Still having problems getting it up

I’m 20 years old. I shouldn’t be having this problem! I often (but not everyday) have strong morning wood, no problem getting it up when whacking it to porn. With my ex-gf who I still see about twice a week, I USUALLY have no trouble getting it up. I’m usually rock hard from making out with her. The first time I was with her I could not get it up to save my life. I was a virgin and too nervous. In fact I had some trouble getting it up for about 2-4 weeks after meeting her, though I could MOST of the time. All nerves!! When I could finally relax, which is usually right after sex, I could still get and maintain a rock hard-on, even if I JUST already had sex 3 times earlier, due my nerves no longer holding me back.

The second I think “OK penis, you had better do your job, you better get hard! DON’T get soft!” I either can’t get it up or if I already have a boner, usually lose it rather quickly.

I don’t really have much trouble getting it up with my ex-gf 95% of the time, guess because I’m pretty comfortable around her (says she LOVES my cock, says best sex she ever had, etc.)

BUT around this new girl I was with last weekend, I was finger/rubbing clit and making out and it was quite clear she wanted sex, until she put her hand down my pants I was soft as a wet noodle, and she gave me the “WTF why aren’t you hard” look, TOTALLY killed the mood. The funny thing is I WAS rock hard during most of the foreplay, just when I knew it was going to come down to sex, said to myself “YOU BETTER STAY HARD”, which killed my erection. Asked her to suck my dick to get me hard but she wouldn’t do it, so no sex, I’m 100% positive if I could have kept it hard long enough to put on a condom we would’ve had sex. She was very turned off from my lack of erection.

Needless to say I am furious, humiliated, and depressed. I wish I could just press a button and get hard when I want to. Why doesn’t my dick listen to me? He’s got a mind of his own.

What can I do? I know, I know. Just relax. Focus on how hot she is. Enjoy the moment, don’t worry, relax. But already tried that before. It’s impossible NOT to think about something. For example, if I were to say “don’t think about pink elephants” bam you have already thought about it.

Are there any resources, such as articles, books, etc., that can help me gain 100% control over my cock? Or help me out in this regard in any way? I am getting desperate, I don’t want to have to resort to those little blue pills at 20 years old :(

I’m the same age as you and I’ve had the same problem in the past. It’s common for some guys to be nervous and have trouble maintaining an erection with a new girl especially when it comes to having sex with her for the first time.

You know how I got over it? Viagra. I’ve since moved on to Cialis and use it recreationally when I want to really bring my A-game, although I have no problems with my erections now. At least for me, it is impossible to have anxiety or to be too nervous for an erection while on Viagra or Cialis, and it really helped me get over that first hump where I was too nervous. Like you I tried to stay calm and relaxed, and went through 2 weeks of subsiding erections just as it was getting to that point.

There is nothing wrong with your dick or your dick control, it’s all mental. As soon as you get familiar with this girl, I’m sure you’ll be fine. After having sex 3 times with my current gf I was fine and didn’t need anything to help. If I sleep with a new girl, I’ll definitely take some Cialis to make sure that I don’t have any problems, I know of a few guys here who do the same thing.

Now definitely drugs aren’t the only way to fix this problem, but at least in my experience, it was the quickest. There are a few threads circulating around that tell you where you can buy ED drugs online for cheap.

Good luck.

Look up my thread on the amino acid theanine. Take a couple of these or drink a couple of glasses of green tea to calm your nerves. I will pull up theanine.

Ahh here it is here it is.

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