To begin, I never said, “Do not watch porn.” I like porn and so does my wife. It does bring an additional element to our sex lives. I also watch “the X-Files” for entertainment. I do not allow either of these forms of entertainment to inform my impression of the world. The key to my point about perception is understanding how we subconsciously base our comparisons around a reference point. Simply put, you must be able to adequately separate entertainment from the normal distribution as these shape your expectations and ultimately your satisfaction.
I really do pity porno actors; they’re personal lives must be tough. Imagine being in the top 97% of distribution (hung like a horse), meeting the love of your life, and she cannot accept you comfortably. Booooo on that! I know someone like this, except he isn’t a pornstar, and has been outright rejected because he is too big. He doesn’t feel lucky to have what so many on this forum strive for. No PE, no surgery, just genetics.
Swinging is not for everyone; we have been married 10 years, 4 kids, you get the idea. Invariably, some people do it for the wrong reasons, and yes, it can seriously damage and otherwise healthy relationship - I have seen it happen.
By nature, the “lifestyle” is very open and we never met anyone who was bashful about being clothed. The mean size length is around 6” while the girth varied greatly. For some reason, discussion of girth is much less prevalent than length. What I observe from couples who enjoy 2+ people occurs in patterns. This part of my commentary is not scientific, just my personal observations. The sample of people I discuss here are approximately 30-40 years of age and demographically diverse. Pretty much the only thing these people have in common is that they are sexual deviants (such as I’m).
If the remainder of this section is too graphic for honest discourse, please let me know, no offense is intended and I will not be offended if it is removed. I did my best to be clean while getting the point across.
What I observe from couples who enjoy 2+ people occurs in patterns. This part of my commentary is not scientific, just my personal observations. In a MFM scenario, the women I have known typically enjoy one larger (6-8”) and one slightly less (4-6”). This accommodates more sexual preferences of the female; not only are more activities physically possible, but different types of men provide variety. Make sense? This is a big deal to women I have known (including the Mrs.). However, in a FMF scenario, I have noticed the tendency to desire more man. Based on conversations, I attribute this tendency to wanting to achieve a feeling of “if we are gonna be act like pornstars, let’s go all the way.” This dynamic occurs in equally distributed foursomes as well, to a lesser extent. At multiple couple parties, I have not taken the time to make observations as I am extremely busy. And yes, occasionally there is a fellow with a huge tool, and yes, he receives significant attention. So what? I have never known anyone to feel left out. We’re just closet pervs who get out one weekend a month.
By no means is this commentary definitive, just my experiences. I see patterns when I do not want to. But this should illustrate how everyone fits in, at least as it relates to “Forum vs. Reality.” I’d love to know what female forum members think about this post as well.