damn penis

i’m involved in a long distance realationship (till mid summer when we move in together), so i only get laid like once every other week or so…. *sighs*

But when we do have sex, like last night, I cant get all the way hard. It’s ridiculous, and it’s killing me cuz i cant figure it out. I can hard to the point of 7.5x5.5 when she’s not around, but as soon as we start banging, i dont think i get harder than 6x4.5.

I dont understand at all why this is happening or what could be the problem. She is by far the best chick i’ve ever had in the sack (she gets so fucking into it), and knows exactly how to move, and I stay small….

I’ve been trying pills. Horny goat weed, l-argenine, yohimbe, and tonkat ali and NOTHING WORKS. It actually has an opposite effect. After taking the pills, I cant get hard at all….

I know viagra works, and i used to get a lot of it from my dad whose a dr. and always had “professional samples” lying around his bathroom / bedroom, but i’m 18 years old. No Dr. would ever give me script.

I need to get this fixed and I cant figure out how. PE is no good if i’m not hard enough to use it.

NOTE: I understand for most females 6x4.5 is not a bad thing, but it’s a well known fact that her ex-boyfriend has a 9” monster, and they were together for a year… So 1. She’s more than a bit loose (although he was the only guy she’s ever fucked) and 2. I know 6” to her seems extremely small by comparison, even though she’s never tell me such a thing

Dude, have you ream the newbie forums? PE helps with Erections thats that.

Dude, it sounds like its all in your head. Maybe you got issues with her monster sized ex, maybe its something else you didn’t mention, but like they say your brain is your biggest sex organ. If your head is not in the game you can’t expect to perform at your best. That’s just my two cents. I’ve had something like that happened to me and boy was it a mind fuck when I figured it out. Good luck.

I had a similar experiance the first time I had sex. For me it was just performance anxiety, I guess is the term around here. It is not about her lips, eyes, curves etc and the passionate/erotic side of sex - it becomes about you being “hard” and hopefully pleasing her, which kills your sex drive. There was article around here about a chemical that is released during anxiety that kills erections among other things.

What you need to do:

1. CONFIDENCE. This is alot of it guy… you say you are 7.5, then your girlfriend should be happy her first 2 sex partners had big dicks.

2. Don’t masterbate so much. For me cutting it to 3 times a week is almost impossible and I usually masterbate every day, but getting it down to 3 will help alot.

3. Stand up and have her give you a BJ before sex. I found this was the easier way to get fully erect. By standing up I believe you get better blood flow to your penis. If you are good at holding your orgasm, just go until you are about to blow your load, when you usually get 105% hard then hold back and your ready.

I’m a bit new here, 3 weeks, so I do think that PE’ing might still help, but so far it hasnt at all. As far as it being all in my head, I had no idea that her ex had a huge cock the first time i fucked her. So if it is in my head, that’s not what’s doing it.

Response to nostem:

1. Confidence, hah. No, that’s not it at all, I cant explain why on the forums (maybe if you’ve read Ayn Rand), but I’m about the most “confident” guy you’ll ever meet.

2. Masterbating, yeah, about that. I do jerk off once a day, but always stop two or three days in advance if i expect any sexual activity to ensue.

3. I’m going to have to try that.

andrew,

I kind of know what you are talking about. I’ve got a new girl and I see “shrinkage” of my erect dick. In my case, this has something to do with my head I’m sure. In my last relationship I could go to my maximum size, no problem. I guess, at least in my case, I’m trying too hard with the new one which somehow blocks something.

I’m trying to relax and get more comfortable and not trying to hard. Hope it helps.

Andrew - if the subject is ever brought up again by her, find a can of hairspray or something size 9”. The 9” are probably wishful thinking or a photoshopped memory. If she still insists, take the can to the sack.

I presume you will never discuss her ex’s size. No good ever comes out of that.

As for the shrinkage factor, I’d say that is you messing with your own mind. No amount of horny goat weed will ever help you except possibly make you reverse mess the mess you made, giving you a psychological crutch to hobble along with.

One word - from a newbie: KEGELS.

Or, to be a little less concise: kegels, kegels, and more kegels. Since you’re exercising a muscle (as opposed to other PE activities, where you’re stretching things), you get pretty fast results - and if you let up on these, you will lose muscle tone. So can do experiments on yourself if you are so inclined.

Since I started these, I have much better erections, especially when I’m with company.

That’s what i’ve been doing man. I read about multiple orgasms in a book a few months ago and been doing keagles hard core ever sense. I can hold a Kegel for a full minute right now. I do about 50 reps a day, first 40 i hold for like 5 seconds, and the last 10 for 20 seconds. Maybe i’m not squeezing hard enough or in the right place, but i can feel the muscle right under my ball sack tighten and contract so i’m thinking i’m doing it right.

The thing is, even though my PC muscle is literally huge, like it sticks out an inch or so, it doesnt seem at all effective during sex, and hardley effective at all when jerking off. The only thing it seems good for is pumping more blood into my penis, but even that only works sometimes. It doesnt really seem to “hold the errection” like i’ve read it’s supposed to, so I dont know what the hell is up.

The other thing i forgot to mention, when i’m jerking off, my penis gets 100% erect for a while, but as i near orgasm it i start loosing blood and i have to grip the base of my penis to keep it hard, I dont know if that’s normal or what, but it didnt used to happen a year or so ago.

Reading back through my post, it really does sound like a mental problem, and I have no idea how to go about fixing that, or if it’s even possible. Instead I’ve decided sense herbs dont work like I need them to, and viagra does, i’m gona save up some money get and purchase some blue diamonds (i know it’s bad to “not target” the problem, and just work around it using viagra as a quick fix, but i’m out of ideas, and this needs to be fixed).

*sigh*

If anyone could write or link me to a post of how they “fixed” their mental problem causing them ED, PLEASE post. This is extremely important to me, and i’m willing to try just about anything.