Originally Posted by jamesbondc
Guys the problem is: I am one of those “Nice guys” that women check out all the time but when they hear me talk they want me as friend and not friend with benefits. I wrestled in high school and college once a little bit which should get me mad amount of vagina but my niceness always scared the girls away I guess. I m no Tom Cruse but I am a decent looking guy with athletic bulky body. I still have to service myself because I just feel awkward treating women like $hit. Anyways now I have this problem and it would be real bad moment if I just get done in 30 seconds with my first girl. I tried Kegels but it didn’t work. Also, I am not even getting hard rock like I used to when I was 16. At 16 I used to measure up to 7 inches but now 5 inch flacid and hard erection happens and I jerk for 30 sec and GAME OVER. :(
You don’t need to be a jerk. I think the problem is within you. Maybe all your energy is put in masturbation. Try to do some celibacy. Raise your confidence. Control yourself. Maybe you have some anxiety disorders. I had some fears years ago, was very shy and sucked with woman. I learned to meditate, I am a deep thinker, I always question values, morals, etc… Just be yourself. Be confident with yourself, love yourself. Think about death everyday. One day you will die, everybody dies. Nobody is better than you. All have the same destination, death and aging. Be confident! “The world within makes the world without”, “As above, as below.” Think about these quotes.
About your issue. The problem is deep in your psyche. Not about kegels, muscle, etc.. Your mind makes you ejaculate faster. You do that just because of the orgasm, the cum, the pleasure. This is a drug addiction. You want it now and fast. Control yourself, be more dominant with you. With will you control your ejaculation. How strong is your will?