie routine, consistently, for awhile, then I won’t prescribe you another routine to follow. You said you’ve been inconsistent, so why not try to be CONSISTENT for awhile and see what happens?

Hi Scissor

Interesting nick you have..

This is in large degree a psychological issue: your self-esteem and your concrete issues with your penis.both needs to be worked at simultaneously!!
I do not think that you can only work on one of them and expecting the other one just to come along.

Good that you have a healthy perception that your penis isn’t small, because it’s not. Fordyce spots is a normal anatomical phenomenon, some sources say that it can make you more sensitive, but I don’t believe it quite so. I have some of such spots my self (on the middle and base staff) and they are not making my particularly more sensitive. They are accentual “love buds” for the vagina, it is rather stimulating for the women. Fordyce sopts maybe have been evolved in the looooong history of humans pleasure at time were no condoms with buds and other sex toy were readily available. Now the next thing: pearly penile papules are often on the head of the penis and it is in fact stated that “these bumps are very common, especially among men in their twenties and thirties. Uncircumcised men also report a high occurrence of the papules as well. Throughout your lifetime, it is possible that the bumps will appear and disappear on their own”. You are young, and unfortunately with lower self-esteem making you anxious that again leads to premature ejaculation. If you masturbate while you are anxious and think about the bad stuff you’re not in a state for pleasure and so the body can’t be in such state when you’re mind is not.

You should also examine your bad statements about your penis, yourself and similar stuff: for example you are stating “no confidence about my penis size”, how big is your penis compared to the average? Should I be really have this level of confidence about my penis size that is at least an average sized? How much evidence is there for me to actually have this low confidence about my penis size? From 0-100% how much is that a truth? You can examine any of your bad assumptions this way. It will help you to clarify your views, and hinder bad-thought-circles

What are your parents and family suspicious about? (It is important to have at least an ok relationship with your parents in times as such, but it is not only your responsibility).

Because of your on-and-off with PE you should gather more motivation before you start on PE, I understand that this is difficult when you’re depressed and for that reason you should make an appointment with a psychologist where you can work on self-esteem/depression and after a while start to do a PE if you feel like it.

This is my best advices, with time (6-24 moths) with good and adjusted treatment it will get better.

Take care


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Last edited by Ares88 : 05-04-2011 at .

Disclaimer:

The text above is just stated on general laymen’s knowledge, and based on a very limited information.


STARTING: BPEL: 5.7 G: 4.65, NOW: BPEL: 7.48 G: 5.7 GOAL L:8.7 G:6.3 (old goal; L:8.0 G: 6.0)

MY STATISTICS

Disclaimer:The advices that I give of any sort are just stated on general laymen's knowledge.

Originally Posted by scissors123
I’m kind of losing all hope. I’m 21 and a virgin and extremely depressed. My penis isn’t tiny (just under 6 inches length, but about 4.25 inches in girth). The girth is my issue. But in addition to the size, I have fordyce spots, pearly penile papules and I prematurely ejaculate. So, I have read about guys being depressed with only one of these things.. But, hey, lucky me! I get to have my finger in each pie.

Please don’t say something along the lines of “go out and have sex”.. Because how do you think that will end? Firstly, I have no confidence about my penis size, and secondly it won’t be much enjoyment for the girl because 1) I’m a virgin, 2) I’m well below average in girth and 3) I’m a premature ejaculator. It would be embarrassing to say the least.

I have gone on and off with PE, because I just become too depressed and give up because I wonder why should I have to do this? It’s just so unfair, and not a day goes by where I don’t think about how crap this all is, and how bad it makes me feel, and what will I do if I never have the confidence to be with a girl. My parents and family are suspicious, and I don’t know how long this can go on.

So, what I want to know is whether it’s too soon to be doing some of the more advanced stuff without completely injuring myself? I have been very on and off for about a year or so and have probably done about 2 months of the newbie routine all up.

I would really appreciate some good suggestions. If I dry jelq, what is better C-grip or regular? All I care about is girth.

If I can get some girth then I feel I can tackle my other problems. While I feel I have been burdened with this penis, I am an attractive guy (which actually makes it so much more difficult) and I’m of high intelligence. I’m sorry if that sounds conceited, but I honestly find no form of solace in those traits because all I care about is this issue of my penis. I just mention it to illustrate how it goes towards exacerbating my already undesirable situation.

I have fordyce spots and so does a lot of guys. They aren’t a huge deal, I was fucking freaked out when I was a teenager even went to the doctor about them. But come on, I’m 21 and you can’t let small shit like that keep bothering you.

I’m on depression tablets now (Fluxotetine), just one a day and it does help quite a bit. But I PE’d for a year or so with pretty bad depression and no meds. Of course I couldn’t be fucked but I just did it everyday with the attitude of not doing it isn’t an option. Just carry on, day dream whilst doing it and get it done!

Anyway you’re good looking and intelligent so I can’t feel to bad for you. Are you on your way to a good job?

First of all, I think you should stick with the newbie routine for at least 3 months. I guarantee 90% you will have some results. Girth or length.

Second of all…oral sex…oral sex. After you give her clit a great licking, just power hump away!

I know you said you have a premature ejaculation. I recommend masturbate in the morning on the day you think you will have sex. You should practice edging also. :)

Lastly, not at least. I don’t want to offend anyone. I was raised in a Catholic. family. If you don’t think any of these is working. I recommend becoming a Christian or a Catholic…and find yourself a nice church girl. ;)

Being a virgin isn’t a big deal, by the way.

