Depression and PE
Hi, (Sorry for the long boring saga)
Well, this may be harder for me than anyone else. I don’t think I will go into it (esp not in my first post), but I am a very stressed person (as a result, I have a small sexual desire at times) and have been for years. I live with a frown and worry about an aspect of my life.
Recently, I’ve had friends talk about their size, which made me examine myself - yep, I have yet another problem in my life. I am unhappy with my size/length/width. I don’t know how I never noticed it before.
I’ve never masturbated in my life, so I’m sure that has something to do with it. I found a PE guide in Spanish a while ago and started it. I kept it going for a month. It’s hard as I had to do the stretching in bed before I sleep (say 11pm), then wake up 5am to do the jelqing before my mother wakes up. I needed porn every time so I really needed the privacy.
I used to watch porn on the PC, pause it, and then “top up” my erection with my own mental image of sex (saving me having to go back to the PC every few seconds). But after that month, I noticed that while trying to jelq, my erection went down quickly. My mental images weren’t vivid enough. Jelqing kinda just flopped on me. Waiting and then coming back did nothing. I did notice some semen, so perhaps cumming + not having vivid images in my head doomed the session.
I lost sexual desire soon after (or maybe that was the cause of the erections going down?), so I gave PE a break of a week. Last week, I thought: if I could keep doing the stretching this week, that’s better than nothing. But I want to try it all again so I will tomorrow.
So I guess my questions are:
- Does stretching work alone for length? (E.g. Can jelqing take a break of some period but keep the other stuff going)
- Does lengthening (stretching) only work with “widening” (jelqing)?
- While stretching, if you lose grip, do you continue on from where you left off or restart? I’m gonna try gloves this time anyway (before I used my sock-like material boxers to grip myself).
- What helps your jelqing and mental imaging/stimulous/etc? Sometimes I can’t think of a specific stimulous so my imagination is kinda “weak”, hazy, unclear..
- Since I have already done a month, should I consider myself a “continuer” or a “newbie” (I.e. Start back from the basics?)
- If my jelqing isn’t going too well (or even if finally it does) can I stretch as much as possible for length or should I keep to the recommended times?
- I hold the head while stretching - I hope it’s not the tip I should be holding. My grip is: use index and middle finger and thumb forming a ring just where the head starts, so technically, I am grabbing the shaft a little. Any tips?
- I was under the impression that each excercise could have time (work, travel, dinner, etc) between them?
I admit that I did not do the hot compress often. This time round I am going to do the whole thing properly (if I don’t have the same jelqing flop situation), including the PC clamps (holding and releasing like cutting off your peeing, right?).
This and my other cause of depression is all that’s on my mind. I need it to work this time. I am in my 20’s so I’m already LATE.
PS: method I followed:
- Stretch for 5 mins forward (increasing stretch each min.), 1 min rest, 30 twirls. Repeat for left, right, up, down. One min stretch with 10 tugs.
- Normal jelqing (when I can).
Thanks so much.
Last edited by nomeconocen : 08-06-2006 at .