Hello

Great post by everyone here. And like Mr. Happy said, your girth is Magnum condom worthy.

And yes your goal can easily be had with about 1 year worth of good consistent work.

Hey Puck,

I’m new to this board and activity, so I won’t guide you there. But as for your size.. Dude, you are all set. Totally go for more, but know you have a good sized dick. Not small by any means, unless her vag is the size of the Houston Astrodome (then we’d all be screwed).

About your post though.. It sounds like you have a major confidence issue. I know; I used to have one. Stay optimistic. The whole comparing yourself to others is not the best path. I am a very competitive person, so I often fall into this pitfall myself. However, when your mind is constructing unsound intuitive leaps, such as big penis equaled more respect for my ex-lover, you have to calmly reassess the situation. (If you want a disproving example, think of Napoleon. Why would a shrimpy guy like that ever command respect?)

I went through a hellish period of my life, suffering from extreme anxiety and mild, paranoid schizophrenia. It was so bad. I couldn’t look people in the eye, talk without my voice cracking from fear, and it brought me to a point where I trusted nearly nobody. Yet, it was the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

You’ll get through this period. Chances are you’ll come out stronger. Far stronger than you can now realize.

As long as you stay positive, reflect deeply, and think forward, you will find your way through this. I feel that PE may not be the answer you are looking for. I mean, the thought of getting a bigger dick is pretty awesome, yet you need to understand what is actually making you tick. We’re all insecure, to a degree. In my experience, I had to find out what made me insecure, then I had to forgive myself for letting it consume me. Only then I was able to develop, mainly by forcing myself to face fears.

If you have any questions, fire away. I’ll do my best to get back to you.
I may have a psych degree, but I ain’t no gosh darn doctor.. So don’t hang on my word, or anybody else’s for that matter. Hope this was useful and not a long-winded rant. Peace.

Good stuff guys! :up:

Wow. I am flabbergasted at the amount of support I’ve already received. I sure am happy that I was able to finally join the forum.

I would like to thank everyone for their replies and the time they took in reading my first post. So, thank you gentlemen. I will try to learn to take care of myself, and I’m hoping that once the wheels start turning, I’ll obviously incorporate PE with diet, exercise, hobbies, etc. In an attempt to ameliorate my current situation. I’ll fill you guys in along the way, I suppose.

But I would like to comment on Mr. Happy’s reply.unbelievable. You hit the nail right on the head about everything you said. Yes, jealousy and competition has been running rampant throughout my mind regarding her ex. And yes, I allowed her to walk all over me on more than one occasion. I did not command respect, because I didn’t think I was adequate enough to fill a “commander’s” shoes. I never delineated specific and personal boundaries regarding a variety of issues, and if she ever crossed the universal boundaries, I was never stern enough to stand up for myself. Her physical and sexual attractiveness blinded me, and consequently made me feel worthless since I ended up valuing these fleeting qualities of a person.

So I do see your points, and they are valid and true, but nonetheless incapable of alleviating this truth I have about myself: that my penis is not sufficient enough to bring a woman to sexual ecstasy than other, larger members were capable of doing. And in this respect, I will never command respect in the bedroom, since there is someone that will always be more remarkable than me. And in this way, I will never be a woman’s Prince Charming, but rather a means to an ends, an individual who serves a woman’s ulterior motives, a man who will only be valuable so long as I am manipulated and endlessly sacrifice.

Also, I do not have any qualms about discussing BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). It is a very real, serious and crippling psychological disorder. BDD patients are 45% more likely to commit suicide than patients who are CLINICALLY depressed, and 85% more likely to conduct suicidal ideation. This is because it is a concoction of different disorders, mutated into BDD. OCD, depression, and mild bipolarity or mild schizophrenia are the foundations of BDD; without these, BDD does not exist. The easiest way to describe it is what anorexics feel and think when they look at a mirror: they weigh about 80 pounds, but think they are obese.

