The point where I either need to blow, or lose my erection, but i wanna do neither!
My main problem is this: regularly when I masturbate or have sex, I reach a point where I feel I’m about to cum, but if I dont want to I need to relax my bc muscle, which at that point will make me lose my erection. If masturbating I can often get the erection back and continue if I have porn or something else to stimulate me, but am not so comfortable doing this during sex as it can be a real mood killer, so often during sex i’ll just cum, even if i want to go longer.
I just wonder whether this is normal, I’ve never read anything similar. And I also wonder what could help improve the situation, is a matter of a weak BC muscle? I have been kegeling for months now so it does feel strong, but maybe not? Its so hard to tell, every routine seems so different. I also have concerns about my circulation affecting my erection, so perhaps that has something to do with it?
Would love to hear any opinions on the matter.