Precum/cum leakage?

Wasn’t sure which forum to post this in, so I apologize in advance if this is the wrong place for this post.

I will do my best to explain what is happening to me in the hopes that someone here has some good advice to offer or has experienced similar behavior. FYI: I’m 46 and in good health.

I once mentioned this to a GP and he just looked at me like I’m crazy (obviously he had no clue what to suggest).

Over the past few years, I have developed a “condition” that I can describe in 2 ways:

1) During sex and masturbation, I leak much more precum than I ever did in prior periods of my life. The volume and frequency of precum is far greater than ever before. It is not discharge or anything like that. It doesn’t hurt. It’s just the usual precum, but in much greater amounts. Constant flow. The main problem I have with this condition is that when using condoms they tend to slip/slide upward during sex - sometimes completely off - so it’s a constant source of worry during sex. I believe that I am slightly smaller/thinner than average, judging by the various regular condoms I wear. I have tried smaller/narrower condoms but they are way too tight (veins bulging/painful).

2) I sometimes - unintentionally and without warning - partially “ejaculate” prior to having an orgasm or when I’d normally ejaculate. Not a full load, but anywhere from a major spurt to more than a half load. This is mainly a problem because it immediately reduces the hardness of my erection. It happens when I’m nearing the point of orgasm and would usually “pull back” or “clamp down”. It’s as if the building pressure becomes too great for whatever usually holds the cum back, and then a lot of cum is released in one spurt. Very frustrating. I’ve sometimes had to tell a somewhat mystified woman “No - I didn’t cum - please don’t stop!”. lol.

Is there some kind of valve or “door” that is responsible for keeping the cum at bay pre-orgasm, that in my case has either weakened or isn’t performing as it used to? Is there an exercise to strengthen that part or whatever it is? Please keep in mind…it is NOT premature ejaculation, i.e. not a loss of mental control, if you know what I mean. I can still continue sex, reach orgasm, and ejaculate the remaining fluid (half load or less).

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

slick, are you taking any supplements and are you on any regular medications?

Its *free* Lube ;)

Congratz :D

Slick…I have this problem whenever I use Sudafed. I sometimes ejaculate before I orgasm. Sudafed fills my prostate so full of fluid it sort of aches and leaks and even discharges prostatic fluid. MXL

Just out of curiosity Magnum. What type of sudafed do you? I looked at their website and there were about a dozen types

Thanks for the replies.

None.

I was wondering if it isn’t somehow related to previous jelqing? A few years ago, I did some wet jelqing for about a month. Not too intense. No bruising or injuries. But I noticed that the problem began around that time. Coincidence? I don’t know. Maybe it’s just an aging thing?

I hope I was clear. It’s NOT that I lose control. It happens way before the point of no return. It’s as if the floodgate is briefly opened due to moderate building pressure rather than the usual orgasm-triggered full release.

I have started doing kegels as part of a renewed effort at PE. Perhaps that will help.

I should probably go see a urologist and see if there’s anything that can be done. Thought that maybe someone here knew the physics of it, i.e. which parts are involved in releasing the semen.

I wondered about this, too. Sudafed is a major erection killer for me.

Avocet and Petit……I love and hate Sudafed. It really clears up my sinuses when my head is clogged up. And it gives me a shot of energy. The molecular structure and physiological effect of Sudafed is similar to adrenalin. But it bloats my prostate with fluid and is an erection killer because it constricts blood vessels. In fact…for priapism…the approach is to use Afrin (Oxymethozoline) nasal spray first. If that doesn’t work…2 Sudafed. If that doesn’t work, see a doctor.

I use a generic “Equate” brand “Suphedrine” that is 30 mg of Pseudophedrine hydrochloride.

Slickdick

I have EXACTLY the same problem! I’m 35 and I’ve always had a bit of precum but in the last couple years I have so much that I have to change condoms every 5 minutes. I’ve even had them come off inside my partners. It’s frustrating and embarrassing, especially when I’m with a new woman and after fooling around when she finally pulls my cock out I’m all wet. I usually have a hard time keeping an erection after this because of the embarrassment.

I also have the same issue with ejaculating early - almost exactly the way you described it! Especially the part about “Don’t stop!” haha. I’ll actually come quite a bit before I even feel the orgasmic waves.

Anyway, I don’t know what causes it, but I have always wondered if it has something to do with frequent masturbation - I sometimes masturbate up to 3 times per day, though I’m trying to cut way back to see if I can get this under control. How much do you masturbate?

