Premature ejaculation at an all time low.

I know there are several threads on premature ejaculation on here (I have even started a few myself) but I hit an all time low yesterday and in desperate need of some help.

Here is a little background information on my condition. About 9 months ago, I acquired PRE out of nowhere. Prior to that, I could last as long as I wanted. Suddenly, out of no where, I couldn’t last longer then 20 seconds. This has been going on since last September. I am serious when I say that I cannot last longer then 20 seconds, yes its pathetic.

Well last night my GF and I had sex for the first time in about a month (I have been so disgusted with myself that I have not wanted to engage in sex, not to mention we haven’t been getting along great lately). It literally felt like my first time having sex in my life. I was pretty nervous and my anxiety was at an all time high. Needless to say that I last about my normal 20 seconds. At this point I have no idea where to turn. I guess my next step would be to visit an urologist to seek his advice. I have asked several members on this board about what helped for them but nothing seems to help me at this moment.

Here are some things that I have tried that haven’t helped:
edging, breathing techniques, long lasting spray, there are some more but I cant seem to think of them now.

I wish that I could help you, but the best I can do is perhaps offer a possible avenue of explanation and cause for this. All we do know is that high histamine levels will sometimes manifest as quick climaxing, even premature ejaculation. That is the basis for my answer to your thread. The question is, do you match the rest of the profile of symptoms to some degree?

Histadelia (Histamine High) - Symptoms and Diagnosis

Do You Have High Histamine? 4/5ths down the page.

Kewana I’m going through this crap right now man, so trust me I feel your pain. I’m currently with a hot little 21 year old and cannot last more then 5 seconds up in her, it’s driving me insane..

I think I know my problem though (KEGELS) and who knows it might just be yours as well. It just seems to me that for many guys Kegels do more harm then good.

I really don’t have much time to go in-depth about it, but when I cut Kegels out of my routine for a few days I was able to last longer, and when I started to add them back in guess what..

So for now on, no more Kegels for me that’s for certain. Hell I’m at the point now that I don’t even want to push the last bit of urine out when I use the bathroom.

Edge and screw doing kegels if you do them since KEGELS ARE THE DEVIL!

May I suggest it has more to do with your anxiety and relationship problems than anything else?

kingme - that could very well be the case. As I have said before, this whole issue takes its toll on the relationship and my overall well being. However, there have been times when I felt extremely confident, relaxed, and just overall a good state of mind about our relationship and sex only to blow my load in 20 seconds.

There are many factors to consider when dealing with this situation. I too have it sometimes, and what works for me is talking to her about it, making sure she has her share of orgasms, and then relax. If I blow too soon, we will do it again, better.

Something that worked for me was using a condom with desensitizing solution inside. The trick I found was to put it on and then give her some oral while the cream worked for a few minutes.
Also, a relaxing setting and 1 cup of wine each helps a lot. Never more for you though.

****update***

Well the GF and I had sex again tonight after taking a mini break from sex again. I have been practicing edging/peaking for a quite a while now with hopes of it showing some signs.

Well I masturbated about an hour and a half before we had sex in order to help prepare me as much as possible.

Needless to say I didn’t last very long. I did however last about 5 minutes but with continuous stops/pauses and thrusting very slow. However, I could see the frustration on her face as I would start thrusting a bit faster and then have to stop in order to withhold from ejaculating.

Finally after not wanting to disappoint her even more, I just went at it hard for about 10 seconds and finally “went.” I guess you could consider this a positive since I did last for a few minutes.

I feel you Kewana, keep your head up man. Been there, done that (too quickly I might add). How long you guys been dating?

How are your kegels? Are you doing any kegels at all?

Hey Kewana, good job there. Don’t worry about it, you will get further. You might also want to try giving her an orgasm before you start thrusting away so that you and her won’t worry so much about not being able to satisfy her.

Strange thing is, on some girls I found that rather then pulling out for less stimulation just letting it rest deep inside her would feel just as relaxing. Anyone else felt this? Or is it just me dating girls with weird shaped vaginas.

If you feel comfortable with it, try wearing a cock ring.

I gaurantee you will find it much harder to cum, and your girth will pop out a bit too. Good luck.

invictus - Been dating for about a year now.

I do not do kegels as much now, however I used to do them a bunch a few months ago but it seemed like no matter how many or how much time I put into it, they weren’t helping at all.

Kegels don’t work for every one, when I did them they made be shoot faster. I tried cock rings also they help to an extent but not by much they have to be real tight but if too tight they can be uncomfortable and even make ejaculating painful.

I’ve found ‘resting deep’ and then working the BC for about 25 iterations of a second each, sometimes ‘grinding’ while I’m at it to keep her stimulated works well (and my lady really likes that) backs me down to go for a while again.

Johanson, you are correct. Going in deeper can have this effect. I wrote about it on chicken’s thread: Need some advice from all you long lasters.

I am still trying to get to the bottom of it. I think this is something that people who own a fleshlight should experiment with. Thrust right in and push gently, so that the entrance is pleasantly pushing on your fat pad. Then just rest there for a while. I have a theory that it stimulates a kind of numbness under the glans, but have no idea why. I will be writing more on the subject when I get more feedback from myself and others.

I see. You sure it was the BC muscle, and not just the pelvic floor muscles? I started out doing kegels for a long time, and I gave up a couple times, later to find out it was my pelvic floor muscles and not just my BC muscle, but when I started doing erect kegels, I can now pick out and isolate my BC muscle, while driving for instance. I think this is the biggest problems for people and kegels, but its quietly covered up as “not doing anything for me.” Try erect kegels for a week, and if you feel like its too easy, get a shoelace string and tie it through a tape roll, and use it to add weight to your erect kegels.