Improving my EQ

Hi guys!
This is my first post. I have been lurking here for a while, and this is a great source.. Really. Please forgive my English mistakes as this isn’t my first language.
Basically, I am trying to better my EQ. I am 21, and as I am happy with my size (8 BPEL, 5.5 MSEG), my goal is really to achieve easier and harder erections. Too much masturbation, weak perineal muscles, or psychological aspects? I want to find where are my weak points. So here is my situation, step by step:

During sex: Great. Most of the time I can get hard (but not often rock hard), and I can last for hours. This is quite strange since I really feel an orgasm coming very quickly after I start fucking. I can orgasm without ejaculating by contracting as strongly as I can my BC and anus muscles, but most of the times, it’s not not as strong as a “real” orgasm, I often have spasms after, and this makes me get a little softer (like 5-6/10, and it is difficult to make it harder again). I think this is because I haven’t mastered Dry Orgasm yet.. Could this be retrograde ejaculation? I think so because after I have stopped 1 or 2 ejaculations like this, if I let it go on the third time, I don’t ejaculate, or cum only dribbles in little quantity. Well, I have to improve this, but this already allow me to have really long sex sessions most of the time..

Ease of erections: It depends. I have times, quite rare, when it takes a long time to get hard, be it before masturbating or having sex. I find it difficult to get hard with imagination only. This may be due to YEARS of porn, and daily masturbation.

Frequency of erections: Not really good, I have to stimulate myself, except with a girl. Seeing a beautiful lady in swimsuit won’t get me hard, not even semi hard. Porn is to blame again I think.

Hardness of erections: Major weak point, I would say 7 or 8/10. And of course my goal is 11.
Ease of keeping them: A few seconds without stimulation and I lose it. Exception: sometimes after like 1 hour of sex, my penis become a bit sore and just doesn’t want to go back to flaccid state any more. This is quite cool. I want this every time I have sex :)

Refractory period: It depends, sometime a few minutes are enough, sometimes I can’t get hard anymore.

Nite and morning wood: I don’t have morning wood! Or if I have one, it’s weak.. Real morning wood are very rare, but I love this feeling so much. I don’t know if I have nite wood. I never wake up hard when I sleep alone.

To improve my EQ, I have already stopped watching porn regularly. I encounter lot of difficulties with stopping masturbation. This is a challenge. I have searched and tried many things about Perineal musculation. I can’t say if my BC/IC muscles are strong or not. Here are the facts, tell me what you think:

When I stop peeing, it involves my anus muscle. I simply cannot stop peeing without contracting this muscle. Normal?
My ejaculations when I masturbate are WEAK. Basically it’s dribbling more than shooting.
During the day, I regularly find that my anus and BC muscle are contracted. Normal?
I have isolated quite well my BC muscle. But: when I contract it, I feel my muscle “shaking”, it doesn’t contrat and stay hard during the contraction. Normal?
I am trying to isolate my IC muscle, but I haven’t really succeeded yet. Any advice?

My new strategy will be:
-No masturbation. 1 time a week if I don’t have sex.
-Towel raises until I am tired, every other day.
-Relaxation during the day.

So am I concerned with what is called ED? Does my strategy to better my EQ sound good to you? Do you think I have a weak BC/IC muscle, or is it overcontracted, or do I have bad technique to use it? Sorry for this long post, but I really try to connect every information I can observe about my erections. Hope this will help other guys too. Thank you!

Kegels are great. I would include some jelqing at low intensity for five minutes maybe two or three times a week. Also make sure you are drinking enough water. Here’s a good rule of thumb. I weigh 180 pounds. Divide that by two and you get 90. So I try to drink 90 ounces of water a day.

Have faith that you will soon have the erection you hope for and you most likely will.

Thanks allnighter!

Has someone had the same kind of orgasms I described in the first post? (Slightly decreasing erection, no ejaculation, not as pleasing as a real orgasm)

You need to see a urologist.

Are you in shape physically? What is your diet like? Do you smoke or drink in excess? I’ve found that stopping porn use has made a huge difference in my EQ. That’s where I’d start.

Increase blood circulation. Here are some things I recommend that have worked for me.

-Cayenne Pepper + Water + Ginger shots twice a day
-Keep hydrated Drink 2L of water a day
-Exercise 3-4 times a week
-Start the newbie routine on Thunders many have seen dramatic increase it EQ
-Imagine your gf is a hot sexy porn star!! (I’m just kidding here)

Good Luck with your quest for EQ!

People who weight train should drink at least a gallon of water a day.. Some people recommend more. Read up on it though. Our bodies are mostly water and dehydration fucks everything up.

Yes you are right about Ziggy. Water is really underrated to a lot of people. I admit I struggle with my water intake because I am just busy but no excuse I will try harder to.

This is just my experience but I don’t think it is needed to stop masturbation. I think it is beneficial to limit ejaculation though.

In fact much to the contrary, extended edging without ejaculation would be one of the first things I would suggest to try along with btb jelqing. This can sort of approximate the response you talked about after having sex for a long while and not going going soft easily. Of course the overall stimulation and experience of being with another real person cannot be matched. Though I do feel that long periods of edging, using as little porn and as much mental relaxation as possible (might want to research tantra and breathing techniques as well here) is about as close to that response as you can get by your lonesome. Just try not to ejaculate too often, no need to go crazy with it but this will not have the same effect if you are cumming every time you are doing it.

It feels like my EQ is low the days after some hard PE training. Feels like I can’t get a really hard erection.

I’m pretty sure constant masturbation and porn has screwed my eq up also :( hoping cutting down will bring back my strong woodys

It does, and the lack of porn and masturbation makes u that much more horny.

I know that firm erections are a good thing, but is it possible to get too hard? After advancing a lot in exercises and pe in general I often get very hard erections, sometimes I worry about even touching it, because its so hard.

Hey, I wish you luck and I’m taking any advice on this thread as advice for me, since my situation in many ways is almost exactly the same to yours as described.

Yeah, I’ve had those just as you described. To me it feels like a small fraction of an ejaculation. Where the prostate quivers around but doesn’t go into full ejaculation. Where there is a minor reactionary feeling. But If I increase my stimulation I can go another round. One time I hit 3rd and 4th round with crazy stimulation to where I was huffing an puffing. I haven’t tried it in a while.

I’m still trying to master the isolation of the IC muscle. I find the best thing to do is to just squeeze everything hard, then notice that the upper muscles are squeezing too. Seems simplest to make them twitch.

And one other thing. I have recently tried deep slow breathing from the belly (not the chest). I can sometimes get my pelvic muscles in a super relaxed state. From there I have been getting stronger than normal erections. It’s almost like I passively release myself of that whole area to where I imagine it being an uncontrolled extension of my body. That’s been pretty cool.