Unfortunately, BDD is not as simple. Although there may not be a physical defect present, a physical trait that is generally considered normal does not pass the owner’s adequacy test. A series of events brings the owner to a place of struggle and desolation. I will be more than happy to divulge my experience. I will be as brief and concise, but nonetheless clear, as possible:

I have always been very critical of myself physically and mentally. I needed to succeed in my academics since I was in kindergarten, and it carried itself over in college and law school. Nothing would suffice unless I graduated, at the very least, cum laude, with a variety of awards and accolades. Physically, I’ve always been thin and scrawny. A very traditional Sicilian family that was right off the boat would always complain that I never ate enough. Comments at school deteriorated my self-esteem, as did my luck (lack thereof, to be precise) with women (although college was an exception.I made up more than enough ground because I actually was content with who I finally was). After law school, I decided to work out, and I gained about 20 pounds of muscle (I’m an ectomorph, so it was a lot of work). I thought everything was going great, since I’ve always been considered attractive, I was succeeding in my career, and I resolved my weight issue.until my penis became an issue for me.

I began dating my ex two years ago. I was happy, healthy, and relatively successful. After the turds hit the fan, I blamed myself for not being enough, and I truly believe now that my penis has something to do with it. I began to unravel. It was something I would never wish upon anyone, even my enemies. I never thought this would ever happen to me..

I mentioned before that BDD must possess a certain level of OCD.and how true that is, since I began to conduct research about penis on the internet. Unfortunately, I did this at work, and I was not able to supply the requisite amount of billable hours for my firm. Instead of working for my legal clients, I was looking at articles such as the penis size debate, female sex forums, and the like. I began to download photos of penises, and attempt to compare my inadequacy to their acceptable members. I began to measure everything around me: candles, phones, paper towel rolls, staplers, soda cans, TV remotes, shaving cream cans, etc. I looked at myself in the mirror, and despised what I saw. Crying is a daily occurrence: I actually cry more than I take a shit. I eat only once a day, and I eat terribly; I sleep very little, since the first thing I think about when I first leave the haze of sleep is my penile inadequacy. I have begun to stare at men’s bulges in an attempt to see how inadequate I am. Everything around me is consumed by dick, and not in a humorous manner. I lost my job, my weight, my confidence, and my love for life. I wait for the day that I become a victim.

Therapy does not help, and medications cannot help me since they unfortunately exacerbate my suicidal tendencies. Even in the midst of this description, there will be no way one would understand the full extent of BDD, unless they are experiencing this as well. In essence, BDD causes the person to become fully enveloped by their inadequacy/defect, that they are unwilling to function and live their daily lives since everything revolves around this issue. Most BDD patients generally feel inadequate about skin (moles, scars, stretchmarks, freckles, vericose veins, pigmentation, wrinkles), followed by hair (frizzy, too thin or too thick, or the obvious balding); and the nose. Genitalia is not as common, but it is the most destructive for a variety of reasons. To shed some final light on this issue: I go to a BDD specialist, and there was this young woman who saw my doctor after my appointment. She was quite attractive, and I noticed that she was missing for about a month or so. I asked my doctor, and she informed me that she had committed suicide. She suffered BDD about her calves (I don’t know exactly about what), underwent surgery, and was still dissatisfied. She took a bottle of sleeping pills and ended the tormet. I understood. I understood it as a form of euthanasia. The pain is unbearable.

At any rate, I digress, since this is a PE forum. But I am hoping that I will be able to once again experience life as I did. Unfortunately, I firmly believe that I will feel better if I can attain a nice size down under. Otherwise, the cycle will be an infinite experience of distress.

I don’t mean to shit on anyone’s parade, but I wanted to share that with you all, or at the very least with Mr. Happy, who asked me to do so.

Good luck with everything, everyone.

Mayfirst, thank you for your insightful reply. It always makes me feel a bit better about all of this, knowing that I have support. Oddly enough, I feel as though this is a safe haven for me, and I have never met any of you!

