Premature Ejaculation. Possible way to cure it.

Hey.

Like some of the guys I suffer from it. In my case it’s related to my masturbation habits. I conditioned my PC muscle to contract every time I masturbate (I can’t control it, but I can feel it), this way I come in less than 30 seconds. My way may work for you if some of these are true for you:

-You get the involuntary twitching (kegel) when erect, something like once per 2-5 seconds.
-Your PC muscle tightens up or contracts when you do a single stroke/enter her.
-You feel that your PC muscle is contracted most of the time when you have during intercourse/masturbation.
-Something between above.

Well the whole way to overcome it is to get rid of said unwanted contraction.

So let’s get our hands dirty then:

It’s the same two steps you repeat every time.

1.First try getting rid of it while erect and doing nothing (probably some of you won’t have them, I had and had to get rid of it). Try breathing slowly (with your belly) and focus on relaxing your PC floor muscle. Imagine you’re about to take a piss (don’t push, just let your muscles go), it’s also a good idea to pee before trying this. I peed my pants a little on the first try :S

2.Once you’re comfortable with controlling your PC muscle it’s the time to get visualization into account. Physically don’t change anything, don’t speed up or anything, just this time use your imagination at 100%. Imagine you’re having sex with your dream woman, SLOW, steamy sex, to Barry White’s tunes. Imagine the pressure done by her tight/wet pussy. It’s crucial to make it as realistic as possible (in your head). And all the time try to have your PC muscle relaxed, don’t even let the bastard think about contracting.

It was the first step with erection only, once you master it, swich to “gentle grab”, then a super slow stroke etc. Just make a list of things that make your involuntary contractions and work from there:

1.Erection
2.Grab
3.Super Slow Stroke
4. (couple steps here with higher speeds and intensity).
5. same as 3. this time with lube
6. same as 4. with lube
7. by this time you’ll get the idea and be able to translate this solo steps into real sex.

START OUT SLOW, if you think you need 3 days to get rid of the erection contractions (1.) MAKE IT 5 DAYS. Really, what is one-three months compared to the rest of your life ?

Take your time dammit, rushing is what made this problem for you in the first place!

I’m somewhere around 4. and I’ve never been able to sustain that long in last 2 or so years, so yeah, it works for me.

I know most of it was said somewhere in the net (especially breathing techniques and visualization).

Really good information. I’m definatly gonna try this

Hey Liscie! I’m a major PE sufferer so I’m gonna try this but I was wondering, are you still doing kegels as an exercise? just not during masturbation/sex?

I’ve read Sildenafil Citrate delays ejeculation. Have you guys with PE tried that?

I can only cosign what Liscie wrote. I was able to significantly improve my stamina when I started working towards avoiding the involuntary muscle contractions. Reverse kegels in a combination with edging were the key for me.

Wow! Tons of information. Definitely gonna try it!

Djufu, I have read the same. One of the things doctors prescribe if you have problems cumming on V is yohimbine. I think I read over active histamine levels can be a factor in cumming quick. Maybe taking a benedryl will slow one down? I don’t recommend daily use but a try and see probably will not hurt and if it works it allows you to have some choice about cumming fat or cumming slow.

Benadryl may work, but probably because it’s a weak Serotonin/Noradrenaline Reuptake Inhibitior. You won’t feel like having sex if you take a dose high enough to have an effect though.

Any SSRI antidepressant (Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil) will slow you down. Too much of a dose can cause ED. It’s kind of a strange feeling.