I'm so damn frustrated right now
Ive been trying for so long to last longer during sex. Ive been trying tons of different techniques to see if they would help. What i really don’t get is how one day i can last for like 15+ minutes and the sex is great, and then the next day feel like I’m ready to come 2 minutes into sex. It so frustrating i just wanna punch a hole in the wall. So far some of the techniques that have worked for me is biting my tongue or lip as hard as possible, while trying to think of something else. Ill try to think of things that make me depressed or that I’m worried about. Other times none of this works and I’m ready to cum in a couple minutes. Ive tried staying calm during sex and keeping my breathing smooth, and inflicting pain to get my mind off the sex. Again, this only sometimes works.
Ive done a search on this topic and read a ton of the material on this site. Ive tried kegels but for some reason they tend to make me want to come faster, i have no idea why. Ive read about certain things that can increase your Serotonin levels, and that this can help you last longer. I don’t want to take any prescribed medicine for this but i was wondering if anyone knows of any herbal supplements that do this.
If anyone has any advice id really appreciate it. My girlfriend doesn’t understand why one day the sex will be great and then the next its flat out terrible. I’m really stressed out and frustrated with this. I’m not really sure where to go, or what to try from here.