EQ Help?

I have an issue with my EQ. I don’t know why or what may have caused it. I’m thinking It may be performance anxiety based. My real question is this:

What supplements/drugs can I take for a stronger, natural erection?

My performance anxiety is probably caused by my ex girlfriend. We were together for four years. (Me being 18, that’s a long time.) I lost my virginity to this girl as she lost hers to me. We’d have sex all the time. Sometimes three or four times a day. And that’s on a bad day. Well after four years of being together, I guess she got a little bored in the relationship, or maybe she just wanted to try new things. She cheated on me with a friend of mine. He was the school’s player, you know the type. He’s black, by the way.

Well she spread around the school that I had a little dick and I sucked in bed. I NEVER said one negative word about her. In my mind that gave some strength to the “black guy” stereotypes. I actually began to believe that I had a little dick and I sucked in bed. Well we broke up at the beginning of senior year in high school, during football season. Well I started taking creatine and some testosterone boosters to bulk up a bit so I’d play a little better. I gained a bunch of weight, almost to 170 lbs. More weight equals more fat. Less circulation? Maybe.

So I was depressed, self conscious, and unhealthy. Well I quit football and started playing soccer. After about 6 months of taking the testosterone boosters I stopped because I was no longer trying to gain weight. I got another girlfriend (a little too soon) but we never had sex or anything really sexual, so I don’t know if I was having erection problems yet. We ended up breaking up pretty quickly. I was also pretty heavy into porn during this time because she was a hell of a tease but never let me do anything. Porn induced ED? Maybe.

About 6 months after stopping the testosterone boosters a group of friends and I went camping one weekend and there was a girl there. She obviously wanted me. At this time I was blissfully unaware that I had an ED issue. So, of course I went to the cabin with her. After hours of trying to get it up and failing, my ego was shattered. I told her I didn’t know what was up and we could try again the next night. Well, that didn’t turn out so well either. An exact repeat of the previous night.

Well a while after that I was talking to another girl from the trip and she asked how girl #1 was in bed and I said I didn’t know. I told her I wasn’t feeling it during the camping trip and that’s why we didn’t have sex. She said maybe it’s because I need more than physical attraction to get it up. I didn’t argue, though I wasn’t too sure.

Girl #2 and I got together not too long after that conversation. She’s black by the way. After a few heavy make-out sessions I decided to tell her about my ED issues. She was pretty understanding about the whole situation, and told me sex just wouldn’t be a big part of our relationship. That was a huge blow to my ego. Well after a while, we were getting pretty heated in my car one day when she unzipped my shorts and whipped my dick into her mouth. I got so hard so fast that she gagged. Lol! It was amazing!

Well a few minutes later you can imagine what was going through my mind. We both ended up butt naked, and just as I was about to put it in the thought crossed my mind, “She’s been with black guys before. I’m not big enough.” And just like that, I was softer than butter in the summer sun.

I had to explain to her it wasn’t her fault, and she started crying. I was holding back tears myself. We just laid there for an hour cuddling naked, and I kept apologizing and she kept telling me it was okay. I knew in my heart it wasn’t.

A month went by, and a few more failed attempts passed. One day in the car again, she was sucking me off. I was hard as can be. She reached up to my face and covered my eyes with the shirt I had taken off. I was confused and thinking “what the hell is this girl into?” She uncovered my eyes and I saw her straddling me. She reached between her legs, grabbed my dick, and sank down on it. I was still hard!

Well after a while, I wasn’t as hard as I was in the beginning. I could feel my dick fading with every thrust. I managed to cum before I completely lost it. She was completely satisfied, or so she said.

The other night she stayed the night at my house. This time, I stayed hard for a good while, but I started fading again. I could feel it. I’d play it off by acting like I slipped out and shed suck on it for a minute and Id be good for another two minutes or so before I’d fade again.

I don’t know why I’m having ED issues. But now I know its not physiological. Wanted to get you guys opinion on what I should do, or if I should take any supplements or drugs to make sure I can stay hard for hours. I don’t want anything like Cialis or Viagra, I just want better EQ. Help?

Thanks guys, and sorry for writing so much.

First get the color of skin out of your mind. I bet that helps a lot.

In my opinion, any kind of anxiety, stress (which is a big one) can effect you. Sometimes if you let your mind wounder you will loose it. I do not think Cialis or Viagra will help. Plus the high cost. Try some herbs for stress. Holy Basel is a good one.

You’re having ED issues because you put unknown crap in your body and messed up your system.

There’s no such thing as a “Testosterone Booster”, it simply doesn’t exist. Either you take exogenous Test of you make due with your natural production. Nothing can “boost” natural production, except herbs and stuff that may give marginal results to some people.

That being said, you probably used some kinda prohormone crap, which has shut down your natural production. Since you didn’t know what you were doing, you didn’t run any post cycle therapy, and now you’re shut down with zero libido until your natural production returns. Get some Nolvadex and Clomid to get things going again. PM me for doses if you want to.

Yes, your ED is caused by your physiological issues. It plays a fundamental role when it comes to EQ.

Porn can reduce your libido if you abuse of it. By the way, it’s dangerous for your sexual fantasies’ power. You’ll feel situations in a hornier way without watching it.

Anyway, You’re not small at all. BPEL 6.8” x 4.5” is way above average in length and a little less than average in girth, so You shouldn’t feel insicure about your size.

Yeah, what kind of ‘testosterone booster’ did you put in your body?

You need to heal your mind before your dink is going to work right. Performance anxiety is in your head. If you cant get anywhere then try cialis, a antidepressant/anti anxiety med, or get drunk.

You need the girl to be aggressive and to reassure you apparently, so tell her that. Once you relax and enjoy the moment your dink will be fine.

Your too young. I’m willing to bet it’s mostly psychological not a physical problem.

I’m sure that’s one problem. She said I was bigger than any of her ex’s, but it’s just ingrained into my head from my ex. I’ll work on it though, cause I know that confidence is an important factor.

I actually talked to my current girlfriend about the whole porn thing. I told her it might be the cause, so I stopped watching porn like a month and a half ago. I felt extremely horny for the first two and a half weeks, but now I kind of feel detached from the situation. Like sex feels good, its just not like it used to be. Its like I can think clearly as if I’m not having sex. I used to get lost in it and nothing could take my attention. Now I can think about what I’m going to do the next day. Albeit when I do lose focus I start to lose my erection.. Hmm. I hadn’t realized that before.

My friend bought it and just gave me the pills. I think it was called Nugenix or something.

Its a little weird asking her to be more aggressive. I’ll talk to her about it, and see what she thinks. I just don’t want her to think I’m trying to be lazy in bed or I’m being selfish.

You could show her this thread and let her read it and understand a little better what’s going on with you.

Frosty, I was a body builder for years, and used all kinds of junk to get big. It’s one of the worst things, and a typical side effect, to get ED. How long have you been off the testosterone boosters? Also, I agree with several of the comments here regarding porn. I got into porn as well, and what I learned is that it makes men feel inferior. You’re measurements are great! Get rid of the testosterone pills and the porn, and I believe you’ll be fine soon! Hang in there!

While we are very open with one another, I don’t know if she’d be crazy about me doing PE for size. I’ll probably tell her anyways. I don’t like hiding things.