CrazyOne

Thanks for all your suggestions. The main thing that makes me think I have a small penis is the fact that a condom won’t fit.. But I guess you can get smaller ones. And Ares, you made some good points.

Ok, I’ll give the newbie routine another shot. I know it is largely a psychological issue, but it is one I can only overcome with increased size and through overcoming some of the other issues.

I’m an atheist, and would never consider becoming a Christian, sorry. No offence intended.

Audacia, I think if I were to go to a psychologist and take some form of anti-depressant it would help me a heap. But I just can’t imagine being able to tell this to someone face-to-face. And I should be on my way to becoming a lawyer, so yes. But you must understand, these things really don’t matter to me in my current state. I often wonder what is the point of even studying when I don’t feel like I will ever meet someone if I don’t make changes (this is how I feel, you might think it is stupid but it’s just how I feel).

And I don’t know what I would tell my parents, I don’t want to tell anyone about it, it’s just really embarrassing. It would make things so weird between my parents and I.

None taken, lol. I don’t judge people based on their beliefs..unless they’re really nut jobs.

I was trying to be sarcastic…I mean, a good church girl won’t give a shit about size…let alone sex. :P

CrazyOne

Hey Scissors. Having a bad attitude like that might even cause erection problems, so you really should turn it around and just look forward to enjoying the sex. Trust me - like 75% of a woman enjoying sex is her knowing you are enjoying it. Here’s some advice I’ve written for overcoming first-time sex anxiety:

For young guys with erection problems - Scienceguy’s method


I'm a disciple of science.

Originally Posted by scissors123
I’m kind of losing all hope. I’m 21 and a virgin and extremely depressed. My penis isn’t tiny (just under 6 inches length, but about 4.25 inches in girth). The girth is my issue. But in addition to the size, I have fordyce spots, pearly penile papules and I prematurely ejaculate. So, I have read about guys being depressed with only one of these things.. But, hey, lucky me! I get to have my finger in each pie.

If I can get some girth then I feel I can tackle my other problems. While I feel I have been burdened with this penis, I am an attractive guy (which actually makes it so much more difficult) and I’m of high intelligence. I’m sorry if that sounds conceited, but I honestly find no form of solace in those traits because all I care about is this issue of my penis. I just mention it to illustrate how it goes towards exacerbating my already undesirable situation.


Having a big penis,
does not
Guarantee you will get some sex.. I know that one for a fact.

You should start working out and get in better shape. If your not doing so.


[9/2010] 7*6 NBPEL/8*6 BPEL pic's Not PEing anymore. (as of Nov '10)

[12/2011] 7.37" NBPEL * 6.4"

[1/2013] Current stats:7.37 NBPEL * 6.5.

First of all if you are a virgin,no way to know that you have a premature ejaculate.Masturbate and sex are different thinks.And about your penis-you are still young,I`m sure that in six to nine monts with patience and exercise you can ad 0.25 inch to your girth.I`m sure if you are stable with exercise,in your 21 you will have nice above average cock.

Originally Posted by scissors123
Thanks for all your suggestions. The main thing that makes me think I have a small penis is the fact that a condom won’t fit.. But I guess you can get smaller ones. And Ares, you made some good points.

Ok, I’ll give the newbie routine another shot. I know it is largely a psychological issue, but it is one I can only overcome with increased size and through overcoming some of the other issues.

I’m an atheist, and would never consider becoming a Christian, sorry. No offence intended.

Audacia, I think if I were to go to a psychologist and take some form of anti-depressant it would help me a heap. But I just can’t imagine being able to tell this to someone face-to-face. And I should be on my way to becoming a lawyer, so yes. But you must understand, these things really don’t matter to me in my current state. I often wonder what is the point of even studying when I don’t feel like I will ever meet someone if I don’t make changes (this is how I feel, you might think it is stupid but it’s just how I feel).

And I don’t know what I would tell my parents, I don’t want to tell anyone about it, it’s just really embarrassing. It would make things so weird between my parents and I.

I just went to my doctor and said I’m always tired and have no energy. Like I’ll sleep so many hours and still feel tired. They gave me a questionnaire on depression. Of course I knew I was depressed but I just wanted to be treated for the sleep symptoms separately. Anyway they just gave me a prescription for the tablets, no psychologist involved.

You’re 21 now, just be confident. You’re an adult so you can have an adult relationship with your parents, don’t be embarrassed or weirded out. If they’re good parents they will be there for you. I mean my Dad was against the Tablets but eh, it was my choice, my mum just sits and listens. Up to you whether you tell them or not. I do think it helps to talk about your problems. I mean ALL of your problems seem to be dick related so I guess here is as good-er place as any. You can PM me whenever or carry on here. But talking in person you might find better, as it’s more personal so find someone.

I could never imagine studying law and what not with bad depression. Now that would be a fucking battle.

Uhh not sure what else to say for the moment. I don’t think it’s particularly good to do PE in a poor mental state. Like I’ve done it and it just becomes obsessive and you’re paying so much more attention to your cock and thinking it’s not good enough and it’s so much more depressing when you work hard and get no gains. Really you just want to be healthy and do PE casually. In a depressed state negative thoughts can spiral out of control.

So yeah just bite the bullet and talk to a psychologist, your parents, a close friend. Medication doesn’t work for everyone.

Originally Posted by fat_cock
Having a big penis,
[you]Does not
[/you] Guarantee you will get some sex.. I know that one for a fact.

You should start working out and get in better shape. If your not doing so.

Haha ”Big dick doesn’t mean you will get sex but a hot body does!”

Great advise there man! (Sarcasm alert)

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