Yes, it is a confidence issue. But I am consumed by the thoughts of a woman’s past; to be more precise, a woman that I will fall in love with, and who has experienced sex with a man that was markedly larger than myself. It is not the visual aspect that concerns me, but rather the distressing fact that this woman will simply feel more physiologically satisfied by a larger penis.period. Of course, technique, emotional bonds, fulfilling foreplay, sensitivity, etc. Plays a large part as well, but that can all be learned/taught, whereas a penis has the dilemma of being the same (or around the same) size. Because of this, a woman will always remember her sexcapades with Mr. Ed, and reminisce fondly of him, particularly when I have not been able to satisfy her as completely. Thus, true love can never exist for me because there is the problem of my modest size to deal with, and the fact that I will never be the best lover a woman has had.

I’m with you Puck.

I can’t respond in depth right now, but I will.

Just think about this: the things that we imagine to be true have great power over us - true or not.

I think you probably have a lot more going for you than you realize. Take a moment to count your own blessings, as they are bound to be greater than you give them credit for.

A simple inventory of the things you like about yourself and things you know you can offer to the people around you (family, friends and lovers) is something that we should all occasionally take the time to do. Oftentimes we are far more valuable than we imagine - because we take ourselves for granted. Don’t make that mistake.

I will get into greater detail about your posts in the next day or two. Right now I have to fly…

What did I tell you, Puck? Weekend Lull. :leftie:

You are not small

Bigger than me at least

Puck,
I just got through reading this thread and can readily appreciate the depth of your agony and the comments from everyone else.
I too, to an extent, was literally destroyed by my ex-wife’s “small penis” comments as she fucked away with her lover. It has been
a long road, but, nevertheless, a very positive one for me. Just like you, I also did my research and eventually found Thunder’s Place by pure luck.
Since last year, I have slowly morphed in terms of my overall health regarding both my mental and physical health. Not only do I do my PE
but I have also changed insofar my weight is concerned, I have gone back to the gym, I am much more productive at work, I have regained
my self confidence, and, in short, my overall perspective on life has changed. I don’t see it as being soo dark.

You have come to the right place.

The kind of support you’re recieving is the reason I love Thunder’s place so much. The people here are fantastic and you’re reminded of that repeatedly.

I too suffer from BDD and I want you to know that being on this forum has helped me more than medication or seeing a psychologist has (not saying you should stop doing either, just that I had little sucess with the two). Just knowing that I could do something to change my situation made everything better, it was finally like being able to go to the gym but for my penis. Seeing my first results made things even better after that, and finally having my girlfriend actually make comments about my size increasing made things even better.

You have a lot to look forward to in the future, and with a little hard work you can achieve whatever you want; look at people like Big Girtha, he picked up 2 inches in both length and girth.

Just remember that there is more to sex than penis size, many often lose sight of this fact. Practice being a good lover first and pleasing her in other ways, as that makes intercourse that much better.

Hope any of this helps, just remember there is hope :)

House

P.S. Your starting size is above average in both length and girth, you’re measuring NBPEL, while most studies measure BPEL, so you can tack another 3/4 of an inch on to your length measurement at least when comparing to those studies (even a small fat pad usually gives another 1/2” in length)

Big Girtha, you were right! The weekend lull had passed, and what a surprise to see this kind of support.

It’s still been difficult for me to sleep soundly throughout the night and eat enough, but I’m hoping to slowly get back to the swing of things. I used to workout five days a week, and I was living a healthy life, until I was confronted with this issue of penis size. It has been about one year since, and I have lost exactly 20 lbs of muscle from not working out and not eating at all (since I’m an ectomorph, all of the weight I gained was muscle, and it was hard work and dedication that got me there). So I’m trying to get back into the swing of things, although it is easier said than done. I’m doing legal work here and there for a few bucks until I decide that I am capable of returning to a law firm (there is no way I can return at this point, since my last firm realized I was a mess). Things look bleak, but I want to get better. I just want to improve my penis size and quality as well, for obvious reasons, so that I know I can slightly improve on my self down there, and move on to other areas of my life.

