problem keeping it up, only to cum too early

So lastnight I was with a chick and we ended up banging… I had trouble keeping it up and then when I was hard I only lasted 3-5 mins before ejaculation. This is with a condom btw. Anyone have any tips on lasting longer like at least 30mins or so? Thanks

how about when you feel like you’re coming, pull it out and go down on her?

Practice edging as part of your PE routine. Masturbate until close to ejaculation, then slow down or hold back. Keep practicing this and it will help.

Ah, hmm yeah that sounds like it would work. I’ll have to try that see if the practice helps. The problem with changing positions is if i take it out then my errection goes down.

I’ve delt with the same problem and probably always will. I just attribute it to being overly sensitve to arousal.

In my experience the key to performance is your frame of mind and the frame of mind of your partner. You have to be relaxed and comfortable with your partner, and they with you. Expect to have a good time and allow youself the time to do so.
if you are anxious about performing poorly you probably will.

My first time with anyone is usually a dud. You are not familiar with each other and don’t know what to expect. Its just a time for discovery. When I did hook up with a woman that I was comfortable with and I knew wanted to be with me it went great after the first time.

From a technical standpoint, it helps to give yourself time to get sufficiently aroused. I don’t mean just getting hard, but aroused to the point to which you don’t need any further arousal to stay hard. Take time for lots of foreplay and allow her to work on you manually and/or orally. I’ve found that at times when I’ve taken the time to get really turned on I feel like I can last all night. Even after cumming , my dick stays hard and I it wil stay up.

Once you put it in, go slow and be aware of your sensitivity. If you feel even near cumming, stop, take it out and wait. Do a hard kegel to hold back an orgasm. Start up again, and keep doing the same thing. Eventually you will get used to being inside her. I usually do this until almost reaching a climax, and will hold it back slightly and then gently let it release. Once you have gotten over the threshold of arousal, the sensitvity is dulled and I find I can then last much longer. You will get the sensitivity back once you start fucking again but it will build up over time. I find that my orgasms are bigger when this happens.

It can also help to take your mind off of the sensation, to not think about what you are doing. I talked to a porn star once and asked him how they can last so long. He said that he just looks around the room and thinks about the pictures on the wall. I’m not sure how easy that would be, but for him it worked.

As I mentioned above, the key to this is having a good partner that is patient and is more interested in being with you, not just in getting banged.

I had a girlfriend in the past who was so beautiful and sexy that I would nearly cum just looking at her. Getting hard was no problem, but she was such a head case and so impatient that the sex was lousy. If I tried to control my arousal she would get uptight and start complaining, “don’t stop now! You are too slow… you are too fast… hurry up… forget it, I’m already finished”
It got to the point with this chick that I would make up excuses not to sleep with her, because it wasn’t worth the trouble.

I had another friend who wasn’t as sexy but was very easy going and relaxed. I was very comfortable with her and she was totally patient with me. We would have sex for 1 1/2 - 2 or 3 hrs. on and off. She had multiple screaming orgasms, but thats probably just her.

The point is the sex was great because we allowed to be be great. You just can’t hurry sex. Unless, of course you’re both already so horny you can’t stand to wait.