I heard about two months ago from a friend of a friend that someone I had briefly dated for only two months had a std. At the time that I found this out we had not really spoken since the break up and still haven’t to do this day. I was trying to get tested when I found out at my school but the time of the news went along with the time that the school was closing for winter break and I have not had the access to get tested yet. (Not been sexually active either btw).
To even more complicate the situation, I started dating one of her room mates after we broke up, long story, and she just had lunch with my girlfriend and one of the other room mates. She, the one with the std, never mentioned any of this to my current girlfriend who she knows I am intimate with. Granted, this isn’t something that you want to broadcast to everyone, but you would think that if there was a risk of spreading an std, they would take some action on it. (I totally accept I need to be as well, which is what leads to my question.)
How do I ask her? I really need to know what she has and when she found out. Basically, whether I have a chance of being infected. No symptoms of anything and I am going to get tested anyway, but that takes some weeks and I am going to see my girlfriend in a week and we are both concerned about this.
So hopefully all you wise men and women of Thunders can provide me with some help.
P.S. In regards to safe sex, a condom was always used in addition to birth control, except 1 time where literally there was about 8 seconds of intercourse where we tried without a condom. (Had issues about not wearing a rubber due to something else.) I know that it doesn’t really change the risk of infection to a yes/no but I just didn’t want condom flames. … Could smell the latex fires from here.