Problems getting 100% / Ejaculating
I hope someone here can help me with my problem. I have a hard time getting an 100% erection, and when I get one I starts to get flaccid again, and have an pretty ok semi erection - I really have to concentrate with kegels to keep hard during sex. And if I stay hard for a long time I also have problems ejaculating. I need to be ~100% to ejaculate. My penis gets harder under my pants etc. when I am kissing with my girlfriend, and when we are petting in bed, but really whenever I start thinking about penetration I get performance anxiety. I am happy with my current size which has gone from 15 to 18cm, but could it still be the “fear for a small dick phenomen”, and I really aren’t happy deep inside afterall? I am also have fears about that my erection “fluffiness” is because of creation of scar tissue in the penis, large veins or something else mechanical.
Basically my problems are:
-Difficulty to get 100% during intercourse, lately during mastrubation too - I think this is psychological.
-Can’t ejaculate with girlfriend, will get limp before.
-I feel I need to be 110% to have good sex, and get worried.
-I am afraid that PE is hurting my penis/erections.
I think I should:
-Stop using pornography. To get back my senses/requirements to ejaculate etc..
-Stop stretching/hanging my penis alot. To be sure of not having hurt/reduced nerves.
-Maybe talk to my girlfriend about my performance anxieties.
-Stop worrying so much… should be very easy :p
Is there anything else I should do? Has anybody experienced this themselves, does this seem like a known situation? Thoughs? Reflections? Please help out, and please ask if I should elaborate more.
Btw I’m soon to be 19 years old and this is my first regular sexual relationship. Can this performance anxiety have anything to do with my first time, a good while ago, when I was smaller and was really tired and didn’t get fully aroused. Personally I feel this incident didn’t have a big impact on me, and just lately I have had the episode in my mind. Could have been lying there dwelling?
Might I have a small depression?
Thanks and please ask if I am expressing myself unclear.