Relationship-- sex cut off

Hey everyone first before i start my story I’ve been gone from the board for a while, Been really busy with college recruitment etc.. but as soon as things calm down a bit i’ll be back on here as well as into PE alot better.

Okay here is my story, it might be kinda long, i’m not sure yet. To start out with I’m dating somebody who was my best friend before we started going together, we’ve been together for 6 months, but it feels like alot longer b/c we were such good friends first.

When we were just friends I always noticed that she liked sex, as after she broke up with her old boyfriend she fucked one of my friends a few weeks later and it was an all night ordeal (my friend eventually had to tell her to stop because he needed to rest). I know this because me and my ex g/f were over there with them and they would sneak off to the shower, go to her room, etc..not to say she was a slut, she has had about 4 boyfriends, most of which were over 5 months long. through my own prying i was able to get her to tell me storys about her with her other boyfriends, one story about bf #1 in the shower and another about bf #2 while they were driving.

I stay the night at her house about 3-4 days out of the week usually. and the thing is we might have sex Once a week at the most, one time we had sex once in an entire month.. I of course want to have sex alot more than that, and she knows I do. She will act all horny and like she wants to do it during the day but then when i get to her house she’s too tired. then she wonders why i get upset when she won’t have sex..

I don’t quite know if its to the point that she is trying to control the relationship with sex but we only have sex at the same spot, in the same posisition almost everytime (with me on top, she is too lazy to do any work it seems like). with her other boyfriends they had sex in the showers, in a car while they were stopped, in a car while they are DRIVING? I mean wtf I haven’t had a relationship where sex was involved before (i have fucked 1 other girl). not only that but remember about my friend, in the shower all night and stuff.. we NEVER have sex more than once in a night EVER. She says it hurts her to have sex with me and thats why we can’t do it more than once. but i’m not so sure it still does, maybe when we first started fucking because she says i’m the biggest she’s had (7.7 x 5.8). One time i jacked off in the shower before we had sex just so it would last longer and be a little better for me and by the time i went she crawled away from me and started crying because she said it hurt.. but that was a long time ago

I guess what i’m trying to say is what do i need to do to get her to start fucking me more often i have heard people talk about rejecting any sex at all until she is ready to give in, but that takes alot of effort, and i’m not sure if i want to do that unless its going to work..

Until next time..

sportsguy

This is a delicate conundrum.

But I think there is probably a simple answer, which answer is the difficult bit.

*Maybe it does hurt her and that is discouraging.

*Maybe she is trying to control the relationship.

*Maybe something else is going on behind the scenes that you don’t know of (I can’t sggest anything, but since you say she is a ‘slut’, who knows?)

Best bet is just to sit her down in a quiet spot with plenty of time and calmly address the situation to her. Let her know how you feel, and ask her to provide answers or at least some form of explaination.

A tip: don’t fall for crying without getting answers.
It’s the #1 female defense mechanism.
if she bawls and still refuses to give you any real answers, chances are she’s just fucking around with you and doesnt want to tell for whatever reason, this reason is probably one that is important to know.

Good luck.

i didn’t mean to say she was a slut. i meant to say i didn’t think she was. she’s had like 4 boyfriends, all around half of a year to 1 and a half years long.. and from what i can tell didn’t cheat on any of them (not that she would have told me). It just sends up a red flag that my girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex more than once a week.. But I will try to sit her down and talk to her about it.

I would believe this until proven otherwise. It may well be that she’s lying and wants to use her coyness to get you to marry her, given your close relationship before it became sexual. However, let’s just go with what she’s saying for now. If you’re hurting her, the first thing to do is to put her on top. Let her control all penetration. The hope is that she’ll discover that you’re only too big for her when she’s not fully aroused. See this site for a good explanation of the arousal process and why things might be uncomfortable for the woman. The other option is to use this information to get her much more aroused the next time before you have sex with her in the traditional missionary position. You might try teasing her — going in and out but only very shallowly — and see if she likes at least that much penetration, and then after she’s really aroused with that and nearing orgasm, then try for deeper penetration.

Good luck!

…and try a bit of lubricant. Can’t hurt.

It seems to me that you two are a poor fit. Regardless of the reasons for it, whether she is trying to control you with the carrot of sex, or it is actually true that it is uncomfortable - doesn’t matter. She would likely dump you in a new york minute if she found a guy that was a better fit. Often the love relationships that grow out of friendships are the very strongest ones. But, perhaps that history makes her see you more as a brother than a lover. doubly worse if it is true that you are a little to big for her. I think I’d try to keep the friendship but forget about the romance with this one.

Sportsguy


So far I think everybody has given you some good advise. You said that she is the 2nd girl you ever had sex with.
How many times have you and her done it?
Are you and her doing any type of foreplay eating her pussy, sucking on her titties and such?
I hope that you aren’t just spitting on your fingers to get her pussy wet then fucking the shit out of her.

