Erections and Jelqing.

I have been at the jelqing exercises for a few weeks now, following a strict “newbie” schedule. The only issue I have encountered is avoiding a full erection. Any tips on how to maintain the certain levels suggested?

Stick with the program. Soon you will get used to the jelqing sensation and your erections will stay in the safe range.

Thank you! Patience really is key!

Jusy keep at it. If you get to excited just stop and calm down. You dont have to finish the set. Just stop, calm down, get to your gauge and go from there. In time things will get better

Alright, thank you, with that being said I had thought about stopping and waiting to calm down but I was worried this would halt progress seeing as how I wasn’t staying consistent. Should I just add more steps?

I.e. Instead of attempting normal rep count and facing this erection hindrance, attempt less reps per session but more sessions?

Hi Granted

I think you are still in the first phase of conditioning your dick. So the issue could be more a “dick-mental” thing. With that I mean your dick does not yet distinct between “work” (=PE) or “play” (=sex) mode. As soon as he feels stimulation, tadaa, there he goes stiff.

Now as the dick has a head but no brain (although he well has a mind of his own, but that’s another story) the source of the “problem” is… your own brain. It may sound a bit rude but that’s the way I see it. The conditioning may come from the past, where the wiring has been established that a hand touches your dick this automatically means play time as sex or masturbation.

So in my opinion the key question is how to rewire your own brain so that it can make a distinction between PE and sexual stimulation.

Just some ideas:

- A porn free environment. PE means no porn.

- Try to learn (outside of the PE routine) to find how to keep yourself at a certain erection level. How light can the stimulation be to make you hard? How light can the stimulation be to NOT make you harder? Then use the second way during jelqing.

- Another simple trick is the glans squeeze. When your dick gets too hard, just slightly pinch the glans with two fingers, that reduces the excitement level by a little. Like giving a kid a very light tap on the hand just before it’s touching the hot stove and telling him “no, don’t do that”. Gently, but strict. Educate your dick!

- Just keep on with the routine you have. Count on time. It will change. Be patient.

- Whatever you do, just do it with less force for a moment until you feel your dick has learned the distinction between work and play. So keep the same routine, but just with less manual force.

So these are just some ideas. Maybe one of those works for your situation.

Happy gaining

Richard

Well Richard said most of what can be said about it. I just want to add this. Edge. Learn to love it. Once you can feel where you are on the scale from 1 to10 and you do it regularly, then you will gain much more control over your penis. I’m at a level where I can have sex for hours just by focusing on where I am on the scale. But it took years to get there. You don’t get anything fast in PE. It all takes hard work and time.

Richard65,
Thank you for the reply! What a great break down! I don’t find it rude to say it’s in my brain; being young makes most things inherently about play. Working on separating the two will be my primary focus in order to achieve success.
The gland pinch seems to be effective as well as going at it a bit less vigorously. Removing porn is something I had considered but found other forums saying it played no role. Maybe they didn’t think of people like me 😂

Pleasingthewife,
Again thank you for the reply.
Controlling the length of sex often isn’t the issue. I have edged for as long as I have jacked off, effective and fun.

My primary concern with the erections was simply to focus on length gains. For now my girth is plenty enough to please both myself and my partner. Length is something I’d love to grow for my own personal pride.

Glad to hear that Granted.

Me myself is also in PE purely for my own gains. The wife doesn’t want anything to do with sex any more for medical reasons. So its just purely to take the edge off of my hornyness so I don’t cheat. Also I have a female friend that encouraging me to keep going. o its nice to have someone motivating you to keep going.

Just stop and wait for the erection to subside some. If you jelq fully erect don’t be as strong and listen to your penis. You shouldn’t feel an enormous amount of pressure, ever really, while jelquing.

It’s great to hear different people’s reasons. One would think that on a site like this it would all be purely for enlargement. I really don’t want to dig deep into your personal life; although I think it’s respectable to hear you remaining faithful.
I do find you to be lucky and if anything someone I would want to mimic. Honestly jealous of the fact you have a friend you can be so open about this with. Although I have told a selected few people about this exercise I could never see them motivating me to continue.

Thank you for the enlightenment!

This is a great price of advice, I’m sure it’s been said a thousand times over this website, but, being relatively new to the forums I haven’t come across this. I was under the impression one would want higher than comfortable pressure. This is a mistake I have been making obviously.

So is this more about pulling the skin or forcing blood to engorge and stretch?
Although videos are provided with decent descriptions at some points it’s rather overwhelming reading the endless and sometimes conflicting messages. I am to the understanding that I have to find my own methods and do what I’m comfortable with. Patience is key, I’ve already learned that!

Thank you for reaching out! It’s great to have found such a comfortable place to ask questions and share advice!

So many great things said already I can’t add much except..

I think about work or chores or shopping or other things I ain’t too fond of.

The second I think “damn I’m getting big” I go to defcon 4 and have to go hands off until mr happy calms down

Zeek1375,
Haha that’s honestly what I’ve always thought of for my yearly physicals. The last thing I want is to poke my doctors eye out when he’s feeling around.
I’ve used it those mind tricks before. They work most of the time but since I’m cut I have to use a lube and honestly after awhile I find it hard to get distracted from the intense feeling.

Thank you for the input!

Granted. Here are some tips to calm yourself down when you feel like you are going to lose it. First, stop. You can give your penis a squeeze just below the glands (head) to calm thing down but sometimes this pushes you over the edge. Other techniques is focus on your breathing. Relax your buttocks, and focus on breathing from your stomach and pelvis. If this still doesn’t help you, then take your finger and massage your perineum (the area between your testicles and anus) while doing a few kegels.

Hope this helps.