SO last night I started my first session, and was wondering if anyone had any thoughts about the routine, and what I’m doing wrong.

About 10-15 minutes warm-up (I first soak a hand towel under HOT water, and wrap it around my entire chapstick (including groin), and hop into the shower, also allowing warm/hot water to splash on there as well.

25 sec stretches (I count with a quick kegel as a second) in every direction (SO, SU, SD, SL, SR). I am uncut, but I pull the skin all the way back, and reach about midshaft, whereby my grip slides up to the bottom of the glans, where I maintain the grip and feel my penis (not the skin) stretch. It felt A-OK. I ended with 5 rotary stretches, straight out, clockwise and counter.

Jelqing is where I encountered some trouble. I threw on some lube, and began to jelq at a 50% erection level, but I began to lose it a bit, and I felt as though I was stretching my skin (particularly at the base) with each jelq. Also, it was troublesome to get my other hand, in a light, over-hand OK grip, to grip the base of my penis as I was jelqing towards the glans with the other hand. I nonetheless completed the jelq routine of 75 total jelqs (two hands equaling one jelq).

I ended the routine by throwing on the towel again for a couple of minutes. I didn’t feel any pain (maybe slight soreness around the glans where I was gripping, but nothing crazy). My main question is whether I’m jelqing improperly, since I’m uncut. I’ve watched the videos, and I seem to be following closely, but I don’t know whether my anteater is problematic to jelqing (I hope not). At 50%, the jelqing felt better when I was more erect than when I was more flaccid. So I had to stop at times, jerk myself back up to something a bit more erect, and continue the jelq. Is doing this detrimental to my jelq session?

I’m finally kegeling (100) as I type. Thank you all once again.

Starting Stats:
NBPEL- 6 inches
MSEG- 5.25 inches

If you are uncut, wet jelqs can be harder to learn. Try using two hands, as explained in the PE manual.

Many uncuts find dry-jelqs easier and more useful - but they should be done at a lower intensity than wet, and for less strokes.

Actually, for dicks with a lot of shaft skin I feel Dry Jelqing works better. I am cut, but all the excess skin I’ve gained from PE has left me with a lot of shaft skin and I think uncut guys might get more results from these deep dry jelqs. Using an inverted ok grip with your dominate hand grip at the base, then slide the skin down. For me sliding skin across the inner penis gives more bang for the buck than just letting your fingers slip across the skin with lube. I call wet jelqing jacking off :leftie: With the dry jelq you can really dig in deep using a lot of pressure with thumb and index finger. Also without all the slipperiness you can also incorporate some good bends into your routine by bending your shaft around your thumb and pulling out, up, down side to side. I think we used to call these A Bends or rotary bends, or something like that.

Also, you might want to read up on rice socks. Much better for keeping warm than a wet cloth, although wet heat is also good. You can wrap the wet cloth around the rice sock and it will stay warm longer.

The good news is, sounds like you are off to a good start.
The bad news is, it’s the weekend again, and it looks like Hap may be pursuing a hot lady or he would have been all over this thread.

:couch:

Well, 6” is nothing to be ashamed of. What are your BP measurement?

Hey Puck,

I know how you feel inside. Like you I think I also have BDD but mine is a completely different story. Listen man, YOU ARE NOT SMALL!. Damn! Thats 6” and none bone pressed so I’ve got no idea how you can call it small? If that’s small then mine is tiny, eh? The truth is your exactly above average.

It’s really harsh to compare yourself to others. I also have my fair share of that. But sometimes, I realize that no matter how good looking, intelligent or big (down there) you are… there’ll always be someone out there who’s gonna be better than you. Contentment is what guys like us need seriously. And if you meet a girl who values a man’s penis more than anything else, then stop seeing that girl because she is surely a hoe. I mean, c’mon, you really have a great life ahead of you. A big future still awaits you so don’t waste your life thinking about things that are false in the first place.

You came to the right place. We are all here to help you dude. But you must help yourself first to succeed okay. Good luck in your endeavor. Happy gaining!