No More Porn For Me

So I blew my first load in about 50 days. It was at the hands of a thai massage girl. I swear I’ve never come so much in my life. She’s probably still cleaning her ceiling. It was epic! :-P

I haven’t had erection quality like this in years. It’s freaking awesome. I haven’t been this sensitive since I was a teenager. I’m still off the porn for good and cutting down on the masturbation. I might even start doing some PE again which I haven’t tried in years because I never got any length gains. For me it’s more about EQ now. I just want a daimond hard dick really.

Nice, just be sure not to fall back into old habits now that you’ve had a release. I’d say the next few days will be your real challenge.

Here’s a great link, not sure if it’s been posted yet: http://www.reun iting.info/down … f/Cupid-Ch6.pdf

I really like the Maria lady from reunited’s approach to pornography addiction- secular & rational. & she makes a lot of sense.

I took a dive off the wagon a couple days ago. At least I found out what 25 days with no porn was like. That probably hasn’t happened since I was…12? The one thing that’s definitely a good thing is that I can feel the difference from the unnatural “high” I get from watching porn and being “clear headed” without it, so to speak. There are brain chemicals that I can “feel” swirling around in my head during and after I watch it that aren’t there in such high amounts during day to day activities. I need to figure out what my next move is.

No fear of going back to porn. It’s hard not to jerk off though, but I’m really trying to keep that down to a minimum and only "unleash the fury" on actual ladies. I have read through pretty much all the porn relevant stuff on reuniting.info and it’s very good.

That’s a decent first attempt. 3 weeks is awesome. Just start again. It gets easier to go without every attempt. I can totally relate to being more clearheaded and switched on without porn.

I agree with the general idea here but I would to take the idea one stage further. I don’t think porn is the only culprit. Our sexual fantasies and sexual behaviour may have just the same effect.

What we are talking about here is simply “habituation”, which is basically a term to describe the reduction in our psychological response when repeatedly subjected to a stimulus. Or in other words we are bored with it and it does nothing for us any more. We then require a more extreme stimulus to get excited.

This happens to all areas of our life, but sticking to the sexual arena this can also happen simply through sexual fantasies and I am convinced it’s happened to me.

4 years ago I had a strong healthy (some might say unhealthy ! ), Sex drive. I then met this girl, who managed to bring to my attention my dick size inadequacies. This lead to me having cuckold type fantasies about her. I got her to invent and tell me stories about having sex with men in front of me while she gave me a handjob. When we split up last year, I continued having the same fantasies while masterbating. I became very aroused by this but I started to notice that more ordinary sexual thoughts about other women did nothing for me. Eventually I got into another relationship with an attractive asian girl, but I was unable to get it up without cialis. 3 weeks into the relationship I tried going drug free, but I had virtually no interest and couldn’t get it up. Today is 5 months later and things have improved a little but I have nowhere the same drive I did 4 years ago. This could of course also be related to the size issue.

Another example may be prostitution. A few years back I developed a fascination for hookers and the thrill of having sex with a complete stranger. Too much of that and it could have the same effect.

I find it hard to believe that we can ever completely turn back the clock but I do hope that time can at least partly heal it.

I fell of the band wagon a bunch of times this past month, I’m starting anew as of tomorrow (September 1st). It’s so hard to kick this habit.

Yeah. Give up porn but don’t stop masturbation. Men everytime I tried to stop porn and masturbation after 5 or 7 days I start to go nuts… I get nervous, anxious, paranoid and start to have crazy sexual urges like put something inside my ass to aliviate the tension on my prostate… If you stop masturbation you will turn gay, pedophile, zoophile… Catholic priests are a good example of the negative side of abstinence.

It’s easy to stop porn if you masturbate. When you have the urge to watch porn, just relax and masturbate without porn, use your imagination. After you ejaculate the desire to watch porn is gone… Ejaculation is good, healthy, natural…

I’m not sure I want to be a zoophile…. :(

Once again, the stopping masturbation thing is a temporary measure in the context of dealing with porn addiction. It’s not about never masturbating. I will say this though, I believe that daily masturbation when you’re a horny teenager is one thing and is arguably normal because kids need to explore and lots don’t have a proper sex partner to have real sex with. Daily masturbation in your 30’s is not normal. You should be out there slaying real women, not beating off into a gym sock. /me braces for the deluge of naysayers.

Your comments about homosexuals and pedophiles and the Catholic church are pretty whack in my opinion. The Catholic church has a bad rap sure, but I think this is mainly due to the hypocrisy factor rather than there being a relatively high percentage of kiddy-fiddlers in the church. Check out the Megan Sex Offender Locator http://www.mega … disclaimer.aspx if you think that this activity is somehow confined to churches. In densely populated areas there’s at least one offender every few of blocks.

You’ll probably find you recover a lot quicker by applying total abstinence. Guilt, shame, and novel partners all cause excessive amounts of dopamine to be released, similar to how porn addiction takes hold. You could try a 60-90 day break from everything. No sex, porn, masturbation and you’ll find your brain returning to it’s original normal sexual state. From what I’ve read this stuff is 100% reversible. You’ll probably have to work on the dick-size issues too as a separate issue. CBT might be able to help or NLP type methods too.

A lot of men stay with emotionally abusive women because they believe (and it’s just a belief) that they can’t do any better. It’s similar to how battered women stay with physically abusive men. Nobody should tolerate any form of abuse in a relationship. They is no excuse. If you’re in this type of relationship, you need to leave.

Can back on the horse straight away and try again. It gets easier with every attempt at abstinence.

I think the lapse may have been a good thing, as I’ve been able to compare my sex drive on porn to my sex drive without it. I feel more intense after edging to porn, but if I jerk off to completion the libido gets wiped out. It was less intense without porn but much more consistent. It’s like the stimuli from porn temporarily shorts out the receptors because its so vivid and graphic.

Just thought I would update.

I was having a big drop in EQ and libido after a little over a week without porn.

Things have gotten much better over the last week. I can make it through all my jelqs and clamping easily without porn.

I’m also not having any trouble keeping it up for sex. I have been shooting my load a little faster than normal but I’m not to worried about it.

I can relate to that. The first two weeks of quitting porn I was scared because I just had no libido whatsoever and EQ and morning wood was non-existent. Things picked up after that but it took a while to get horny again. I still think I’ve got further to go but I can feel my libido raging for the first time in a long time. And it’s awesome.