Girlfriend called my cock "not fat" when trying to give compliments

I’ve always been a little insecure about my penis. I know its not small, but I’ve just always wanted it to be BIG. Something girls think about. Something they remind me about (oh my god I love your cock, I need it right now). I do realize not all girls want BIG cocks, maybe it is just society brain washing me. I haven’t gotten much of this in my life, but I’ve never gotten small comments or anything like that.

Anyways, the other day my girlfriend & I were doing a little dirty talking on the phone and I asked her what she liked about my cock. She wasn’t so fluid at describing it or giving compliments but said some nice things, then said “it’s not fat” as if that were a compliment.

I kind of paused and said you know most guys want a fat cock. “Fat” or “girthy” or “thick” or “the perfect thickness” would have felt like a compliment to me, not “not fat”. She said no no you know what I mean like its not ugly fat. I know I’m not on the girthier side (esp mid shaft, which seems to be growing thanks to PE!) and this is the one thing that has bothered me in the past. I would love to fill up a woman’s vagina more.

She’s honestly only ever said nice things about it, and says it is the perfect size for her. I know I shouldn’t be so insecure about this or push the topic with her, but deep down I just don’t believe that she thinks it’s “perfect”. Maybe she is 100% satisfied with it, but I rarely get comments about my cock specifically, which is what I really desire.

How do I get past this? I feel the need to talk about it with her but don’t want her feeling my insecurity so much so its tough to broach the subject.

If she said it as a compliment, she may well mean it’s hard on the outside, unlike some of the spongy cocks you see in porn all the time, that look like they have a layer of fat under the skin surface.

If she seems happy with your penis, why do you have to ask? Don’t worry about it. At 6.6”, she’s probably being honest when she says it’s perfect for her. Learn to deal with your insecurities. Do you need to be constantly complimented about your dick? Come on.

In any case, never ask a girl about your dick. No good can come out of it. Statistically, she’s likely to have seen bigger, unless you’re 8”+. See Invisible’s thread for more info.

Chill out Mugatu,

Keep working away at your routine, and she’ll be saying “how do I fit that in me?” just have some patience, you have here the power to change perception, both yours and hers :)

Thanks guys. Y’all right I need to chill out on this, if she’s happy she’s happy. I hate the thought of her being with a bigger guy, but that’s just something stupid to be worried about.. She chose me.

Gonna keep chipping away. Not planning on telling her about PE unless she starts to notice and seems happy about any changes. Might even just chalk it up to normal growth since I am still relatively young.

I do feel like there has been some actual change in length and base girth! MSEG gotta catch up!

I’m with firegoat.. 9/10 women I talk to rate softness as the number one turn off factor.. Shrug it off as a bad choice of words or a misunderstanding..

Yea man I wouldn’t sweat it. Keep at PE and make her afraid!