I am going crazy

I am extremely unsettled at the moment. I have heard stories of girls experiencing their first large penis and it almost has me in tears… I am 6 inches BPEL and 5.4 inches in girth. I have tried jelqing but resulted in ED for a week (it was horrible). I have trouble maintaining an erection with my gf because all I think about is what my gf might be like if she did experience being “filled up”. She barely says anything about my dick and it upsets me that so many guys have women worshiping theirs. It almost brings me to tears to think I can’t give her that experience and that I can’t experience it myself. I feel like I might be delving too far in to this…. I am the second guy shes ever been with. The first guy was a one time thing (he was bigger than me) and apparently he made it very painful for her.

I want to get back in to jelqing and would like an 8 inch BPEL penis. I don’t want to ever feel like I am lacking. My gf tells me she doesn’t care about a large dick but that may be because she hasn’t experienced one.

My gf hasn’t experienced a vaginal orgasm (she said she did in some sense, she couldn’t explain it), and I have issues with cumming prematurely (I have gotten better but it still sucks). Overall, I feel like a pretty lousy lover. I can go down on her like no other though (she’s a tricky girl and before it use to take us 40 min to get her to orgasm and now we can in like 10 min).

We love each other and I want to give her every experience possible, as she wants to for me. I need some help guys… help a brother out? lol

Whats you NBEL ?

About 5.5 inches

Despite being a virgin I think I understand you COMPLETELY and yes, it can be very.. Bad feeling (I have pretty much same fears). But - despite being only 18 (little experience) - I think if you love each other, you can make it - one way or another. You should probably talk with your girl and tell her about your problems. Then maybe take P.E. Really slowly - you don’t have to rush and risk ED. And remember sometimes quality is better than quantity - try to be better lover with what you have, if you can make her orgasm in 10 min (and before she needed 40) then your doing something right, aren’t you? (So you probably aren’t such a “lousy lover”!! :) )

Keep trying!

Your penis is in the average - actually, looking at girth you are over the average. I think you are raising between you and your gf a problem that is ony yours. She had only another guy and he was painful for her: so, what’s your goal, to be painful for her?

Ok, not trying to be judgemental here, but don’t panic please!

Just be consistent and see what you can get. No one can make predictions. We aren’t a bunch of AGW scientists, after all.

First off, relax. You’re worrying too much. Second off, get back into PE. Third off, there are a ton of a ways to be a better lover. Being overly anxious about it isn’t one of them. Relax, use your hands, tongue, and dick to please her, and ENJOY having sex. It’s not all about size.

Man the “filled up” feeling girls get comes mainly from the girth you have. At 5.4” girth you are not below the standard size but are in fact far above it! The average erect girth is around 4.9”!

I would bet that the other guy she was with had a long penis that was thin/skinny in comparison yours. The reason she didn’t enjoy it (it felt painful unpleasant?) was probably because he was poking her cervix with that thing. The majority of girls would go crazy to find out their prince charming had a unit with your girth. In general, girth matter much much more to women than length does. Luckily for you, you are seriously packing in the girth department- congrats;) .

Man, you’re starting out with really good size already! I have to agree completely with the above post, your starting girth is great! I know though, it doesn’t matter, you still want more. Hey, that’s why we’re all here, right?

Remind yourself everyday that PE is a marathon, not a sprint. And DON’T worry about your size during sex ( I know it’s easier said than done, I still do it) because that’s ED waiting to happen. Just enjoy your GF and relax so she can enjoy you, and enjoy your PE journey and be safe!!

You have a good size man, specialy your girth. You have no reason to be insecure about this, most girls simply dont wish or crave for a bigger cock then the one their getting fucked with, specialy wiith the girthy one that you have.

Don’t fall into this thought cycle as it can completely take over your sex life and destroy your relationship. Some woman worship cock, and some don’t, size does not have anything to do wth this, unless you’ve got a micro-penis.

Agreed.

