I'm loosing my erection when I pause during sex, why

It’s quite strange for me because I can last for 1-2 hours of intercourse normally but when if I bull out my penis I start to loose my erection immediately and it’s only 50% in just 10 seconds sometimes. It’s quite problematic sometimes. Any idea why it’s happening like that? Anybody? ;-)

Maybe you are desensitized, do you watch pornography? If you do, then that might be the reason, because it twists your mind and the woman you love is not arousing to you. That’s bad! But again the problem might be of physiological nature, if it is not the porn, then maybe you should see a doctor.

I don’t think any doctor is going to make me aroused :D

And I don’t suspect any health reason to be honest and I don’t watch porn - I have no time for that (1st thing) and my GF gives me more that I could find in any movie (2’nd thing) ;-)

I agree with Blind. You could just be desensitized, from porn and PE and spankin it. Cocks do go through a refractory period during prolonged sessions. As long as you get hard again with some stinulation I wouldn’t sweat it.

Maybe lay off some of the porn and jackin a bit and see if that helps.

If you stay hard during sex, and only go limp when pulling out or stopping, you are not that unusual. If you start to go soft while still in your girlfriends vagina, that could be a sign of mild ED.

But if it isn’t effecting your sex life, you are probably just noticing the effects of getting older. How old are you? Teens find it easy to walk around with hard dick, even while solving math problems in their head. As we get older, it is normal to need more stimulation to maintain an erection.

Even in porn movies, the studs are usually whacking themselves off when they pull out to change positions etc, to maintain their erections.

I’m 19 and the same thing happens to me when I stop stimulation. I’ve been taking moderate doses of Cialis and it sure has made me more into how I was at 13 or 14. I sure do like that sometimes. And who knows? Maybe us young guys can get some growth out of being stimulated quite a bit.

Guys I have a similar problem! My unit does not go limp, but I have some problems in pleasuring myself when fucking my girl, I don’t why, but it’s very rare when I feel anything on our sex, I do watch to much pornography, the problem it’s that I cannot stop, what I do?? I’ve tried some libido increaser, but does nothing!

Wipe your hard drive and install Slackware without X. That should solve your porn problems. But seriously, if you want to stop watching porn and beating it, delete your stuff and constantly remind yourself why you’re doing it.

I’m 23. And once again - I don’t watch porn more often than once a month! :D I tried kegels but while bouncing my erect unit up-and-down I’m loosing my erection too - it does not get any harder. Or maybe I’m doing something wrong. I know that sex is the essence but.. I like to have a well functioning unit! ;)

The reason that the suggestion was made to go see a urologist is to rule out any physical reason that you would lose your erection during a brief pull out when having intercourse.

I know that you say that you aren’t watching much porn, but even a little can “warp” a guys mind as to how sex should be. And the comment that even those guys are giving themselves self stimulation during change of position is correct.

Go see a doctor and begin the process of ruling out stuff.

Sunshinekid - my brain is not twisted - I like to think so ;)

And the only thing that doc suggested was the urodynamic trial - but what for should I check my urinary ducts?

If the little valve type things aren’t working correctly then you could have some issues.

The plumbing part and the sex part are all the same, there are valves that open and close depending on which part you want to use. I would think (I’m not a guy here) that I would want to know that all of my peices parts were working the way they should. I mentioned your problem to my wonderful loving spouse (who does think like a guy cause he is one) and he said, simple solution, don’t pull out. I wanted to smack him.

Do you masturbate often? It could be that the sensations that you become used to while doing that have trained you along the way to needing the same intensity or sensation (or whatever) during intercourse.

Also, any major change in your life, in family, at work, changing relationships - lots of stuff - can affect your erectile function.

Guys I masturbate a lot and watch to much porn! And I real have some problems with my libido, this can be the cause?? I thought I had some physical (hormone) problem.

Matt: even horny as hell your erection goes down or are you not THAT horny?? Because I sometimes have problems with my erection too, but it’s because my head it’s in the moon, the erection has a lot of variables, and if you have a normal (in my case very very strong) morning erection, than your body it’s very well.

For me, if I ejaculate more than twice a week my libido goes down significantly.