Going for it and getting my sex drive back

My sex drive and EQ sucks. Last actual sex I had was over 2 years ago with my girlfriend at the time. Since the break up I’ve noticed steadily decreasing sex drive to the point I’m at now, complete sexual indifference. I don’t really care if I have sex or not. I’ve had a few opportunities since then, including sex with a stripper and a couple of one night stands, but each time I’ve either avoided it (I actually had to fight with the stripper to stop her trying to shove my dick in her, but that’s another story) or covered up the fact I couldn’t hold an erection at the time.

I’m pretty sure the problem isn’t physical - I masturbate around twice a week with good wood and everything seems to be in working order. I think it’s in my head.

Around about a year before I split up with my last girlfriend I discovered PE - by accident or not I can’t really remember - but looking back I think it’s to blame for a decrease in my sex drive. I have a very logical and analytical mind, and by opening it up to the world of PE it’s made me look at my dick in a negative light. I started getting stage fright when having sex with her, thinking ‘she can’t be enjoying this, look how small and skinny I look’ etc etc. Sure enough this led to a decline in our sex life and ultimately the end of the relationship.

I went through a porn phase shortly after the breakup - big increase in sex drive, boners all the time. Then after about a month I ‘got straight’ and cut it out. Throughout I’d been trying to PE with poor results. This failing made me doubt myself and my dick even more.

Fast forward to now, any confidence I had with sex has now gone. I don’t actively pursue it, and it feels like the longer I go without it the less confident I’ll become. Couple this with my mind constantly telling me my dick isn’t good enough and I’m in a bit of a problem!

Aside from this though, my life is great. I’m still enjoying student life and making leaps and bounds with my upcoming career. I live comfortably and have started to run again after a long break and loving getting some fitness back. Most importantly though, I’ve met a girl who is hopefully just what I need - she’s absolutely gorgeous yet still a virgin. Hopefully a chance for me to go in with no expectations and discover my sexual confidence again. The last thing I want is to screw it up with her because my dick let me down.

I’ve tried to start PEing again over the past few weeks and seeing some good flaccid hang. Problem is with the tape - I nearly died when I measured a 5.6 (ish) BPEL, well under my starting stats, though I was about 70% erect at the time. I don’t think my mind will let my dick get any harder when I’m measuring - stage fright again.

Here’s my take on what I need to do:

Get PEing again
Start having confidence in my dick
‘Train’ my mind to actually work with my dick instead of putting it down
(somehow) get more spontaneous boners without looking at porn.

If any one has a take on this I’d be very grateful.

Thanks

Have you checked your testorenoe levels?

As for the problem in measuring, a good idea could be using a pump for that, even a cheap one (if you want to use it just for measuring); than buy a valve gauge in any hobby store and measure your penis in the pump always with the same pressure (say 2 hg).

That’s all I can think right now. :)

Yeah I had thought about doing that, I have no idea how I’d go about getting that done though. Part of me doesn’t want to though - it’s like I’m admitting to myself I actually have a problem. I’m (almost) certain that my overthinking brain is the problem here. Then again maybe getting my T checked wouldn’t hurt.

T levels could be dropped from a lack of sex and decreased sexual confidence. You may look into getting regular sex from SOMEWHERE and it may restore you more than you are willing to admit.

How about just relaxing and letting your relationship with the virgin take it’s natural course? It should take a lot of pressure off your mind knowing she has no previous frame of reference.

I’m not sure why some people are so afraid of using porn as a PE aid. It makes the whole process a lot easier. I, for one, don’t find PEing inherently arousing or enjoyable, and porn helps me get it over with faster. If you’re looking mostly for length, however, manual stretching and hanging don’t require getting repeated erections, so work just as well or better without using porn. Pumping might be a good option too if you don’t buy into the importance of going into the tube hard.

Come on man, you can’t just start a story like that and then leave us all hanging! That just ain’t right. :)

So right. I’m trying REALLY hard to not let my head get in the way and it seems to be working. I’m seeing good signs: first time sitting watching a film - my dick might as well have not been there. Most recently - her accidentally touching the wood in my pants and going mad for it. WIN

I’m not afraid of porn per-se, but I’d love to be capable without it. Before I got into PE (and porn for that matter) I had no problem just THINKING about sex and getting rock hard wood within 15 seconds. Now it’s impossible without some kind of manual stimulation / woman / porn. I’d love to just ‘think’ myself to a boner. That’d be pretty cool. Then I know for sure my head isn’t going to play tricks with me when I’m having sex.

Not much to say really - I knew her before she stripped. I got drunk one night and went round hers. She is CRAZY though. More of an aquaintance than a friend. She wanted it bad and so in a weak moment I decided to do it. Fortunately I changed my mind in the nick of time - the baggage I’d get after shagging someone like her would be way too much. Plus I had no idea what to do with a pierced clit - it scared the shit out of me. Cracking tits though!

One sign of low T is lack of morning wood.

Here is an excellent site for ideas on raising T levels:

Boost Your Low Testosterone! Increase Low T Levels Naturally

Interestingly enough, one of the ideas put forth by this site to increase T is PE, specifically Jelqing.