I 'm crushed and can't get over this

Hey guys,

This is my story. I’m 6.5-7.00 length by 4.00” girth. 29yrs old I’ve always been pretty confident until a yr ago. The woman who I have been with for that time told me that her long term ex was twice the width of myself and I’m the thinnest she has ever experienced. And she is pretty experienced Although I’m the best lover as size isn’t that important (although drunk has also said she had everywomans dream with her ex!)thanks for that dear! Of course I believe you! I’ve also experimented with toys etc to see how she reacted to big sizes and yes she loved it. There I am trying to be enthusiastic whilst watching her get satisfied in ways I can never do.

I feel so inadequate. She is a very sexual vibrant woman that men flock around and she enjoys that kind of attention. All the time I’m looking at these guys thinking they could fulfill her in ways I just can’t and it kills me. I don’t even feel like a man anymore and this feeling is with me everyday.

All I’m after is width but I hope this stuff works I’m completely desperate and can’t get over this. I hope this is for real guys.

Cheer up Dizz.

You found PE and that’s what’s important. You said she honestly thinks you’re a good lover. There’s always gtonna be someone bigger, better, or badder; that’s life. Just be glad that you found PE and get to work my friend.

Before getting into any of the hardcore girth exercises, you should probably start out with the newbie routine; light jelqing will condition your penis, and help you get a feel for it. Moving too quickly into squeezes and such could be disasterous, as those exercises are the most hardcore.

Good Luck.

Welcome, Dizz!

Listen to Insane Man’s advice, and you’ll be good to go.

Sorry to hear about your experience, and it’s something many of us can relate to in some way or another. It sucks, and it’s easy to get obsessed over something like what she said. It’s life, and it’s hard, but you also found a place that is filled with information that will help you build the dick of your dreams.

Dizz,

Welcome to Thundersplace. My friend you are not alone in feeling this way, nearly all of us have at some point - it is completely normal and understandable. However as you have seen, it has not been productive for you. Perhaps feeling bad about this has helped you come to terms with your perceived bad situation, but it is time to try something different (see comments below). Adopt a new attitude, and in the meantime work on PE. I really can’t stress this enough, PE God damn works God damn it! It takes time, but no matter what happens for the rest of your life, the dick size issue is solved. Finished, sorted, fixed, repaired, end of the line, ain’t nothing gonna break my stride, never gonna give you up, never gonna let you down, never gonna turn around and, desert you.

Sorry, I know guys hate it when mods break into song at random.

Anyway, please take a day or two to look around, especially read the thread ‘important newbie posts’, and also any thread or post by me. Because that’s where the good shit is. Reading up and learning is the number 1 secret of PE, there is a lot of info, but just trust me and read the thread I suggest, and get started with the newbie routine. After a month or so of that and some good reading under your belt, we can talk shop properly.

Now please hold your breath because I’m about to go bad cop on you.

>This is my story. I’m 6.5-7.00 length by 4.00” girth.<

Good length to start with. Oh I forgot, read the LOT theory thread. I think there was a 101 type post about it somewhere.

>29yrs old I’ve always been pretty confident until a yr ago. The woman….<

Ohhh fuck. Dude, you have been confident for 28 years of your life, until mention of ‘The Woman’. I could have written the rest of the post for you…

>who I have been with for that time told me that her long term ex was twice the width of myself and I’m the thinnest she has ever experienced.<

Bullshit manipulation tactics, don’t take it seriously. Did you press for the information, even badger her into telling you? Even a little bit? As soon as she smells that the size issue bothers you, you’re giving her ammo to blurt out whenever she is pissed off, sulking, drunk etc.

>And she is pretty experienced Although I’m the best lover as size isn’t that important <

Did you press to know if you were the best lover?

>(although drunk has also said she had everywomans dream with her ex!)thanks for that dear! <

Bullshit manipulation, don’t take it seriously.

>I’ve also experimented with toys etc to see how she reacted to big sizes and yes she loved it.<

Umm dude…really, what did that accomplish? Did you expect to get a big dildo on her and for her to just lie there bored? Like so many others, and yes, even me once, you are forcing yourself into a logic trap, giving yourself ‘evidence’.

This is a head issue, like I said above the size issue is now handled. Taken care of. You’re on top of it. Done. Dusted etc..

>I feel so inadequate. She is a very sexual vibrant woman that men flock around and she enjoys that kind of attention.<

Dude you rule. You have a sexually vibrant woman. Try to be happy about that?

>All the time I’m looking at these guys thinking they could fulfill her in ways I just can’t and it kills me.<

Head issue (the one on your shoulders). Change this to “All the time I’m looking at theses guys thinking FUCK YOU LOSERS, I’M HITTIN’ THIS AND YOU AIN’T”.

Seriously, positive thinking works, but it takes time to slam the message into your subconscious. Stop caring about some guy, he is irrelevant.

>I don’t even feel like a man anymore and this feeling is with me everyday. <

That’s because you keep telling youself it everyday. I bet your internal voice even tells you that, doesn’t it? Stop it! Change the message dude.

