I would like to take this time to talk about the insecurities of penis size. I think every man has insecurities no matter what size he is. We all want a larger piece at some point in our lives. Some even feel afraid to even confront women because of it. It’s all about overcoming this and remembering a woman is going to like you first and then love you, for who you are as a man. You should never be ashamed of what you have. If a woman is going to ridicule it, then she doesn’t really care about you and isn’t worth your time or effort to pursue that relationship.
Some factors in my life that sparked insecurities. The names I’ll be using are for example and do not refer to any real person.
1. I think the first was high school. As teenagers in gym class we had to shower with the other guys. Of course, we all looked. We saw Joe with his penis hanging and Bob with his stub. We compared ourselves. Okay so I was mediocre. Other guys were similar to me. But of course we wanted to be Joe. Joe was the man. He was buff, athletic, and had all the girls around him. Though we didn’t so much look at what Joe’s attitude was, we just associated his body and having that hanging penis with getting the girls. So strike one. We are now insecure. The “hot” girls don’t pay attention to us, like they do Joe. Joe’s penis has to be the answer to why he has a harem of “hot” babes that follows him around.
Having my first girlfriend, took a lot of these insecurities away. So she wasn’t the “hot” cheerleader but I had found peace with my myself. I realized it wasn’t my size, but attitude that got the girl. After all, she didn’t even know what was in my pants. Then once the time came to use it, my insecurities fell away. My penis pleased her and it wasn’t the size that did it.
2. The discovery of porn. So I had a couple girlfriends and used my penis well. I had seen magazines growing up, with naked women in them. I had though, never seen another man’s erect penis, until I saw my first hardcore porn magazine. I looked at it and was taken back. Though I know it probably wasn’t that big, but to me it looked like it was a foot long. My insecurities are building again. Then I was introduced, by a girlfriend to my first porn video. Seeing it totally put me into insecure mode. Not only were the dicks huge, but the women were going crazy over them. My girlfriends never were so boisterous during sex. What was I doing wrong? Was it that my penis was too small and just could never please a woman like that?
So it came to the point of asking my girlfriends if I pleased them and I mean “really” pleased them. I really didn’t trust them because they weren’t responding to my penis like the porn stars. They would tell me I was great, but I didn’t believe them. I’d ask about my size and they’d tell me it’s all in how you use it and you do just fine. So a little of the insecurities faded over time. I was in my 20s and having great sex all the time. There must have been something to what I had? Hell, a few women would even talk about it. Though I was somewhat humiliated by this, I felt honored that my dick was good enough to brag about. The insecurities vanished.
3. Eventually I found myself a wife and with this came security. Then she was taken from me and was put back into a world, where so called “size queens” now rule. The internet sex sites. Upon reading profile after profile, I discovered it didn’t matter who I was, all that mattered was what my dick was. If it didn’t meet a 7”,8”,or above standard, it was pointless even attempting to swoon these women. I once again felt insecure. Then I went to a local bar one night and was offered a blow job, upon which she asked straight out, “You are over 7”, right”. I told her I wasn’t interested. Of course I was, but was humiliated by the comment. I couldn’t have told her yes to just pull out my 5.75” cock. Insecurity and a loss of self confidence, I once had tons of, were now all gone.
I’m here at Thunder’s now, working on gains. But I am doing this all for myself. I’m not doing it to attract the size queens or think it’s going to make me a better lover. I’m doing it to lift my insecurities and self confidence I lost.
Last night, while edging, it dawned on me. I looked down and saw a penis that gave me incredible strength. I felt more fulfilled than I have in a long time. Not because I think this penis is going to get me a woman, but because I have accomplished something I never thought possible. My work hard work has paid off and I’m once happy again with myself. My self confidence has been boosted. Last night, looking at my penis, I now can say my insecurities are once again a thing of the past. I’m secure with who I am once again.
I write this because I know many guys out there are afraid of confronting women because of their size. Remember, it’s more than just your penis. You first have to be secure with yourself. It’s you that will get the woman. Your personality and own self confidence out beats your penis every time. I gave these examples, because it may reflect something you have also dealt with in life. You first have to be secure with who you are as a man. Finding that security is sometimes the most difficult part, but it’s a rewarding experience when you do.
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