Risk with going down?

I come very quickly. It’s really annoying for me. There were quite a few situations in my past where I could have had sex with a girl but then decided against it out of fear of coming early and feeling bad about it.

Now I’ve taken some steps to overcome that PE like edging, kegels, etc.. Also for the women of course there are many ways to have a good time besides penetration. One is of course oral sex. Now my question is: How careful do you have to be with going down on a woman infectionwise? Of course I’ll always use a condom when having intercourse. But with going down I’m not sure how much risk there really is. And I think it’s impossible to tell if the girl has slept around or not. Most likely if she goes to bed with me after a few dates and she knows I’m not interested in a long term relationship she has. What do you think?

Life is about risk. We all take them every time we leave the front door. You decide the odds you are willing to play.

I am pretty sure there would be some danger of catching some form of std from going down on her, particularly if she was on.

Basic rules:

Avoid blood,
Avoid blisters/lesions/warts
Avoid wrecklessly promiscuous partners.
If in doubt rubber up or walk away.

That way you will minimise the risk

Well said my friend. We all have choices in life, cause that is what life is all about.

Get her to blow you first, then decide if you would like to eat at the Y.

Tonguedoms Tonguedoms Tonguedoms. I don’t know, but watch for the signs already mentioned ^

Sure life is calculated risk taking. Of course, we can never be 100% sure in that a situation.

Thanks for your advice, jordon. That makes sense.

Lingam, I don’t know where you are from, but if you are in the UK, drop into your local FPA (Family Planning Assoc.) and pick up their range of leaflets on every Sexually Transmitted Infection. These tell you how each infection can be passed on and what you can do to prevent it.

Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea are both bacterial and can live in the cells of the cervix, the urethra, rectum and also sometimes in the throat and eyes. They can be spread from penetrative sex (vaginal or anal), but also from oral sex and sharing sex toys.

Chlamydia is becoming a major problem in the UK, especially among the younger people, and Gonorrhoea is making a comeback. Approximately 50% of all women will have no symptoms with either of these infections and may not know they have them. Both are easily treated with anti-biotics, but can have unpleasant consequences if not caught early.

If you have unprotected sex of any kind with an unknown partner, get tested at your local Gum Clinic (Genitourinary Clinic). If you are in UK, it’s free and gives you peace of mind.

Personally, I’ve just had a year of rank stupidity. I get my test results later this week. To me ‘the glass is always half full’, but to be honest I’m as nervous as an ice-cream held by a 3 year old! I agree with Jordan that life involves risk. I have always loved the thrill of risk in everything I do, but I’m going to be Mr. Safe with sex now, regardless of the results of the tests. At 38 I think I’m learning.

Do you want to elaborate?

Not much to say that I haven’t said in other posts. I spent last year in SE Asia, swing both ways, was promiscuous and not safe. The ice-cream is melting…

Results back; I’m clean and clear. More luck than good judgement.

Congrats!

:nodding:

Lessons learned! I’m am happy for you firegoat, but now care must be taken seriously, cause I too hate that scarey nervous feeling and waiting for some kind of result to come.