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Originally Posted by Wt282
Sorry about not replying sooner.

Anyway, it sounds like your condition at the base of your dick is stretch marks. When you are jelqing, it sounds like you are pulling the skin at the base (in addition to the exercise). That does not seem too out of the ordinary, it could mean perhaps you have tight shaft skin, and the looser it becomes, the more likely chance the marks will subside. Try stretching your shaft skin if it is tight. Also, when you are jelqing, can you feel the blood being squished and pushed forward through the inner chambers of your dick? It should feel like you are pushing water around in a water balloon. Your dick should be not hard/but not soft.

Also you might want to try doing A stretches instead of V stretches. I’ve tried both, and the A ones worked for me a lot better. Pulling the dick over your wrist with one hand (so you feel a localized stretch near your wrist), and then simultaneously pulling the dick down (as if you’re pulling it out of your body) with both hands, really does a number on that thing. Give that a try (for example: 5 second holds until you get to 50 repetitions), make sure your penis is as soft as can be though.

So is there anything that I can do to make the stretch marks go away or not be as noticeable? I just don’t want to make it worse, so what should I do to minimize it? Hopefully if my flaccid gets bigger it will fill out the skin and take away the wrinkled look.

My jelqing seems to be the way you described(blood being squished and pushed). I DO jelq at fairly low erection levels though.

I tried the A stretches and I find it really hard to do unless I grab at or close to my glans. Even when I do V stretches close to my head I’m scared cause it’s hard to do unless I’m grabbing a bit of my glans. What should I do?


Pre-PE: BPEL 6.25" NBPEL 5.8" EG 5.75 " Now: BPEL 7" NBPEL 6.5" EG 5.95"

Final goal: BPEL 7.5" NBPEL 7" EG 6"

Originally Posted by thecrow19
…I’m distracted at what she’s thinking about it.

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Originally Posted by thecrow19
I just keep thinking that if she’s been with someone 8”+ I must look so small…

If… IF? Please, make it stop. Worry about something reasonable, like taxes, tooth decay, or the price of Chiclets. But do stop beating yourself up about a f***ing abstraction.

Please. Thank you.

P.S. do you know how rare 8” dicks are? :)

Originally Posted by thecrow19
So is there anything that I can do to make the stretch marks go away or not be as noticeable? I just don’t want to make it worse, so what should I do to minimize it? Hopefully if my flaccid gets bigger it will fill out the skin and take away the wrinkled look.

Stretch marks can disappear depending on how severe they are. I’m not an expert in the realm of skin disorders though, maybe you should check what webmd says or something of the likes. If you want, post a pic of these stretch marks in the members section, maybe others can comment on if they had similar situations. Typically, people will recommend stuff like vitamin E or vitamin E infused creams. There is this cream available to order called BioSkinCare (that’s its website url too). I have a jar, but I do not use it regularly like it is directed, plus it’s pricey. Might be worth a look for the hell of it. My first suggestion would be to do the webmd search, maybe then post the pic of the marks and see if anyone can also offer any advice.

Originally Posted by thecrow19
My jelqing seems to be the way you described(blood being squished and pushed). I DO jelq at fairly low erection levels though.

So then your dick is going to be pulled out when you stroke the jelq forward, and then it will recoil and shrink back when you end each jelq stroke, am I right? If that’s the case, then you might want to get a LITTLE bit harder. So your dick feels like a tube of toothpaste, or a thawed out tube of dough.

Originally Posted by thecrow19
I tried the A stretches and I find it really hard to do unless I grab at or close to my glans. Even when I do V stretches close to my head I’m scared cause it’s hard to do unless I’m grabbing a bit of my glans. What should I do?

How are you gripping for the A stretches? Here is how I grip for mine (I will try to instruct you).

1. Hold your gripping hand (I use my right) straight out in front of you at the computer screen (elbow is bent) like you are about to karate chop it. Fingers are in line next to each other, and hand is flat.

2. Make an OK sign using your first TWO fingers. Index and middle finger. Curl them down and bring them to touch the thumb. Your thumb should now be covering the finger nails of these two fingers.

3. Your ring finger and little finger will curl slightly to follow the motion of the other fingers, but just let them hang out there.

4. Hold this OK sign straight out in front of you and position it so the thumb knuckle (where it connects into your hand) is at the bottom - straight down.

5. Now that you are locked in this grip, I want you to push your two fingers AGAINST your thumb, but also PUSH DOWN on your fingers with the thumb. It’s essentially making a TIGHT grip, but this is transferring a lot of the grip strength AWAY from the penis, so you are not going to crush it. The beauty of this grip is that you can CHANGE the amount of pressure each finger is giving. More on that in the next step.

6. Now place this grip around the flaccid penis. I try to have it so both fingers are just behind the glans, but the middle finger slides up a bit to get comfortable. My middle finger covers the bottom crest of my glans, but my index finger is around the skin behind the glans going towards my body. Since my middle finger covers a small bit of my glans, I lighten the pressure a bit, so I use more pressure on my index finger part of the grip. To lighten the pressure, you just relax the finger pushing against the thumb a little.

7. If you keep those fingers pushing against the thumb, and the thumb is pushing back on the fingers, then you can slowly tighten the grip down on your dick by relaxing the finger’s pushing strength against the thumb. Try it and let me know how it goes. It does sound like a lot to read, but I tried to be really really descriptive. It should take you only a few seconds to set this up, but just keep that whole grip/pressure thing in your mind.

Try it out. It took me about 2 weeks of solid practice BEFORE I felt a good stretch with the A stretches. I do not use the above mentioned grip with any other stretch - just the A’s.


