I can understand your problem, I really can because I used to be the same. Literally. Reading your post made me remember how frustrating it was for me. So I would really like to help you get over your problem because I know how much it can mess with your head.
First of all - concerning your girlfriend - you need to have an honest talk with her. Tell her that you have a problem, and that you would like her to help you overcome it because you want both of you to enjoy sex the most. I am sure she won’t mind that.
Second - and this is the most important - RELAX!!! I suppose that you are very frustrated about it, so when someone says sex you think how you cum early; when you look at porn or movies, you can’t imagine yourself fucking for that long. Well, get these wrong ideas out of your head. Right now. Because you know what? Sure, kegels can help, so can jerking off before, but what it really comes down is your head. The one on your shoulders. You need to start making some new neural pathways between your cock and your head my friend.
Start with masturbation. When you are alone and jerking off, don’t rush things, and don’t do it with a purpose to ejaculate. Do it for the sheer pleasure of playing with your cock. You can cum or not, it doesn’t make a difference. The main thing is that you don’t focus on the urge to cum.
Next, when you are with your girl, don’t feel pressured to have sex. Tell her to jerk you off, and then pay attention to how you feel, because it’s different when you play with your cock and when someone else does it. But the most important thing is - don’t think to yourself ” oh I have to try not to ejaculate ” or “oh no here it comes” or ” what if I ejaculate right away” and stuff like that. The same is with actual sex. Focus your attention on how beautiful your girl is, on her reactions to you, on how she is enjoying.
The point is - the more you try to force yourself not to ejaculate, the faster it will come. Remember - RELAX!
If you have any questions, no matter how dumb or silly you think they are, feel free to send me a PM. Like I said, I can relate to your condition, so I will be very glad to help you out any way I can.
:chicken: My chicken is on the path of becoming a big cock! :rooster: