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Really bad premature ejaculation

Originally Posted by spin428
Are you actually having premature ejaculation during (and/or slightly prior to) sex chronically? Or are you saying that because you can cum in a minute, you’re scared you might not last long?

Don’t worry about when you masturbate because you know exactly how to get yourself off (you’re familiar with you body and what feels good). With sex it can be different. But if you’re ejaculating during foreplay then that’s another story and yes there are things you can do.

Which is it?

I’m not having sex. When I masturbate if I am aroused then I am pretty much already done. So if I am aroused with a woman then I know she will barely have to touch me to get me off. It hasn’t happened yet but I just know it would.

I could see myself having foreplay and then ejaculating from just a couple dry humps, I am positive that would happen. I could also see it happening with out any dry humping and from just arousal.

What can I do about that?

Hard to guess if your problem is physical or psychological/emotional. Seems both. The emotional part, this just will subside the more you’ll have sexual experiences. For the physical part, I guess is linked to a weak BC muscle and a too high sensibility, PE can work. Manual excersices can help lowering somewhat the ‘hypersensibility (sensitiveness?)). Edging and Kegel’s can strengthen the BC muscle.

Out of curiosity, are you cut or uncut?

I like to think I’m a blackbelt on this subject. Here’s my advice: continue masturbating and having sex, but refuse to ejaculate ever. that’s right — do everything within your power to learn how to end sex without ejaculating at all. It will take some time my friend, but by the end of it you will own your ejaculations. I should add that when you ejaculate, it is detrimental to your sexual power. The more often you ejaculate, the weaker your penis will be, and the more you will continue training yourself that the point of sex is to ejaculate at the end. When all you think about is ejaculating, you are missing the whole experience of making love. Think about it a little bit; maybe do some of your own research. There’s a great book called The Multi-Orgasmic Man that probably has the potential to fix your problem and help you get a grip on your life.


Recognize.

Originally Posted by matutinal_euphony
I like to think I’m a blackbelt on this subject. Here’s my advice: continue masturbating and having sex, but refuse to ejaculate ever. ….


Maybe your blackbelt should be revoked :

Sex and death: are they related? Findings from the Caerphilly cohort study
George Davey Smith, professor of clinical epidemiology,a Stephen Frankel, professor of epidemiology and public health medicine,a John Yarnell, senior lecturer b

a Department of Social Medicine, University of Bristol, Bristol, BS8 2PR, b Department of Epidemiology and Public Health, Queen’s University of Belfast, Belfast BT12 6BJ

Objective: To examine the relation between frequency of orgasm and mortality.
Study design: Cohort study with a 10 year follow up.

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Subjects: 918 men aged 45-59 at time of recruitment between 1979 and 1983.

Main outcome measures: All deaths and deaths from coronary heart disease.

Result: Mortality risk was 50% lower in the group with high orgasmic frequency than in the group with low orgasmic frequency, with evidence of a dose-response relation across the groups. Age adjusted odds ratio for all cause mortality was 2.0 for the group with low frequency of orgasm (95% confidence interval 1.1 to 3.5, test for trend P=0.02). With adjustment for risk factors this became 1.9 (1.0 to 3.4, test for trend P=0.04). Death from coronary heart disease and from other causes showed similar associations with frequency of orgasm, although the gradient was most marked for deaths from coronary heart disease. Analysed in terms of actual frequency of orgasm, the odds ratio for total mortality associated with an increase in 100 orgasms per year was 0.64 (0.44 to 0.95).

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Masturbation 'cuts cancer risk'

Men could reduce their risk of developing prostate cancer through regular masturbation, researchers suggest.

They say cancer-causing chemicals could build up in the prostate if men do not ejaculate regularly.

And they say sexual intercourse may not have the same protective effect because of the possibility of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, which could increase men’s cancer risk.

Australian researchers questioned over 1,000 men who had developed prostate cancer and 1,250 who had not about their sexual habits.

They found those who had ejaculated the most between the ages of 20 and 50 were the least likely to develop the cancer.

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Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Ejaculating Frequently May Be Good For Your Prostate

This new research just gave you a new reason to celebrate. If women have their migraines, men have their prostates. You can now actually say, “honey, this is for my health”, and without any guilt whatsoever.

According to the study, frequent ejaculation may be healthy because of the following reasons:

* Flushing out cancer-causing substances. Frequent ejaculation may help flush out retained chemical carcinogens in the prostate glands.
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Reducing tension. The release of psychological tension that accompanies ejaculation may lower nervous activity associated with stress and slow the growth of potentially cancerous cells in the prostate.
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Promoting rapid turnover of fluids. Frequent ejaculation may help prevent the development of mini-crystals that can block ducts within the prostate gland, reducing cancer risk.

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You really should have sex before you can decide if you really suffers from premature ejaculation, I may last very long while jerking of but I might also go of in 5 minutes if I’d want to, even though my girlfriend is really tight (even for me who am below average) I last at least 10 minutes during real sex if I only try to cum as fast as I can.

Having said that, you should really try long kegels cause it makes erections stronger and ejaculations awesome.


Beginning size jan 2010: BPEL 5.5 (14 cm), EG measured at root: at least 4.3 (11.0 cm) BPFL: 3.1 (8 cm)

23/3 2010: BPEL - 5.75 (14.6) , EG root 4.4 (11.2), Middle 4.4 (11.2) BPFL: 3.3 (8.5 cm) 20/5 2010: BPEL - 5,9 (15.0) EG root 4.5 (11.6), Middle 4.4 (11.2), NBPEL 5.1 (13.0), BPFL: 3.5 (9.0cm) Short-term Goal: NBPEL 6.0, EG root 12.0 cm Long-term Goal: NBPEL 7.0 EG Middle 5.5 (14.0)

Originally Posted by Bhauk
(I’ve done lots of searches and reading, mods if you are upset already please read the last two sentences.)

I have primary premature ejaculation, meaning it’s been present my entire life.

It was never much of a concern to me because I never saw myself having sex for some reason. Probably because I was only concerned with video games and escaping reality, and jacking off was something I only did when I saw boobs, a cute Asian or something similar and had the sudden urge to jack off before someone came knocking on my door.

For one reason or another I’ve become aware that I do in fact want to have sex, except it seems entirely pointless to me because of how severe my condition is.

When I masturbate my levels of sensation go from flaccidity, 80% erection, then 100% erection is when I am so aroused that ejaculation is already approaching. It only takes a minimal amount of stimulation from this point to reach orgasm, resulting in a process that takes less than a minute.

I think I already know everything I can do for treatment: kegels and edging. No short, rapid kegels. Only hard and long contractions. Staying relaxed while edging and using reverse kegels to suppress orgasm. No chest breathing. Learn to resist the urge to ejaculate and only allow it occasionally.

The thing is is that my condition is so bad it’s hard for me to see any of this working. In my case can genetics (+ my background) be beaten by teaching the brain new neural pathways?

I posted this because I am hoping there might be advice I haven’t heard and hopefully people of similar background and circumstance who have managed success.


Hi! First of all let me tell you that I was in your shoes not that long ago. I went through all kinds of embarrassment, but it all ended. There is hope, but you have to start working on it to make a change.
Don’t take any SSRI’s or any antidepressants cause they don’t have a permament effects : I’ve cured my premature ejaculation

Somebody pointed out that being drunk or having a hangover helps with having longer sex……….which works for me too, but I rather do things while sober and be able to drive….Sober (If I have to). Killing someone in a car accident cause I wanted to have some “ass” it’s not an option for me.

Read my thread, there is some stuff that helped me battling premature ejaculation: Decided to start the thread.
Good luck, Bhauk!

Those studies are bunk! Besides, don’t get ‘orgasm’ confused with ‘ejaculation’.


Recognize.

I suspect your problem is more perceived than actual. First, as many people have said, you will probably last longer with a woman than when jerking: I can make love to my wife almost indefinitely (I almost always take longer to cum than she does), but I can squeeze off a load jerking off for less than five minutes. Second, if you can learn to get past the initial urge to cum you will probably find that you can control yourself completely. I would recommend that you continue with the kegels, and I would also recommend that when you are jerking off and feel the urge to cum coming on, stop, kegel, and wait for the urge to subside before grabbing your unit again. At first, you’ll end up sitting there a lot waiting for the urge to pass, but eventually, you’ll find that you have really good control. It’s like anything else in life: you just have to practice and train your body to do what you want. Also, you didn’t mention your age, but, I’m guessing you’re under 20. If that’s the case, know that you ability to control your orgasm will get much better with age. When I was younger I was like a bottle rocket; once I hit my late 20’s, though, I could go all night. So, I really wouldn’t stress out too much about this — I don’t think that you have an unusual problem, just one that most guys don’t talk about.

Originally Posted by matutinal_euphony

Those studies are bunk! Besides, don’t get ‘orgasm’ confused with ‘ejaculation’.

Post yours.

If you have performance anxiety, ssri’s will help until you get old enough and more experienced to know how to really hold it.

I’d venture to say what separates a sex God from an average chump is understanding how to utilize semen retention.


Recognize.

Originally Posted by shortD80
Citalopram
Paroxetine
Clomipramine
Sildenafil

That will give you a starting point to research pubmed or talk to a doc.

ETA: Dapoxetine may also be an option, don’t know where approval on it stands. Ridiculously pricey though.

Nowadays a very good approach is start using a IRSSs for some weeks till it reach good blood level.. Than using a phosphodiesterase inhibitor. It solves the most “emotional” cases.

So yeah I’m not having sex but I know I wouldn’t be able to last through foreplay

What can be done for this kind of prematurity?

Originally Posted by Bhauk
So yeah I’m not having sex but I know I wouldn’t be able to last through foreplay

What can be done for this kind of prematurity?


Read the threads I’ve posted earlier….

Originally Posted by Bhauk
So yeah I’m not having sex but I know I wouldn’t be able to last through foreplay

What can be done for this kind of prematurity?


Listen up: if you want to control your ejaculate, you need to learn how that is done. It’s that simple. Like I said, the idea is ‘ejaculation control’. You need to start masturbating without ejaculating at the end so you can begin learning how to not ejaculate. Eventually you will have finer control over everything… For now, don’t worry about actually getting yourself off. Instead, focus on getting yourself nice and hard and sustaining that for 10-15 minutes and then just stopping. Whenever you learn how to do this, talk to me again and I’ll help you with the rest.


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