Am I crazy?

Hello all! I’m new here after stumbling upon this place randomly. Since I was a kid, I’ve been self conscious about my size. Maybe its because I’m a little on the chubby side, and all of my siblings were skinny, I thought it was because of my weight. As I got older, I realized that it wasn’t necessarily a weight thing, and that even skinnier guys have the problem. Therein lies my issue. When I was about 15 when I first started having sex, I would get nervous a lot, so I think that contributed to some of my rather shabby sexual performances in my early sex life. Now, fast forward to about the age of 21. I’ve had plenty girlfriends now and have a different type of sexual bravado. That meaning, like, I don’t get nervous, I’m more sure of myself. Its crazy, because my dad always told me, don’t worry son, you’re a late bloomer. My girlfriend would never admit it, but when we were like 18 or 19, for whatever reason, my buddy down there was smaller. Its like I really ask her sometimes, like what were we doing back then? And then we laugh and she says she’s always enjoyed our sex. I guess I should mention, I’m black. That being said, I’ve never gotten complaints. Maybe when I was younger I would get the occasional “deeper, baby”, but I would comply, and that was the end of that. Lol the thing is, I’ve always watched porn and I’m pretty aware of what I Don’t have. I figure, because I’m black, my stuff should be huge.

So let me get to my point. I would say I’m about 8 inches erect BP on a good day and maybe 4.5 girth (can’t do exact measurement right now lol). The length might be ok but is that skinny? I mean, some ppl here may say that I’m complaining about small things (no pun intended), but at the end of the day, its a mental thing sometimes. Some girls are shaped different. I’ve hit the cervix on some, others, not. I’ve had some girls scream, some not. Like, if a girl tries to deep throat me, it doesnt fit in her whole mouth, some girls it does. Its not really an issue of is it small, so much as its ‘is it enough?’ I’ve been cheated on by my girlfriend of 5 years. Even thought we reconciled and I know she loves my sex, I can’t help but wonder was the guy bigger than me, or was it thicker. Maybe that’s my thing, I want to be thicker. I don’t know. Its crazy because for whatever reason, from the age of 19 til now 27, I’ve grown down there and I wasn’t doing anything but typical jacking off. I mean like seriously, it stopped growing when I was maybe 25. And that’s what led me here. Like, to me, I don’t want to just be a good lover, I want to be her best. In my opinion, my sex is good, but I want it to be better than good. Is that crazy? And like I said earlier, I don’t think I’m small or bad in bed, I just think there’s a lot of room for growth (pun intended).Any input will help. Thx.

Hi biggesmall,

Yes you’re crazy. Welcome. We are OK with crazy here.

sounds like you have a good appreciation of your size in comparison to others and you know that you need to work girth. Nonetheless, start with the Newbie Routine and then once you have the hang of things 2-3 months down the line, branch to more girth heavy work (carefully).

Lol thank you. I am crazy kinda. But yes, this place is super helpful. It lets you be comfortable with the things you feel are wrong with yourself. I actually had my first session today. Longest shower I took in a while. Lol But yes I will see how it works. From what I’ve read here, gaining girth is possible, and I’m hopeful for it. It takes dedication and I have lots of that. When I get some actual measuring tape (I’ve been holding it up next to the tv remote lol) I’ll put up my actual size and my goals. Glad I found this place.

You already have a good idea of what’s required to succeed. Just be careful not to be too enthusiastic.

Good luck.

There’s a ton of guys that would love 8”. And you can gain in girth if you put in the effort, leaving you big or maybe even huge :)

GettinGrown- what advice would you give a newbie trying to gain girth mostly? Routine wise?

Consistent jelqing and pumping. Take it slow and don’t hurt yourself. Once you plateau you can decide if you want to do clamping, personally it’s a technique I probably won’t try due to the risks. Also, although aimed more at length wearing an extender may help as they are shown to have some impact on girth.

oh my god as i was read the first paragraph i was like this guy is a black so if he’s even 6 inches people will think he’s small (i was feeling bad about it) then i move to the second paragraph he says he’s 8 inches and i’m like wtf he’s 8inches and one of his girlfriend said deeper baby looks like i have to change my final goal . just do the newbie routine for 2 months

Your girth is a bit below average. Your length is way, WAY, WAAAAAYYYY!!!!, over average.

I don’t know; I haven’t seen you at the meetings.

Sounds like you are much above average lengtha nd on the lower end of average girth wise(but still average!)

The thing is this then appears less girthy then a 6x4,5 cock. A bit unproportinal so to speak.

But as you said tis all in the eye of the behodler and the pussy you lay your pipe in.
And what you think of your dick or why you got cheated(he bigger) is most times not the same a girl thinks of.
I say chances are higher a man gets cheated for not beeing confident about himself then for having an average dick.

Anyway, just do for at least some weeks the newbie routine to get your dick used. Then you can focus more onto advanced girth exercises.
Its not uncommon to gain 0,5 inches girth or even more with serious dedication.

You have nothing to worry about, many guys whish They were your length.

Thanks for the input guys! So while I wasn’t able to get a girth measurement, I did get my length, and it’s 7.. That’s still a bit much I’m assuming, but it was funny because I was reading a thread about how people usually are wrong when they try to eyeball a measurement. Lol I was off a whole inch!

Alivegeta- lol yeah, well at the time of the ‘deeper’ requests I was at least a full inch shorter, and that’s from my own memory about my johnson. But yea, maybe at the time she had gotten used to me, but since then, I have NEVER heard deeper from her. Now when I’m on top, sometimes she has to push me away if I hit her wall.

Dickerschwantz- abut the cheating thing, it was more about me not giving her enough attention, affection, etc. You know how women are. The guy was a bum compared to me, in my opinion, but I was saying more like a guy can’t help but think about their girl having sex with another guy, was he better?

Also, I realized that my confidence lies within my flaccid appearance. Although it swells up to a nice number, I think it looks ‘ugly’ while flaccid. Not literally ugly, it just doesn’t do me any justice to be flaccid. Lol there are times when I won’t let my girl start giving me head until I’m at least half hard. Its kinda embarrassing, until I actually get hard. Like I said in my first post, to some it may be irrelevant, but then again its about how I would like my appearance to be.

That’s the thing, maybe its my comparison to other black guys that makes me feel inferior when it comes to size. I’m not ignorant enough to believe all black guys are huge. That’s not true, I’ve seen some smaller than me. But the thing is, I was with this hispanic girl, and she had been with black guys before and they were all hung, so what does she expect when I drop my pants? So afterward, you get that ‘its not small, but its not huge either’ statement. And don’t get me wrong, me and her had great sex that night. I thought the cops were gonna come to the hotel at one point because she was screaming loud. I attributed that to be because she was a serious nympho, anything would turn her on. So to some people, a girl saying you’re the perfect size is a good thing, to some its saying you were good, but not the best. But then it depends on the girl. I had a another hispanic girl and she thought I was huge. But then again, I was her first black guy, so obviously I was like Michael Jordan. Lol

At the end of the day, I would take maybe another half inch in length but like, a whole inch in girth, and I’ll be satisfied.

PE Increases flaccid hang overall.
Remember BTC stretch which is good for flaccid hang.
Also a product named Bathmate or any other penis pump might increase flaccid size at least temporary right after the first use.(but also increases chances for discoloration)

I think the myth of black guys being huge it’s deleterious for many guys.

It gives more self confidence to the hung ones but it could kill the sexual life of guys who are average or below average.

I’ve some afro-americans friends and from what I know only one is big (6.5” NBP x 5”), sometimes They are afraid of that stereotype in one night stands because girls expect them to be at least big.