A serious quandary.

You guys who tell their SO about PE, You guys have some big balls. I can’t see how I can say to my SO “hey I spend hours pulling ,tugging, pumping, stretching clamping my dick. When I am not doing that I spend hours on the net looking into various techniques and devices. A difficult conversation I suspect. Plus I know how women talk. I can only imagine what they/she would tell their/her friends!

OK, as some of you know I have only been PEing for about 2 weeks and my girl has made numerous comments about me feeling bigger. She has even squinted from some discomfort. So the last few nights we have had sex, she has been a lot less aggressive. Usually she loves to sit on top and really grind away until she squirts to her hearts content. But now she says it hurts a little and doesn’t feel good. She keeps asking me if I have a penis pump hiding in the bathroom. I finally told her that I have been doing a lot of kegels and eating a lot better at work and maybe that is the reason. She said for me to stop the kegels as she likes the sex before. Now I am only a few weeks into this and I am sure the small gains I have made will slow down, but hopefully will continue to improve. But if she isn’t into it that could be a bigger problem. I am doing this for me, but can be counter productive if she doesn’t like the new sizes. What the hell do I do now? I love this girl and we are getting married. Any advice would be great.

I would go for what she wants. What I wouldn’t give for a woman who enthusiastically and aggressively grinds on my dick and squirts to her heart’s content!

If PEing doesn’t help your relationship, what good is it? Besides, you can always start PEing again in the future if and when she’s for it.

Don’t tell women you do this.

Seems to me this is an incredible situation. If I were you I would stop PE’ing immediately. If you continue to PE it sounds like you will be satisfying your partner less, just my opinion. I think you are incredibly fortunate to be in such a situation.

Gimli

You are getting married and she is saying a bigger dick isn’t what she wants. I would stop immediately and stay happy knowing the woman, who you are about to spend your life with from now on, is perfectly over the moon with the penis you had.

This is exactly why I hate the urban legends that continue to be perpetuated here, that bigger is always better and that 8x6 is somehow “ideal”.

A few threads have gone into this in depth with contributions by experienced men and some of our female members, and when we dig into it, it seems clear that some women start having problems with girth around 5.5” (and length over 7”). That’s my personal experience as well, that a girth of 5.5” is enough to at least make a significant percentage of women sore enough that they want more time to recover after sex, and occasionally be even more of an obstacle.

You probably have a girlfriend with a vagina that is a bit on the small size, and you could hold back on the PE to avoid any new gains and see if she slowly starts to get used to your size. But you’re on the verge of reducing your possibilities for oral and anal sex, and running into the same problems with any possible new relationships.

As far as telling women about PE, I think that the way to at least start on the subject is to refer to it as someing like “penis exercises”, and avoid getting into details, particularly about amount of time spent.

FF

Thanks everyone!! She is rather small. Ring size 3.5. Not even 5’ tall. The smallest wrist I have ever seen. Also she is of East Indian decent. From what I have read on the web that the different races are built for their race. IE, Indian men are a little smaller and so the women are smaller. Black men are a little bigger and so Black women are a little bigger. Not sure how accurate this is. Anyway, it really does suck. I really want to have a bigger penis. Always did and will always want one. I think I am going to continue as this is for me, and see how it goes in bed over the next month. The only other factor is she is due to have her period in a few days. She is of a rare breed because she looses interest in sex before her period and is a little more sensitive down there. On the plus side, when the front is closed for flushing, the rear opens up for me! Anxious to see if she notices anything then.

Gainmaker - just wait a few years until after she’s had a couple of kids…she’ll be much more receptive to your PE efforts.

I think there is a lot of truth to that!! She and I are very open and she tells me one of the first thing she and her friends looks at is a mans bulge. She likes to see bigger bulges. But she has always said that they are fun to look at but that is not what she prefers. She likes to really move and work the penis to her advantage (as I like to work it when I am in control). When it is on the bigger side, it’s far less possible to work it around and into the place she wants it to hit. Big may be ideal for some women, and for most men, but I guess there are women that prefer average so that they can manipulate it to there best benefit.

Great advice! Didn’t think of that. Maybe I will tell her it is good for blood flow and ED. I am in my mid 30’s with a high cholesterol of 308. Thanks for the advice!

She has 2!! One 13 and one 8! We are both divorced. She came out of a marriage 8 years ago and has been by herself most of that time.

People have given good advice. Heres my two cents; so take it with a grain of salt.

Maybe it’s not a good idea to let her know about your pe activities.

Of course your fiance says she’s happy so maybe you should stop.

In the end it’s all up to you.

Good luck.

I’d stop. You may find that down the road she’ll be more receptive (physically and mentally) to something more and you can always start PE back up.

I’m assuming you do a lot of foreplay. My first lover was petite (5ft height at best), about 98 lbs. I wouldn’t dream of PE if I was with her, as handling what I had was a challenge. My current lover is older, has had two kids, and seems physically more capable of handling a larger size. Hey, PE works for us. I don’t intend to take any other lovers, so I can focus on working to her satisfaction and not worry about it.

In your case, you have a woman who appears quite content with the goods you got, likes sex with you, and is honest about what she wants. QUIT PE! Thank God y’all are compatible sexually as well and enjoy life. Hopefully, if she later decides she’d like a little more she’ll be just as honest and support your efforts then.

Just count yourself one lucky SOB!