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Having ED issues

I haven’t PE’d since last friday probably, and my girls came over the last two nights, first night everything was fine, i got her off a few times in foreplay with my fingers, including making her squirt for the first time ever. Then we fucked, and if anything I was too excited and came early. Then last night she came over and I could not keep it up at all. I’ll have a great erection and everything until I put a condom on, then it starts to subside and by about 10-15 strokes I’m basically limp dick inside her. We tried to fuck again this morning, same thing. Really starting to freak me out as this happened the first time we tried to have sex like a month ago.

Anyone have any input?


March 7th/2012 BPEL: 6.7 EG:4.6 June 4/13 BPEL 7.00 NBPEL 6.4 EG: 4.6

Short term goal: 7.0 NBPEL EG: 4.75

Coming back from a year long layoff.

Could be the condom?

Hi Card,
I sympathize with you. I have the same problem. One time it stays the course and the next time it doesn’t. I would probably have more problems if I had to stop and futz with a condom. Being with only one woman for 35 years has given me the luxury to not use them.

I do find that edging helps some but it hasn’t been long enough to determine it as a cure. The other thing is to eliminate any mental distractions from audio etc. You somehow have to learn what the trigger is and I can’t nail mine down so I can tell you exactly how. I know the radio breaks my concentration so good sexy background music without any news and advertising has got to help.

If I find something that I can really substantiate I will certainly share it! Maybe get yourself more worked up before putting the condom on? Or have your GF put it on for you with some sexy tongue action with it? (My wife doesn’t really try to help me.)

Good luck!


Pre-PE 11/11 BPEL 5.9 EG 5.3

Started PE: 3/12 BPEL 6.0 EG 5.6 * Current: BPEL 7.0 EG 5.9 BPSL 7.4 Nut Lgth 2.5" * Goal: BPEL 7.3 EG 6.3 BPSL 8.00

Mind over matter. All of life is transitional.

Psychological Ed is not uncommon. To make things worse guys don’t talk about it much. It’s good that you are able to talk about it here and search for answers.

The simple fact that you had sex successfully initially suggests an issue in your mind that is causing a sexual barrier between you and your girlfriend when you tried again.

We put too much pressure on ourselves with head chatter (the things we say to ourselves in our head) and this can interfere in everything from studies to sex to work.

Being aware of what we are saying to ourselves in our heads is sometimes the beginning of becoming aware of what shuts us down when we really want to do something important or exciting.

Look at the difference in your mood and how your head chatter was when you successfully made love to your girlfriend in comparison to when you failed, and you have to look at your attitude toward your girlfriend also.

My initial thought was that the first time was physically and mentally so stimulating that you had no time for chatter and the experience overwhelmed you, which isn’t all bad, and the second time was important in ways only you know about.

What you ideally want is somewhere in between. No over stimulated, but not incapable.

By the way I am a therapist, certified in NLP, Cognitive Therapy and Hypnosis.


Began December 2009 at 5 7/8" length and 5" girth.

As of December 5th 2012 7 3/8" BPEL and 6 1/8" base girth.

Going for the magic 8"x6"

Yeah. I’m just not sure whats up, like all day yesterday I couldn’t really get a full erection, but then this morning when we woke up and started fooling around I was so horny and so into it, and then as soon as it came to sex it was like all completely gone. It’s fucked, this has never happened to me before until this girl.


March 7th/2012 BPEL: 6.7 EG:4.6 June 4/13 BPEL 7.00 NBPEL 6.4 EG: 4.6

Short term goal: 7.0 NBPEL EG: 4.75

Coming back from a year long layoff.

Cardinal, have you checked edging?

I’m assuming you don’t have a physical root cause to temporary ED.

Could also be porn related. I could be wrong though.

I dunno, I think it may be porn related. When I consistently edge without cumming for few days then hang out with my gf I usually have a good hard on but blow my load way to quickly, it’s like its all built up or something.


March 7th/2012 BPEL: 6.7 EG:4.6 June 4/13 BPEL 7.00 NBPEL 6.4 EG: 4.6

Short term goal: 7.0 NBPEL EG: 4.75

Coming back from a year long layoff.

I wish I knew the answer. We are definately parallel in ED. My guess is when you were successfull on that first night it was a quick ejaculation and then you went limp? A short lived erection that was lasting enough due to you being so fired and saved up. I’m lucky when my wife & I have sex twice in a weekend. There are times like last weekend where one day is good and the day before was an ED session. I can’t pin down when it will happen. I always start out fine. I sometimes get so close to dumping my load and it goes limp mid stroke and there is no way I can get it hard again. Usually my wife, if she hasn’t orgasmed already, will take the top and rub her pussy & clit on my flaccid dick until she comes. It doesn’t make me feel great but she likes it so at least one of us is pleasured. I can’t say I don’t enjoy it because it really fucks with your head. Let me know if you find a way out of this. I’m off porn and manual ejaculation. I do some edging. I’m trying different organics such as celery, maca, cayenne, garlic, stinging nettle, pumpkin seed oil one at a time for three week periods. Nothing yet. Good luck & my best to you!


