Bi-sexual questionTestosterone related

First of all, I have been married for almost 10 years but as far as I can remember I had this attraction to guys.. I always controlled my thoughts as to how far I let it wonder but my wife and I have had serious issues lately.. Anyway, she cheated and I ended up excepting her back but always felt sick to my stomach as a yr prior my testosterone levels were extremely low.. At that time felt like an it! No sex drive of any kind and there4 she wasn’t getting her needs met. I have been successfully taking testosterone now for a year and felt the best sexually ever.except errection problems here and there..

My question is, since testosterone is back in me wouldn’t you think I would like just woman? Sometimes I guess I feel very manly and I look hot but then other times I just love guys bodies and get turned on by a good looking one and almost can’t control my thoughts.. I actually ended up at one point hooking up with a guy and wow it was fantastic all around emotionally aswell..

Does that mean I’m Bi?

I’m sorry to gross out some guys on here but it’s serious to me and I want to see if any others have experianced this..

Cheers to a great new year for everyone aswell! THnaks for any help.

Maybe. Only you know your sexual orientation. Some guys do things and don’t consider themselves gay or bi, just freaky. I personally think there is a spectrum of sexual attraction. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle of that spectrum.

You want us to tell you if you are bi sexual?

Well, reading your story “let_it_work” and if as you say you are attracted to men and have had a recent liaison and you still fancy women too then I’d say you’re bi-sexual. If though you’re not turned on sexually by women but are craving men then I’d say you’re Gay. I really cannot see why men beat themselves up about their sexuality after all this is the 21st century not the middle ages. If you fancy men and the wife is cheating on you then give her the boot and try it out with guys and see perhaps?

Lol.. No, I was hoping to find out if Testosterone lack there of, may be a reason for being into guys.. My levels are never consistent and I take same dosage daily.. Sometimes it’s high and wow, I feed off woman’s smells everything and notice I crave woman more and when it seems to be where doctors say normal, I want both female and males.. Weird I know but I have really enjoyed men so much more lately and woman just don’t give me satisfaction like before.. Yes wife cheated when I was very ill with 4 different men and I want to boot her but she is very trapping.. I’m good looking and confident in myself now but this area is still a sensitive area for me you could say.

Thank you for your support.. Even in middle ages you read only the finest looking men were able to have intimate sex with one another.. However, than most people were killed or just never said anything.. Yes I do fancy men a lot now and it could be due to infadility of wife.. I have found one special man thats very sweet and I don’t want to just mess around like most gays do.

Any tips on divorce? Lol.. Thanks again

Happy New Year too.
Some think that hooking up with some one is kissing, hugging, my definition of hooking up is going all the way, is that what you did? Because if you did, you cheated on your wife as well.

My personal opinion is one sexual experience with the same gender one time does not mean you are bi and even the fact you love guys bodies and get turned on by a good looking one and almost can’t control your thoughts does not mean you are bi either, because if that was the case, every member here is bi. Everybody here has gone into the ‘Member’s Pic’s’ and has at one time or another commented how nice someones cock looks and their thoughts of wanting a cock like the one they just saw, I have even read those comments. I guess the only difference is that some would like for their cock to look like the Pic not a cock inserted into them.

What do you think you are?

Yes I have heard some guys will just have sex or oral stuff with guys in desperation.. To each their own.. I’m not desperate just a little questionable.. I agree about middle of that

Testosterone levels would affect your sex drive and desire to have sex, but the objects of your attraction would not change with T levels.

Feel free to talk and ask questions. No one here will treat you differently or unfairly. (If they do, they’ll be shown the door. Thunder has a strict policy of tolerance for everyone.)

Loving males as beautiful animals is where you sometimes find strength and life force in the sense of the species. Anatomically, they are really worthy of any ones attention, (whether you are a man OR a woman), when you come upon one that is truly exempalary…i.e. aesthetical…i.e., beautiful. If you describe him as being “hot”, with panting breath, then you probably ought to accept the truth of what you are and be glad to live with it.

Let_ it_Work:
The wonder of TP is that you can ” reveal” anything about yourself without remorse or regret. Check out Post #30 on Bohm’s thread, “The most aesthetic (best looking) penis.” ( Sorry, I have not learned how to paste into a thread yet). This coincides with what Westla is saying to you, I think.

howardson - The most aesthetic (best-looking) penis

As westla pointed out, testosterone levels are not going to have any effect on whether you are attracted to men or women but just your level of sex drive. Our society is really big on black/white labeling. You are supposedly either gay or straight. Certainly there are a lot of guys who are predominantly gay who come to terms with that by first believing they are bisexual. However there are plenty of bisexual people too. There is nothing wrong with being predominantly attracted to women but every once in awhile feeling the urge towards guys. That doesn’t make you gay. Your sexual orientation is pretty hard wired so something transient like an affair wouldn’t trigger any large change either. It very much depends on the person, but I would just say whatever feels natural for you is fine and don’t worry about the gay/straight labeling.

Come man don’t let your wife get away with cheating on you with 4 guys, take a stand. She may be “trapping” but the easy, go back to normal let it go way is not always the best, stand up be a man or use it and have fun too.

As far as being bi, gay or straight your the only one that knows, you have to be real with yourself. I also agree T levels won’t change preference just sex drive

Let it work.I can offer something about my personal life. I’m not a Doctor but damn if I have not had a monster sex drive most all of my adult life. I have no clue what my T levels are but suspect they are high.
I have bedded many women and when I started making money in my life I started to buy them to keep up with my desire.
I was in a club in Germany years ago (38 years old presently) and there I happened across a stunning Tranny. It was a sex club and at the point I met the tranny I had already been with 3 beautiful younger women that night.
I got hard when the tranny started flirting. I wanted that tranny. When we got to the room all was well through the warm ups, however, I personally stayed away from fondling “her” but did get a great CBJ. Well here is my point: when I seen the tranny erect my mind stopped my raging erection. It stopped fast, just went limp.
As I mentioned, I have a huge sex drive but even though the thought of bending a tranny over worked for me mentally my drive shut down when I got close.
I have tried a few times since and managed to completion but only with BJs.

So then, I would say your Bi, based only on a little story of my own life.
Be proud, be bold, forgive your wife, she is only human.

Best to you.

I agree with westla and avgguyusa. Testosterone levels have nothing to do with orientation, and I don’t believe they have as much to do with drive as most people think. I’ve been getting testosterone injections for over five years. My levels are slightly above normal, but still in range, and I do not by any stretch of imagination have a strong sex drive. Average to low-average I suspect. Age has a lot to do with that as well as environmental stress and biochemical stress within your body.

Orientation is like a bell curve. Some people are on one side or the other - 100% straight or 100% gay. Many people are in the middle - part straight, part gay. Some of the people who are part gay have learned to ignore that part of them, so they don’t even realize they have some same sex attraction. Some deny it, and it causes emotional problems, trying to deny the truth about themselves. Everyone falls on the bell curve somewhere - perhaps you are primarily straight but you do have an element of attraction to men.

In other words, it’s not black and white. You could have a slight tendency to be bi.

How would it affect your self image if you discovered that you have some bi tendencies? Would that be a challenge for you to absorb into your self-perception?