Erection problems when being intimate with others

Hello,

I’m having problems getting fully erect when I’m getting intimate with another person and it’s getting extremely frustrating :(

I wanted to reach out for advice if this is an actual medical problem(should go to a doctor) or if it’s in my head(thinking too much) or lack of sexual history.
I’m also on the smaller end with my penis being 5 inches erect and not a lot of girth.
Height 5’10 Weight 185 – Athletic body type

I haven’t had any intimacy with anyone until recently (I’m currently 27) because I was always ashamed of being too small and I’m also gay (but in the closet) and only recently just started exploring with men.

When masturbating on my own watching porn, blood quickly flows to my penis and gets hard/thicker and I’m actually satisfied with that size/thickness during the solo masturbation. But, when I’m with other men I don’t get as hard or as strong as I do when I’m alone. With that being said, I still can get an erection and end-up ejaculating - but my penis isn’t ever fully erect.

I’ve also found myself thinking of why I’m not getting hard and not being able to enjoy the moment. The guy I’m currently dating says he loves my penis size and that I AM getting hard…but he has yet to see me fully hard..

I wanted to get some feedback if you all think this maybe a health-related issue OR something I can work on myself with some penis exercises OR because of the lack of sex in the past my penis needs to be more comfortable with another person?

Please help – any suggestions or thoughts is much appreciated and thank you!

The fact that when you are alone you gain satisfactory Eq leans strongly towards this being emotional. The immediate corrective action is that when you are with your partner you need to attack and realize all that what you have to give is more than just your cock. Then unleash your sabre without fear.

However, when you execute it has to be real, so you might need to look into yourself and address whatever it is that you personally have control over and want to change.

Also, while you are doing all that, sex is no time to have self reflection, there is plenty of time for that. So when the moment presents itself, give that short blip in time everything that you got. Ask questions later.

And don’t hold yourself accountable for not being perfect, lol, then we would all be in jail.

God speed.

I’d say that if you can get fully erect when looking at porn, it’s not a physical problem, but more likely something psychological in nature. If you are getting morning wood regularly then that would be another indicator there there isn’t anything wrong physically.

Your partner says he’s pleased with your size, but for some reason maybe you don’t totally believe him. It may be a size anxiety issue for you which I think will gradually subside over time as you get more comfortable in the relationship. Again, my guess is that it’s not something physical since you are in fact able to obtain full erections.

You’re lucky that you have such a compatible partner.

Good luck, I’m sure it will work itself out over time.

The problem is PORN. You are experiencing what is the earliest stage of porn induced erectile dysfunction. Trust me I’ve been there and it took me 5 years to realize the cause. I started with your symptoms and it eventually leads to you even having weak erections during the time you watch porn until you can’t even get hard watching the most hardcore stuff you can find. Stop the porn and your problem will go away. I remember going through your stage like it was yesterday. Rock hard erections while watching porn but with an actual girl I wasn’t half as turned on (no matter how sexy she was) as when I watched porn. If you think this worries you now then stop before it turns into full blown ED.