For one, I’ve felt like this myself. But put it this way, I’ve learned about myself, that if I had a 9 incher, I wouldn’t feel sufficient. I’d still want a 10 incher, If I got that, I wouldn’t be happy without an 11 incher and so on..

For one, I don’t know what your routine is, and I can’t GUARENTEE this, but if you haven’t done stretching-or hanging, for LIG gains.then start doing stretching and/or hanging for lig gains.
In my opinion, almost everyone has length to gain from either lig-release surgery, or lig stretching to expose more of your existing penis.

I’d say, not guarentee, but I’d say you can get .25 minimum, maybe up to .75 in length gains from consistent! And proper lig stretching. Thats virtually where all my length gains came from.

Secondly, take what she said about not ever having an orgasm as a challenge. Again, it’s not all about being 10 inches. If you are only 6, do the best you can with the tool you got.
On top of that, it’s not all about the dick. Some girls I’ve banged, only want the dick and crave it. But then other girls LOVE oral.
You got a tongue right? Well no excuses there then. Become the best at giving oral sex, that she’s ever had. Believe me, learn how to get her off orally/orally and fingers at the same time. If you give her an orgasm—-from any form of sex—that means you satisfied her. Understand?

Make it a challenge to yourself, to get her off, anyway possible. Take pride and in your vagina munching abilities. No joke.and that in turn will make you feel alot more secure about your dick—if it’s your dick your worried about.

So to review

1- do lig stretching workouts, consistently!
2- become a master at the oral sex

How about this……I’ll have sex with your girlfriend for you. Hey, you’re bigger than me and you wont have to worry about it. Im JK,….kinda, but seriously you’re creating a problem where there isn’t one. Why would anyone want to make anything painful for their partner? Guys want a girl with a tight pussy, but if a girl was so tight that somehow it squeezed and bruised your head would you want that to be your standard in looking for girls???

Like I said, you’re bigger than me and I’ve never had a complaint, maybe they’ve had bigger (im sure they have had), but if they come back for more sex obviously they like it. Or like you enough where they wont even notice if you’re small OR BIG. We make more of a fuss than 95% of girls do. So just remember you’re girlfriend might not even notice if you were a full inch bigger if shes really in love with you. If you just listen to her and not make an issue of it you WILL become a better lover and I guarantee you’ll get better at premature ejaculation. Your mind is your biggest enemy. And if it makes you feel any better I’ll trade sizes with you.

Agreed, your mind is the biggest enemy.

Also, check out a good kama sutra book. It will illustrate the best ways to get deep penetration regardless of how big your johnson is.this would fall under, doing the best you can with the tool you got. Learn how to use your dick effectively.

Thanks everyone. I spoke to my gf and she said something that really resonated with me… ” what would having sex with another guy do for me at this point? Give me an experience that I want with you?”

She said she hasn’t been curious about it at all. It’s hard for me to believe, but she has no reason to lie (she’s not the type that would ever do that).

I will start doing lig stretches… I just have to be very very gentle. How do I know if I am stretching too much or too little?

Sounds like a great way to ruin a relationship, worring about something you cant change. Get over it or you’ll end up one sorry sucker!

I haven’t done much lig work in years, because I got all my lig gains I could get, so I stopped.

But Ligs, if I remember correctly are actually hard to over-do. In fact fatiguing the ligs is the best.

I use to hang for lig gains, and I would hang for up to 3 hours a day, straight down, to fatigue the ligs. So overdoing lig stretching is tough.

If you are new to stretching, read the tutorials on stretching routines. Generally you will find stretching straight down, down to the left, and down to the right. Then straight out, directly to the left, and directly to the right.. For multiple sets is the way to go. You start off with maybe 3 sets at each direction, 30 second pulls for the first week, 4times a week. Then work your way up to maybe 1 or 2 minute sets at all directions. 3 sets at each direction, every day.
Thats what I did.
I got about a .25 from hanging for lig gains and .25 inch with this type of stretching routine.

Just investigate the tutorials.

In the meantime.become an oral master.