The thing that got me was when you said One time I jacked off in the shower before we had sex just so it would last longer and be a little better for me and by the time I went she crawled away from me and started crying because she said it hurt..
Picture this guys. Imagine Sportsguy fucking the shit out of this poor broad and she screaming not so fast , not so deep, not so hard, it’s hurting me. Sportsguy thinking she having orgasm after orgasm and starts fucking her even harder and faster. LOL
It just sounds to me that you might be a little inexperienced using that Big Ass Dick and her pussy might need some time getting used to it.
I wish you the best of luck and if I were you I would sit her down and talk about your sex life and relationship with her.

Thanks to everyone for the advice, you guys really help out when i need it.. to answer a few questions
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How many times have you and her done it?
Are you and her doing any type of foreplay eating her pussy, sucking on her titties and such?
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we’ve done alot now, i’d say about 25 times, enough to make some pretty good advances on my staying time

and as for foreplay for the most part she says she doesn’t like it.. she told me at the begining of the relationship befor i had even tried that she didn’t like being fingered and she didn’t like being eaten out the only thing she liked was sex.

so who knows i’ll sit her down and talk about it tomorrow

sportsguy

sportsguy, I get the impression that alot of girls are like that:

Mine sure was.
“I dont like fingers or tongue.. blah blah blah”

a few months later and she loves it.

it’s usually just some issue they have with being touched, or that they think they’re disgusting down there (this is probably the main cause)

Just sit her down and have a talk. Tell her that you like it and that you want to. whatever you do, dont admit that youre doing it only for her sake!

Eventually, she will let you, and she will realise that she DOES in fact, like it! Surprise surprise…

Sport

You might be caught in the friend image, you guys were friends so long maybe that’s what she really loves you as. Bro your young go find a new chick and have some fun. I must worn you you should do the opposite of whatever I say. I don’t understand women.

dino

>I must worn you you should do the opposite of whatever I say. I don’t understand women.<

lmao
LOL

Please stop, my sides hurt.

I think the problem may be with your technique, which is further complicated by your huge penis. These things are hard to speak about with someone you like/love, believe me after 15 years of marriage I’m still learning!

The next time the opportunity arises, determine that you will do your best to bring her to orgasm WITHOUT putting your dick inside. You need to spend a lot of time kissing her, gently stroking various parts of her body but NOT the sexual organs: vagina, clitoris, nipples. Slowly tease her, and tell her how hot & sexy she looks. Check this out for ideas:

Most women, including my wife, just love to be licked. However, it took me YEARS to learn how to really get her off. I always loved doing it, and knew that she liked it. But I pretty much used to just do the same thing for a few minutes, and considered it mainly as “preperation for penetration.” When I tried concentrating on stimulating her to orgasm using just my mouth & fingers, it brought us both to new levels of pleasure. Sure, we all want to have the biggest dick and want our woman to let us slam it to them. But, as large as you are (lucky you!) you will need to get her very aroused before she can take it comfortably.

Since you mentioned that you once masturbated first, I will assume that you were concerned about “keeping it up” long enough. Forget about that for now. Just focus on pleasuring her, when you start giving her big O’s everytime she’ll let you know she’s ready for that big slab of meat. Meanwhile you can relax and enjoy the sensations without fretting about your dick. I can concentrate and hold back my orgasm when I want. But after giving her one or more , she is so hot & wet

I’ve been about 6” x 5.5” most of my life, and have had more than one woman tell me I was the biggest they had. (of course I thought they were lying to me) Those women were “tight” , but I’ve had others who were “loose.” You’re lucky in many ways, if you’ll just slow down & learn how to pleasure her both of you will benefit and I guarantee she’ll forget about those other guys.

wesb

Well, it has been almost a month and last we heard you were going to sit her down and talk with her about it. Hope things are going okay for you. I would definately agree with secjay on this one. My wife tried to tell me that she didn’t like oral sex and I know it is because she didn’t think she smelled good or tasted good down there. Reassure her that this is something that you want to do and try to get her to just relax and enjoy. It should take too much to get her to forget that she didn’t want you down there as long as you don’t come up gagging. Before you know it you may have yourself involved in one if those all night marathons you were talking about she and her ex having. Best of luck to you. Just remember, dont always believe what they say, there may be more than meets the ears.

Geeze sorry about the long time away but everything was really hectic, to update you all, I did set her down and talk about this.. what happened: I probably should have choosen my words better, i brought up stuff she had done with her other boyfriends and she got a little upset at me . In the end she said i just don’t want to have sex all the time, i dont’ want our relationship to be about that. So who knows girls are messed up.

As far as that goes me and her broke up a week ago over something very stupid, she was bitching at me about something and i wasn’t in the mood for it and i let my temper get the best of me. anyway I yelled at her and said some pretty bad stuff (Like, “you were just practice for college anyway”, you know the stuff where your just trying to hurt each other) If we get back together it will probably be a while this time. so who knows. At least now i’ll have more time for my pe friends and peing its self!

talk to you soon

Sportsguy