Can't stay hard/cum

Okay so I was having sex with my girlfriend last night for the first time. I made her orgasm 3 times but I couldn’t orgasm once. She then layed my down and sucked my cock and jerked me off (we had a movie on in the backround and I kept going soft on her when I wasn’t looking at her stroking me. Is there a mind erection connection happening to me? Has anyone experienced this and did it revolve ( I did masturbate a lot 3 times a day so much) maybe that is why I am to use to my hand I hope his Is changed soon.

There’s a growing body of scientific evidence linking erectile dysfunction to porn use. I don’t know whether you view porn, or if you do, whether it’s related. Most of all, I’m not preaching or telling you what to do, it’s your life to enjoy and I wish you well. But if you’re curious and want to read, check out Your Brain On Porn -

Sometimes it’s just a mental thing. If you have stress, anxiety, or just thinking about something else. Maybe next time you want to jack off, just do not do it to completion. You will be ready to go to get your nut in your lady after this.

Almost a self-induced blue balls.

There is a factor that porn is one level and your sex act with your gf is another. It’s hard to connect both, so leave porn when warming up and then focus in your gf. Happened to me many times, my cock went down and I needed to cum and couldn’t get it

Thanks ! I do watch well did watch a lot of porn I masturbate 3 times a day from june till september probably longer, I take supplements, but i think ill stop to see if they are causing more harm then good

Close your eyes and imagine your girlfriend is a porn star. A little fantasy won’t hurt her. Don’t ask, don’t tell!

“At this time, there is no brain research isolating Internet porn addicts from just plain Internet addicts.”

Sex addiction: A comparison with dependence on psychoactive drugs (2003) - Your Brain On Porn

Its normal I think from time to time for your erection quality (hardness) to ebb and flow during sex somewhere between (70-100%). Porn only shows the guy when he’s rock hard and many of the male performers use caverject (inject-able Viagra) that gives instant and long lasting erections. Also they have “Fluffers” which is a person who’s expertise is to give a man a really hard erection, basically an expert hand job. These fluffers come in if a male performer goes soft.

With that said you’re probably masturbating too much. Once a day is enough not to mention three times. I would think that 3 times a day over a week would be taxing on anyone even a teenager. Not sure how old you are.

Also you gotta remember that you have been getting off solo for years and are accustom to doing it a certain way, in that respect you are better at getting yourself off then she is most likely.

Hi Jakey,

I had a similar problem during my first serious relationship that involved sex. The first two times I was not able to come even though my dick was hard.
During a very long period in this relationship we often stopped when she came and I finished myself off by jerking-off and coming into her mouth.
To me this was also a really bothersome issue and she even cried about it some times.

What I think the problem was is that I was too used to the roughness of my own hand. Also the pressure of performing was sort of killing it, and aside from that, I was always focusing on my sex techniques rather than the joy of having it. Later on I started to relax more and got used to the feeling of my penis being inside of a vagina.

Nowadays I am able to come whenever I want to and go on for as long as I want (probably because of this issue I had).
And I promise you that women dig that. Overall, I would not worry about it too much.
Just as a tip to try: don’t beat off a day before you are going to have sex.. If not working.. Try to add some more days.

Cheers

I went through same thing I was 18 and masturbated a lot and hadn’t had sex in like a year . I hooked up with chick and had sex almost every day and could not ejaculate. It took me about 2 weeks till I could ejaculate. I read on Internet that it was due to desensitization from masturbating for so long.

I’ve read about this too. It’s called death grip syndrome and supposedly it’s cured by stopping wanking. For masturbation you should use pocket pussy.

I have trouble getting erected without porn. I can erect enough, but not as erect as I get by watching porn. Hopefully this is something that will correct itself over time or is purely down to too much wanking.

You’ve certainly got me there. I guess I came off as preachy and I apologize for that. All I’m saying is that before getting an expensive and possibly dangerous Cialis Rx, and before feeling insecure and unmanly about performance issues, it’s free to try giving up beating off to porn for a week to see if it works, and it can be started anytime - no doctor to see. What’s to lose, cum-filled tissues? If it doesn’t work, try other methods by all means.