Premature Ejaculation, I'm trying to fight it, but I can't.

I’m having sex almost every day to at lease 3-4 times a week, I’m 18.5

I think that it’s all in my head, worrying about my size, I’ve been there and I know that, but it’s still bothering me and there is nothing to do about it, I’m facing it.

Worrying about having a venous leak is not helping me, something I have weak erections, I used to stay hard even when coming 3 times in a row, and now I can’t, I can barely stay hard after one time, when I’m coming for the first time, usually after 1-2 minutes (top) sometimes less, the second is really hard, I can lose my erection after a few in and outs, I need to be on top when I’m really above her if I lie on her, like full body meets, and not using my knees and hands to keep me really above I’m loosing my erection very fast and using a 50-60% erect penis to keep the intercourse going, although I can keep with out coming for a long period of time, when I’m coming inside it gets lube, so she is not really feeling me and I can keep on going for a long time, but again, when she lubed, I sliding in, there in not a lot of sensation, she prefers me to come on her belly and not inside, cause she will get lubed and she won’t really feel me, me gland when erect are really little, it’s not helping alot with satisfying her, If I had a normal healthy penis (with no leaks) me glans we’re a lot bigger, like when I’m pressing my dorsal vein, and maybe the sex was better.

There are times when I’m getting my finger in there and I feel something like a balloon in her vagina, her walls swells a lot and there is a lot of room inside, this frighten me cause I can’t feel her much and she can’t feel me, like the inside of a ball.

I’ve tried kegeling before the PONR, it’s helping, but I’m coming a few seconds after, maybe 30 seconds later, I’ve tried ejaculating before the intercourse with no luck, the fear of losing the erection or coming too fast is upsetting me, and making my Premature Ejaculation even worse then before.

I’ve tried not thinking about the sex, I’ve tried math during the intercourse, I’ve tried focusing on my breathing, and focusing on any certain area in the body, I’ve tried to relax, I’ve had sex a couple of hours before the intercourse and again, I came fast, I’ve tried a lot of positions, and nothing helped me.

The fear of not satisfyingly my GF is bothering me, she used the come more then one time, and now I need to come 3 times for lasting long enough to make her come.

I can’t keep my mind out of my problems and issues during sex and I think that it’s effecting me.

How can I treat my Premature Ejaculation?

Thanks a lot.

SSRI and/or psychological treatment, will power, and relaxation.

What is SSRI?

Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are a class of antidepressants used in the treatment of depression, anxiety disorders, and some personality disorders. They are also typically effective and used in treating premature ejaculation problems.

Google my friend…

Also searching a bit on the forums might help, there are a lot of topics on the subject of PE here.

OS_q,

You are going to get very run down cumming so much. Some guys can come 8 times a day, but most can’t. Most guys who had the ability to stay hard after ejaculating generally found they lost it with age.

Your body is trying to tell you to find another way to deal with your pe. There are lodas of posts here about exercises etc. Read for instance Need some advice from all you long lasters. . My pet theory is that ejaculation only occurs in the presence of tension. I am not just talking about premature ejaculation, but ordinary ejaculation.

Out of interest, how chilled out are you as a person?

I’m not a chilled out person, I’m the opposite, I’m working with some one that treat problems of nervous and stress, she is doing it by pressing a lot of spots in the body, and teaching you how to avoid the pain, stress, how to relax, I’m always thinking about my issues before sex, during sex, about not lasting, or how much time it’ll take this time..

I though about telling the women who treats me about my pe, but I don’t know if it will be a good idea, that’s not the reason I’m there, she told me that some thing is bothering me, she felt it in my foot, something that I’m not telling, well she’s right but I don’t know if I should tell, she’s working on the body, but I don’t know if she ever dealt something like this.

Are you talking about acupuncture, acupressure, Reikii (or how ever it is spelled), reflexology, or trigger point therapy massage?

Are you anxiety prone in general, but not visibly anxious? You know the silently stressed and about everything. Or is this problem really the sole source of stress?

It’s more of reflexology, or trigger point therapy massage, it’s not Reikii.

I can just say that there are a lot of things in my mind lately, past 5-7 months, I think that my main problem is worrying to much, about my penis, about all the issues around me, nobody knows about it, just Thunder’s members.

So I can say that my anxiety is not visible, I couldn’t understand what you meant here “? You know the silently stressed and about everything. Or is this problem really the sole source of stress?”

I think that the main point is the nervous and anxiety issues.

I think what twat wanted to say was, which came first, the anxiety or the premature ejaculation..

I’ve read what you said and I think it would be a good thing if you found someone to talk to about your problems, the ones you have outside bed. I’ve found that lurking around Thunder’s is great, but dedicating too much time to this talk about size and lasting made me a little too self conscious and made me pay a little too much attention to details that shouldn’t really be there. I really had a time when I would have sex with my girl and not so much pay attention to her but to how I fit and how big she is, which is really counterproductive. Thinking about how long I would last with her only complicated the matter, as I was more anxious and so lasted even less, and worse, not even enjoying my orgasms, short and premature as they were. I decided to talk to her about it and she really was helpful and understanding and made me see that it didn’t really matter how long I lasted if we were both happy with it. You might want to take the same route, and talk to her about it rather then bottling it inside you.

Stress and anxiety can be hard to beat, and we all have our ups and downs. Your problem seems to be coming more from the stress of work or school or family life, or the need to fill her needs. Talk to someone about it, maybe someone that knows you, or someone who is prepared to listen, even if not giving you a solution at least you will get a different point of view of everything. May I suggest your girlfriend? I found that most girls like to talk about things like this, stress, anxiety, worries, because they can relate to them. Opening up to her might just bring you to closer together. Just don’t make it all about penis size and vagina size.

Good luck

Your case is totally mine too, thinking about those issues during sex, when we’re having sex, I feel the same as you did.

"Need to fill her needs”, yes, I’m thinking about that, about my future, I’m worrying too much, I can’t recall the last time I really enjoyed an orgasm, I’m always trying to stop it, or thinking on whatever I should do to stop it.

I should talk to someone, but my girl doesn’t has much experience in sex or life, she is still kind of a little women who is developing, she is childish sometimes, but it’s her character, she can also be very understandable, but I don’t think that she’ll understand, she can help with motivating me, but she can’t help with a solution because of her lack of experience.

Do you have any more ideas?

Os q- I actually found this site trying to research “the other PE” premature ejaculation. You should definitely tell your pressure point person about your issue- Acupuncture is one of the ways that has been used succesfully by people here and pressure points are very similar. I know it’s been said- but do a search on this site fore preature ejaculation it will come back with some great info.

One thing you may try is going to town on your girl with your mouth and hands before penetration- this way you can probably make her come at least once and take some pressure off you, also what is your fore play like? if it’s less than 20 minutes… get it to 20 minutes.