Impotence through nerves

Hi all, I was wondering if anyone had any tips for me.I’ll give you some stats:

-I’m around 3” flaccid and 5.25” erect
-I’m 19 years old
-Never done any PE before, new to this really

Now my main problem is getting erect when just about to have sex with a woman! I have no problem masturbating, my erections are very hard and I can easily be aroused, but for some damn reason, I just can’t get it up with a woman!! I am very self conscious about my size, I am always very nervous before the sex so I think that’s a key factor why I can’t get erect when it comes down to it.
One time I was actually having sex for about 20 minutes and suddenly I just went flaccid! Now my penis isn’t long enough to keep going when I am semi-hard! It’s really bugging me, because I have had many offers for sex, many with gorgeous girls, and I just can’t perform!!

Can anyone recommend any supplements to help me? And what would be the best way to gain length as well? I have heard good things about jelqs?

Thanks for your time!

Hi MillerBot

This used to happen to me as well when I was younger. In some ways you’re lucky as it’s not a physical thing it’s all in your head which means you can fight it. I used to go to the bathroom and “fluff” myself and then just try to breathe normally and get the girl to give you head then id get hard after I became more relax and less nervy. In terms of supplements maybe one of the more experienced guys can help you as I haven’t played around with them too much. Also from my research here do the newbie routine first for at least 3 months then you can do length specific stuff.

http://www.drda … /impotence.html

http://www.whit elotuseast.com/ … anceAnxiety.htm

Thanks for that guys.a lot of good information there! I’ll give the newbie workout a good try and see what results I get! I think with a little bit more length maybe I won’t be so shy when I whip it out when it’s flacid, thats my main problem!

I also have this problem from time to time (and I’m 22). I know it’s related to stress and I’ll try to see if the links from westla help me. :)

The stress is now caused by the size issue but mostly by my current partner (girlfriend).

Just tell your doctor what’s not happening. He’ll very likely give you some samples of Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra. Use that a couple times and you will be totally fine and can then pack the Viagra or whatever away as a “security blanket.”

Just relax and let your weiner do it’s thing. If you get semi erect you can squeeze the middle of it to make it hard at the end once you slip it in you should get hard.

Once you gain confidence with that one particular girl youll never have the problem again.

hey millerbot,

I had your same problem back in my high school years. I had many offers for sex with girls, they’d literally just throw themselves at me but when we both would get down to our bare skin I still wouldn’t be able to get it up. Id try oral sex on her, while rubbing my dick, or anything, still nothing. I even tried some supplements and what not, Stamina-RX (which I still sue today cause it is the best) and Horny Goat weed (is worthless in my mind), and nothing seemed to help. The best solution I seemed to come to was just get relaxed and try something with a girl your comfortable with, in my case it is was my best friends roommate. Have a few beers or something before just to make sure your nerves are all chilled. I wouldn;t really recommend taking Viagra or Cialis at such a young age cause I think theyll have side effects later down the road. Just so you know Im 19, 6x5. Give PE a whirl too, once you start to see some gains in flaccid/erect you’ll get a big confidence boost.

Miller, slow down. I have this strange feeling that you are probably taking things way to fast with the women. By this I mean that you probably are thinking about sticking it in as soon as you start kissing. You want to throw those under 20 year old women a loop? Try slowing down and concentrate on foreplay. Tease her until it’s her that is pulling off her own clothes as well as yours. Be forceful (yet gentle) with her. When you both are completely naked, instead of getting straight to fingering her or inserting your penis, try laying her face down on the bed. Then, get on top of her and start gently kissing her neck and back while lightly massaging it too. Work your way down with your hand and every so often, brush your hand over her clitoris and insert your finger inside now and then. Don’t concentrate on it but return to that area more and more frequently. You will see her beginning to squirm and getting really excited. Lastly, put some spit on the shaft of your dick and lay it in her butt crack (whether it’s hard or not) and slide it back and forth with some pressure. You should be hard by now!

Okay, you may be saying “what the fuck does this have to do with me getting it up?”. Well, let me explain:

1. By having a routine prepared and ready, it takes your mind off your dick and forces you to concentrate on your actions.

2. By focusing on her and not jumping right into it like most younger people do, you are showing her that you are an experienced lover. Now if you don’t get it up, it’s not as bad because you’ve shown you can do some things better than most. This takes some pressure off.

3. By watching her get genuinely aroused, it should arouse you in the process.

4. By teasing her, you are teasing yourself also. This leaves you wanting it so bad you feel like you will explode.

Anyway, it’s worth trying and it’s all natural. The above is just an example to start with. Start planning out and creating your own routines that seem to please you and the ladies, however, don’t keep using the same routing with the same woman.

Lastly, stay away from booze. Very small amounts are one thing but over-doing it will do either:

A. Prevent you from getting it up, or,

B. Making your think you are a true stallion in the sack when really you are fucking her like a sloppy drunk hillbilly.

I’ve been A & B and sometimes both A & B at the same time way too often in my life because of booze.

I had the same problems as you as I just started to become sexually active with my girlfriend.

Even though I had some performance anxiety and couldn’t get myself hard, she could still get me hard with her hands or her mouth. So I would have her put on the condom after getting me hard and then would move to the sex.

Also arginine seems to help some people a lot and other people not so much.

Finally, someone has the same problem as me. Girlfriends suck.

Great advice Gut scrambler.I was often told to set out a routine etc. I will definately give it a try! The sad thing about me is that I’m often pulling very nice looking girls and I only feel comfortable around the less ‘Good looking’ ones (Not to sound harsh but you know what I mean). Thats primarily due to the fact that I can’t get the thought of some 7”guy already being there before me, and I feel tremendous pressure knowing that I can’t match up to that size!

But thanks for the advice guys.it’s really helping me!

MillerBot you have got to stop thinking about negative shit like that. Just because the guy before you had 7” doesn’t mean he is a better lover than you. You can still give her a lot of pleasure through the clit, so master the art of drinking from the furry cup (cunnilingus) also remember even with a 5’ cock you can still hit her G spot. Try to find what she likes and dislikes and attempt to be a good lover. Hey you might even end up being the best shag she’s ever had. Just don’t keep dwelling on the negative shit that you mentioned above. So instead of having the mindset of “I’m crap, she’s not going to get any pleasure” think “I’m going to do everything I can to give her pleasure”

The good ones do.

Maybe your stressed, just learn to just relax and you will be fine. Or maybe your going limp during sex becuase your loosing interest after 15 or 20 minutes or maybe the woman your having sex with just does not feel that good. Because she is overly wet or lis lacking vaginal tone.It happenens to use all .