Pre-PE 11/11 BPEL 5.9 EG 5.3

Started PE: 3/12 BPEL 6.0 EG 5.6 * Current: BPEL 7.0 EG 5.9 BPSL 7.4 Nut Lgth 2.5" * Goal: BPEL 7.3 EG 6.3 BPSL 8.00

Mind over matter. All of life is transitional.

Well it was like 10 minutes, with pretty extensive foreplay; like I made her cum twice before we started fucking. But yeah, fairly quick. I’m also quitting porn and manual ejaculation. It just really sucks cause she’s gone for 4 months come monday, and I’m gone this weekend. I’m literally going crazy thinking about this because this does not seem like a problem a 19 year old guy should be having. It’s way too fucked. I’m probably going to go to a doctor for an opinion next week.


March 7th/2012 BPEL: 6.7 EG:4.6 June 4/13 BPEL 7.00 NBPEL 6.4 EG: 4.6

Short term goal: 7.0 NBPEL EG: 4.75

Coming back from a year long layoff.

And it’s almost not just sex right now. Like the last week I’ve struggled to get a good erection overall, probably since last wednesday. I was getting massive wood the two weeks before that constantly. Like around when my last measurement pics were posted in my log, I was getting the best wood of my life, all day, every day. Which unfortunately coincided with her period.


March 7th/2012 BPEL: 6.7 EG:4.6 June 4/13 BPEL 7.00 NBPEL 6.4 EG: 4.6

Short term goal: 7.0 NBPEL EG: 4.75

Coming back from a year long layoff.

reddit.com/r/nofap and yourbrainonporn.com

Check those sites out. Many people have the exact same symptoms as you and have recovered by abstaining from porn and masturbation for a few months.

Originally Posted by Bruna
reddit.com/r/nofap and yourbrainonporn.com

Check those sites out. Many people have the exact same symptoms as you and have recovered by abstaining from porn and masturbation for a few months.


Do you mean masturbation or ejaculation. I assume when I edge I am masturbating. And it can make me ejaculate if I were to let it. I hope you mean ejaculation because even Jelqing is masturbation. And edging is great. I don’t want to have to quit either. :( Porn is tough to stay away from. I even question if porn is as simple as looking at any stimulating picture or words?


Pre-PE 11/11 BPEL 5.9 EG 5.3

Started PE: 3/12 BPEL 6.0 EG 5.6 * Current: BPEL 7.0 EG 5.9 BPSL 7.4 Nut Lgth 2.5" * Goal: BPEL 7.3 EG 6.3 BPSL 8.00

Mind over matter. All of life is transitional.

Originally Posted by cardinal2
Well it was like 10 minutes, with pretty extensive foreplay; like I made her cum twice before we started fucking. But yeah, fairly quick. I’m also quitting porn and manual ejaculation. It just really sucks cause she’s gone for 4 months come monday, and I’m gone this weekend. I’m literally going crazy thinking about this because this does not seem like a problem a 19 year old guy should be having. It’s way too fucked. I’m probably going to go to a doctor for an opinion next week.


Maybe it is the porn overload. Too much is not enough! I’m trying to detox from it. Maybe not enough! I remember when ED started and it seems like I did start using more slutty language with my wife. She naturally complained about it but I wouldn’t listen. I thought it made sex better but it was just feeding my addiction? Wow. I even remember masturbating and having a hard time reaching ejaculation because of ED.

You’re only 19. I hope for you this is a bump in the road. For me it’s a challenge. I don’t want to use viagra or other drugs and I don’t know that my doctor would allow it. My liver is about 80-90 % blocked by congenital fibrosis. It sucks but I’ve had it all my life and feel like I’m a miracle because I’m still alive. Most who have this die in early childhood. So yeah! I don’t think ED drugs are going to be on my menu.

If you need help by all means tell your doctor it’s driving you bananas. Maybe it is physical but it doesn’t sound like it.

Good luck Card!


Pre-PE 11/11 BPEL 5.9 EG 5.3

Started PE: 3/12 BPEL 6.0 EG 5.6 * Current: BPEL 7.0 EG 5.9 BPSL 7.4 Nut Lgth 2.5" * Goal: BPEL 7.3 EG 6.3 BPSL 8.00

Mind over matter. All of life is transitional.

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