Do you tell your girlfriend/wife?

I don’t currently have a girlfriend, but I don’t think I would tell them even if I did. Same if I was married. I don’t believe in full disclosure with anyone. There is no need for it. If she catches you doing it, explain what you are doing. If she finds your equipment explain it. But don’t openly come out and say your yanking on your dick to make it bigger. Whether true or not, it will look to them like you are insecure about your unit. This either ends up as “little dick” ammo later on, or her feeling she is the problem and reason why you think you aren’t enough for her. Women don’t consider that you may be doing this for yourself, or potentially your next ex girlfriend too. They are self centered, just like we are.

The term breeder doesn’t bother me, but neither do cracker or whatever else.

This thread has certainly taken a couple left turns … but the responses to what appears to be a simple question have occupied my thoughts since I read it.

I would like to redact my previous position and declare a new one.

The practical answer to the question is that it is most definitely better to tell your significant-other about your PE efforts … if you trust them not to abuse the knowledge.

If on the other hand, you cannot trust them (particularly if they are your wife) then don’t tell them … but recognize that this is a clear indication that there is a much bigger problem than penis extension that you need to turn your attention towards.

As you can probably guess … this is the situation in which I find myself. After some sober reflection, I strongly suspect that ones ability to give the necessary focus to PE will never reach its potential if a big chunk of your brain-space is cluttered with the lack of trust that exists in your relationship.

Damn-it … Now I need to find another forum to help solve the bigger problem

So many mixed opinions..

Fortunately her circle of friends are not involved with my friends, so I feel like if we did break up I wouldn’t have to worry about everyone knowing

And I agree that the main reason the girl will think its bad is that she feels its for others girls. My girl has mentioned many times (when she is annoyed) how I go to the gym so girls will like me.

And for the ideal ‘honest relationship’ for me is far from telling each other absolutely everything, we have all made mistakes in the past.. Why would you tell your girl details about the previous girl, or what you got up to together, or what you said to your mates one time, or how you met this girl who is really smart and pretty. There’s lying and there’s not telling everything she doesn’t need to know.

But I’m not liking having red dots on my dick and only having sex in the dark. I had to refuse a blowjob the other day cause it was still light.. Ridiculous. As someone mentioned, gonna tell her its for erection quality, like a gym for the dick.

Out of interest, for the people who told their partners - are your partners ever displeased by the red dots/blood marks on your dick? It does look kind of unhealthy.. Not handsome sometimes.

Mistrusting someone about telling them about PE is vastly different than general trust between partners. When I first met my wife I was 190 lbs and about 8% bodyfat, and she said that I looked to hard and tight all the time, and I think back and realize that she might have been a little put off by all the other women (who ever she thinks they are) and so, over time, I’ve put on a few pounds to the point where I feel uncomfortable and she makes comments about me skipping meals and so on.

If she found out that I had an extra inch or so of dick to work with, she would put that in the “for the other women” category and get upset and not want me doing such things.

Call it control if you will, but everyone has issues, and I love the girl to death and so I won’t upset her by trying to be liberal or open or whatever, knowing that she is likely to take it the wrong way. I don’t call it a lack of closeness, or or openness, merely a care for her feelings.

She doesn’t play country music in the house for similar reasons. Sh*t gives me a headache.

For us it’s the little things we consider about eachother that work, not that we can accept everything across the board.

It’s our 4th anniversary on Saturday, we must be doing something right.

Printman, as a therapist one has to make a distinction between private and personal and necessary to share in a relationship. I do couple work, and one can see clearly when people have divergent values that are destructive as opposed to differences of opinion that can be worked with. I hope you can work through your problems together.

I’ll accept that my modified viewpoint is a bit one dimensional …

If I may go a step further printman, I would suggest that we can generalize all we want, but those generalizations break down when we try to force-fit them onto how another person should behave or react.

We read here a variety of viewpoints about whether we should tell our partner about PE, and those who have told their partner and receive acceptance and help because of it, are lucky but because one couple embrace the PE process together, doesn’t mean the next couple will.

Frankly I would like to have my wife accept my PE, but just because I would like it doesn’t mean I should put it on her to accept that part of my behaviour. That would be selfish on my part.

If you need proof of this, search for the thread by me titled “Girlfriend is on Thunders.” THAT was a nightmare!!!

I can tell her! It’s not the point. The point is I’m not ready to disclose this to anyone close to me. I love her and she may think worse of me. I am not good at taking criticism from her or being put down. So life goes on for now, guys.

A few years ago when I was dating this girl, who I was with for four years, I told her straight up that I was doing PE and she was completely fine with it. She was trying to do some sort of breast exercises to get her cans bigger so its not really something she could hate on. Anyway I think if you are in one of those relationships with a girlfriend, wife, or even a close friend you should just go with your gut feeling. A girl gets ready for sometimes hours at a time just to leave the house, people work out because they are insecure about themselves, so who should really care if we PE because we are a little insecure about our dick sizes.

You keep asking people not to bring it up again. Take your own advice and let it die, permanently. Or please leave and stay at pegym; your choice.

“Damn-it … Now I need to find another forum to help solve the bigger problem”
No we don’t! It’s still our choice and freedom! I’ll give up my penis when they pry my cold dead fingers from around it! Amen.

I think exactly as you ,if don’t need to tell people things that are personal ,even if it’s your girlfriend.

I think the most accurate statement made so far is it depends on the relationship and the personalities of the two people in that relationship. What I mean by personalities is we all have our boundaries we like to keep private even from our loved ones. An example. As stated before I told my woman about PE and yet will pretty much never discuss my finances with her. Those are private to me. That may seem odd to some but I have my reasons and they have nothing to do with hiding it from her.

If anyone wants to know I will tell the story of how the whole subject of PE came up because I just remembered it. The bottom line is I was fine with it and she was fine with it.

Sure I have. I tell my girlfriend everything that won’t hurt her feelings (for example I wouldn’t tell her that she has some extra weight, etc.) and is, of course, true.
I don’t find any harm in that.

I’ve been so inconsistent with PE for the last two years that even if she had some expectations for my dick she’s certainly forgotten about them now. So she’ll most definitely feel and be suprised at those extra 3 inches someday soon. :p