not cumming fast enough!!!

Hey guys I am having a problem that is pretty much the opposite of what people consider a big problem. My problem is that I can’t cum fast enough, I can literally go as long as I want. I know that probably doesn’t sound like a bad thing but it has become an issue in my sex life. I mean my girlfriend gets tired before me. I make her orgasm and after that she is pretty much done, but I’m still at it. It’s gotten to the point where I won’t even finish because I literally can’t. I used to think that going for an hour was a great thing but now it’s killing me. after my girlfriend gets off, she just kinda lays there waiting for me…I actually feel bad. I’m kinda lost as to what to do. Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anything that I can do to have some kind of control over it?

Thanks for any help.

You’re not alone slim, I’ve had this problem a few times, especially if I’ve had a drink or two.. :) The worst part is that when it has happened, not only is my girl tired out, she also feels that she’s not ‘doing it’ for me - like I’m bored or something, certainly not the case..

This occurs with me only once a month or so and I don’t know of a quick fix, but perhaps practising edging prior (a few hours) to intercourse will stimulate your body into ejaculating quicker?

Good luck buddy :up:

Can this be sensitivity problem? Do you have the same problem with masturbation?

Get a new girlfriend you don’t have a problem:) . I also can last pretty much as long as I want when I want to cum I just relax my muscles down there and almost push out a little. This way I can last 5 minutes if I’m looking for a quickie or an hour if I want it to last.

Alcohol can prolong ejaculation, sometimes uncomfortably. I have a friend who can’t get off for a very long time if he drinks gin. I don’t know if it’s the gin or just the alcohol that causes the anorgasmia.

Ejaculatory incompetence…..

http://www.goog le.com/search?h … incompetence%22

Thanks guys.

Drilla, I know what you mean my girl was actually upset because she thinks she just doesn’t do it for me. I have tried edging before but it didn’t really help.

Dinkytoy, masterbation is a lot quicker. Don’t really have a problem there. At this point It’s probably just in my head.

matter of fact I think in all our time we’ve had about 2 quickies, she seems to like those too. But seems like everytime we get to it, she needs to be ready for a marathon.

TT’s link is a good thing to look up - anybody who has anorgasmia. Sometimes the reasons for ejaculatory incompetence are not the ones we want to look at square in the eye: a partner who in all other areas is perfect to us, or a deep and hidden fear of impregnating someone, etc.. Brains and cocks are very closely aligned.

Looks like you need to talk with Zaneblue. I have the same problem as you and have for a while. Sex feels more like a workout after the initial excitements wears off. I feel bad for my wife because sometimes I really have to go at it to go and that in turn can make her sore. As Zane recommends in her diet, take fish oil. I’m not sure to the extent it’s working because my wife is pregnant and to be honest, the creepiness factor of knowing there is something there is distracting me. You on the other hand sound like you would make a good guinea pig. I’ve noticed since starting taking the oil, my erections seem easier to maintain while jelqing and my workouts seem to have more energy behind them.

Are you fucking hard from the get-go?

If I bang away recklessly from the beginning, my dick gets desensitized FAST, and it becomes increasingly harder to cum the longer I stay at it.

I would recommend restraining yourself at the beginning of intercourse. Techniques like the one described in this thread are gentle on the penis while bringing the woman tons of pleasure. After your partner has had enough, you can begin to make things more intense for yourself through more pronounced thrusting, and with the mental focus solely on your own pleasure — with no concern for lasting long enough for your partner — you may be able to reach orgasm as quickly as you do when masturbating.

Go on my diet, that should fix you up right away, see my links list in my signature. Also two things—cut down on how much you masturbate and get a regular insert Fleshlight to do it. Both will improve sensitivity.

Slim,

I have a few questions for you.

How long have you been with your girlfriend? Have you had this problem before (in previous relationships). Do you always experience this situation with your currently girlfriend?

Sometimes in a new relationship this can happen. Try to relax, I think you will find this situation will quickly resolve itself.

My suggestion is when this happens to let it be about her and don’t focus on your orgasm. As I’ve gotten older I don’t have an orgasm every time. Sometimes I can go for hours. When I feel this way, I let my wife know that it’s about her and that frees her up to concentrate on her own orgasm. I believe it’s a positive thing. Men are so often selfish sexually, it’s refreshing not to be.