Thanks against everyone!
My EQ is good when having sex, although I do need oral to get hard often, I think usually the soft PONR is due to cannabis.
I think I may try to just do stretching for a bit, or get a pump, not really sure yet was hoping to not have to have embarrassing equipment around.
Any recommendations on a pump/ring setup that is cheap and comfortable? Also a stretching device, I think I gave myself tennis elbow with all the stretching jelging and masturbating!