I sympathize with ya bro - let me know if you discover anything.

Nice to hear I’m not the only one. Yes, I too have swapped out condoms mid-sex. It’s a real drag to have to keep looking down to see if it’s slipping off or not. Especially difficult in the dark. And that concern leads to softening of erection, which makes the problem worse.

re: masturbation: If frequent masturbation was the cause…these boards would be overflowing with guys complaining of the same problem.

I’ve started doing “kegels” to see if that will make a difference. Seems to make things “tighter” in that area. I’ll try it for a month or so and report my findings.

As for the slipping condoms, a temporary solution is to use a thin cockring. It’ll give you peace of mind. You can use one that’ll also stimulate her and then tell her it’s for HER benefit. ;)

Also, as avocet suggested to me, try custom condoms using a tighter size than normal. Another thing I have noticed is that some condoms actually have lubrication or liquid (for increased sensitivity or staying power, etc) on both the inside and outside! Any lubrication on the inside will make the slipping problem much worse. The shape of the head of the condom can make a difference too.

I had a GF who used a lot of cream on her hands to prevent dryness, but when she would play with me prior to me putting the condom on, some cream would of course rub off on me. That cream would then get mixed with the precum/leakage and make things too wet/lubricated inside the condom. Same thing applies when getting a BJ before putting the condom on. So wipe your penis with the bedsheet or a kleenex before putting the condom on.

I’m also starting to do kegels. Hopefully that helps a bit.

The condom slippage worry is one thing, but also, don’t you find that once your cock becomes wet inside the condom, you not fucking her anymore, but simply fucking the condom as it slips on and off while you go in and out? I find this sensations is not enjoyable at all and I just can’t keep a good erection - the only position I can keep an erection is doggy-style.

Fuck I hate condoms. Why does there have to be pregnancy and STDs?

Update: Got back from a weekend of fun with an old friend -> new lover. :) Hadn’t had sex in a long time (aside from masturbation) so it was a real trip (mental and physical).

Wanted to report that I think the kegels have helped improve the “spurts”. I am still leaking a lot of precum, but it’s the clear kind. I have not experienced one of those partial-ejaculation white-ish squirts in a few weeks.

Unfortunately, I’m having two problems in the sex department: 1)my erections were NOT as strong as usual. Not sure why. Maybe overdoing the jelqing? It’s as if my penis was too heavy or blood filled. Felt numb. Wasn’t peeing normally either - light stream. 2) having trouble maintaining erection. Gets hard, then slowly goes softer (not completely soft, but semi-erect), and then when I get excited again it gets harder again. I thought the kegels would improve this problem but apparently not. Any suggestions for the erection maintenance?

Regardless, I had a great time. Was a good experience. She’s insanely multi-orgasmic (a welcome surprise!) so I didn’t have to be at the top of my game for her to have a good time.

As for the condom slippage - I was ecstatic to find out that she was on the pill and had tests done. She’s a very old friend, so I decided to trust her. Maybe that was a mistake - but that’s life.

Oh, one last thing. I ordered custom fit condoms in a few sample-pack sizes and they arrived today. Hopefully that will help with the slippage (ordered them a bit tighter and shorter than normal).

Yea I’ve just noticed that I’ve been pre-cumming in insane amounts lately

It seems every 20-30 seconds I have to dab it off with something.

I am 22 years old, and I like to think I am at the peak of my sexuality. I am somewhat healthy, although I haven’t been working out so much lately.

The clear precum is normal. And a lot of it I don’t think is a problem, except for condoms. But a lot of precum I would interpret it as a healthy reproductive system. Precum is made by the cowpler’s gland and is responsible of lubrication. Now for the white cum spurts, yeah the are valves allowing cum to come out from porstate and seminal vesicles into the prostatic urethra. But there is a key element here. If you discharge the cum and are able to keep going with no sign of orgasm yet, yes maybe could be a problem with a valve. On the other hand, if after this discharge you feel tired and loose erection like you do after orgasm, then the problem is in the brain. When the brain triggers orgasm, it controls the prostate and at the same time release a large amount of prolactin; this chemical is responsible to kill the erection and give you that tired, weak, exhausted sensation. So in this case i would interpret the problem as if the brain is triggering half orgasm….I am no doctor so I cannot tell accurately, but with my level of knowledge in the cawk engineering, that’s what i guess.

Problem, that’s not a problem!