PEing since Jan 1st, 2003

Unless your mrs has been with a shed load of men I doubt she has even seen a 7 inch cock. Big cocks are actually quite rare. You have to talk to your woman about your insecurities. I did with mine and now I feel like a new man. The worst case is that she has been with someone the same size as you, but relax because if you couldn’t make her happy you would know,trust me. Keep on with your PE its still early days and one day you will feel proud of what you have. You are by no means small. Porn doesn’t help us fellas. Good luck.

Come on! I would love to have your girth, and length, so quit whining, and… *takes a big breath* GO DO YOUR JELQS LIKE A GOOD BOY!

:-)

Really, though, think positive, listen to all the things people told you here, and don’t despair!


PE isn't a chore. PE is a lifestyle.

If you feel down sometimes, come live inside my mind. I promise you'll enjoy the experience.

This is a good thread, I may give A stretches a go tonight.

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I think my girlfriend and I are done so I’m in the dumps right now.

wt282, thanks for the suggestions. The description helped out a lot.


Pre-PE: BPEL 6.25" NBPEL 5.8" EG 5.75 " Now: BPEL 7" NBPEL 6.5" EG 5.95"

Final goal: BPEL 7.5" NBPEL 7" EG 6"

thecrow, don’t dude I’ve just come out of a relationship, think of the other women out there.

Originally Posted by Lord Harris
Thecrow, don’t dude I’ve just come out of a relationship, think of the other women out there.

Yeah girth is where it is at and you do not lack there.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

I’m so bummed right now. I love her so much but we aren’t working. Jealousy was brought into our relationship early on and I think it’s killing it.

She even hit me the other day over “tv crushes”. She says that I have too many “tv crushes” as in finding people attractive on tv. I’ve never once said that I found anybody attractive or had a “crush” on anyone in real life. But when she asks if I find certain people on tv attractive then I don’t lie. So she asked me if I ever had a crush on a girl in the movie and I said “maybe years ago but not now”. She then told me that she doesn’t know why she’s with me and that she was turned off by me. I got a little upset that she said that. Didn’t say anything to her but she could tell that her saying those things bothered me. Then a fight ensued where she said that what she needs from me is to comfort her over stuff like that. But she insulted ME and if I have to comfort her over that. Then probably anytime that I find someone attractive on tv I’m going to have to comfort her. It just seemed ridiculous to me. She finds people attractive too. So I told her that and she got so mad that she hit me. Her jealousy just seems retarded to me. Maybe I’m wrong here.

I’m so bummed right now. The thoughts of hooking up with someone new is scary. I couldn’t get a good erection for about 2 months based on size insecurity with her. I don’t want to go through that again.


Pre-PE: BPEL 6.25" NBPEL 5.8" EG 5.75 " Now: BPEL 7" NBPEL 6.5" EG 5.95"

Final goal: BPEL 7.5" NBPEL 7" EG 6"

Originally Posted by thecrow19
Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I think my girlfriend and I are done so I’m in the dumps right now.

wt282, thanks for the suggestions. The description helped out a lot.

Thanks man, glad to help out. Just remember, it took me about a week before I was able to practice the grip to get comfortable, and also effectively feel a good stretch from the A stretch. I set a month aside (yes a month) and figured it would take that long of trying it out before I would feel anything. So don’t worry just yet, doing these stretches is like learning a new skill, give it plenty of time to learn the technique.

As for the girlfriend situation, take it on the bright side. I know it’s easy for me to say, but I’m a 3rd party. Now that you are single, focus on PE 100%. Learn these stretches, write out a good routine (does not have to be super complicated either), and get to it.

Oh and if you need to vent about this chick, the forums here have been through those types of posts many times.


PEing since Jan 1st, 2003

I’m having a panic attack right now I think. I went two years without having sex based on the insecurity of my size and it took two months for the sex life to straighten out. I’m a confident guy in most areas of my life but that. I don’t want to go another 2 yrs. And I know you’ll probably respond by telling me that I’m not small. But seriously, not having sex for two years shows that I do have serious size anxiety. I don’t know what to do.


Pre-PE: BPEL 6.25" NBPEL 5.8" EG 5.75 " Now: BPEL 7" NBPEL 6.5" EG 5.95"

Final goal: BPEL 7.5" NBPEL 7" EG 6"

Try not having sex ever, when you had your first chance at 14 and now are 19, because you were afraid what the girl would say. At least you have enough courage to use it.


August 2008: NBPEL 4"

Me and you crow are pretty much identical size wise. I think I have the same problem as you, our girths are big and they make our dicks look kind of stubby. I get that as well. I would happily trade not another mm of girth in my entire PE career for an 1.5” of length.

Originally Posted by thecrow19
I’m having a panic attack right now I think. I went two years without having sex based on the insecurity of my size and it took two months for the sex life to straighten out. I’m a confident guy in most areas of my life but that. I don’t want to go another 2 yrs. And I know you’ll probably respond by telling me that I’m not small. But seriously, not having sex for two years shows that I do have serious size anxiety. I don’t know what to do.


You asked for it: You're NOT small! You’re in at least the top 25% in length and top 10% in girth. I can understand that your extreme thickness might make your penis seem disproportionate but that’s not a sufficient reason to allow insecurity to take over your life to that extent.

If your insecurity has to do with being considered small by a girl, then that’s an unwarranted fear at your size. Taking a look at What Are The Odds?: The Experienced Woman might help you get a more realistic view of your situation. In both length and girth, the probability of you falling in the bottom three for a typical girl (one with 10 prior partners) is effectively 0%. In fact, your odds of coming in the top three in length and girth are over 83% and 99% respectively. Since a woman will base her perceptions of what is “small” by comparing against per past partners, coming in the top three will place you in her “big” camp.

Hope that helps. Perhaps if you articulate more clearly how your size insecurity manifests itself, we might be able to offer more suggestions.

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