>All I’m after is width but I hope this stuff works I’m completely desperate and can’t get over this. I hope this is for real guys.<

Check out member pics and progress reports for the proof you seek. And look at my progress report because that’s where the good shit is at. ;)

Good Luck!
SS4

Yup, Bib’s LOT Theory 101

Greaty relpy, SS4.

Dizz,

One of my favorite threads is the one that many of us have used to share the moment we realized we needed to do something to get a bigger penis. It’s a great thread, and really brings home the fact that you’re not alone.

I highly encourage you to read through it: (The thread is much more than the name imples) Is It In Yet?

Also, here is a good thread to serve as evidence that PE works: Check out the pictures in the first post

To SS4Jelq you listen. Powerful Jedi is he.

Welcome Dizz, good luck with the gains. I’m sure you’ll be 1/2 inch or more wider in a few months with jelqing. Read as much as you can here and don’t get too over-enthusiastic, it takes a while to get gains. This is for real.

Diz,

You feel exactly like a guy who would be considered very large yet finds out, according to the love of his life, that he is a ‘dud in the sack’… I know exactly how you feel brother! PE does work and if you stick with it you will gain… I feel for you because I know how bad it hurts to know you rate less in the eyes of the woman you love then her previous boyfriend..

What hurts the most is you get the feeling “you can’t compete” which later turns into a worse feeling.. Believing that girls stay with you and take advantage of a good stable, loving provider type and take advantage of some fuckstick who is a better lover and get their sexual needs taken care of with him…

Coming from a guy who started out with 6 1/2 inches of girth and a nbpel of 8” I can assure you it’s *6 to 1 & a half dozen to another*… If you find out the other guy was better or bigger it still hurts the same… The way to win is to realize (like insane_man said)that there is always someone out there that can beat ya out on both counts and knowing how to deal with it…

Regularwhiteguy

Dizz,
This stuff IS for real. So, take a breath, slow down and do some thinking. At 6.5-7” your length is at a very solid starting point. There are more than a few guys who come here 1.5-2” shorter than you.

Of course, at 4” your girth is surprisingly narrow. But have no fear, there are a lot of effective girth approaches; and, for me, girth came quickly - much more quickly than length. Read that excellent compilation on girth, assembled by Thunder….

and get busy.

- w a d

I fucking hate that shit. Why the fuck would she think you want to hear that?

:!: This is a public service announcement to every guy reading this forum::!:
The next time some woman decides to tell you about how her last lover was sooo much bigger than you, just turn to her and say “Hmm… Actually that's interesting, because my last girlfriends tits were about twice the size of yours, and she wasn't as fat as you either.”

Doesn’t matter if she has big tits. Doesn’t matter if she is skinny. Just say that line and crush her like she just did to you.

Turnaround is fair play. :moon:

Thanks a lot fellas that’s very encouraging, I’m going to give this a go. I’m going to be asking a lot of questions though I hope I don’t sound like a doubting thomas in the process.

I feel good just to get that stuff off my chest

thanks

Congrats on your decision and welcome aboard. You’ll find all you need on this forum. But do yourself a favor and search before you ask. You are in his good graces now but you really, really don’t want to piss off SS4. :furious:

Mug

Dizz,

Welcome to the forum. The guys around here are always willing to pass on good advice. Do some reading and then get started right away. But do the reading. Many of these guys have spent countless hours making mistakes some even injuring their dicks in the pursuit of a larger fuckstick. Learn from them, I know I have. For some guys girth is easy to come by for others like me, it is very difficult. But you perseviere, thats it you just do it. Just do it. What do you think, Nike made up that fucking term, hell no. It was a Thunders guy who did.

I have learned a ton of stuff from these guys. I have grown my dick by over and 1 1/4” in length and 3/8” in girth, I have learned to be a better lover by knowing the parts schematic of the wife, I have even learned how to have anal sex with my wife after 20 years of marriage from the guys on this forum. It works. Just do it.

789

PS. The only payment required from you to us is that you have to tell us the VIVID, BLOW BY BLOW details of all your sexual encounters. And be sure to tell the stories REAL SLOW. Good luck.
Good luck.

789

Or you could comment on how “loose” her snatch is….say something like, “I’ve been with more than my share of women, but I’ve never been with a woman so loose as you. Have you had medical problems?”

These are good suggestions, and you might get a reaction from a woman if you use them. In my experience women are actually a little thicker skinned than we are when it comes to verbal jousting. I think it may have to do with the fact they are so bitchy and catty with each other.

In any case, to hurt a person’s feelings you have to cut deep. You have to exploit their biggest fear. For guys it’s penis size and/or sexual prowess. For women, it’s oder. That’s right. Tell her pussy smells funny, or even go so far as to say it stinks (depending on the situation). This will achieve the desired effect. On that you can trust me.

I know it’s rude, crass, and shallow. But my motto is “Don’t go there, if you ain’t ready to be taken there.”