I'm giving up

This week marked the 8th anniversary of the total collapse of my system and the loss of my sexual desire after a sudden mysterious illness.

The details can be found in post #51 here.

Formula1 - cialis overdose

After 8 long years of going to many different types of doctors, after spending thousands of dollars on various drugs and supplements, I’m tired of chasing it. I’ve had enough. This is just mother nature’s way of telling me that this is the way I’m going to be the rest of my life. I turn 45 next month and it’s time to stop thinking about and worrying about sex anyway.

Once I’ve taken all the stuff I currently have in my cupboard, I’m not ordering anything else.

If I were seeing any type of progress at all then it would be another story and I would still continue on. But nothing has worked. Instead of feeling better I just feel worse.

sorry to hear that mate, have you given pumping ago?

Sounds like a good idea for you, seriously completely forget about this site and wanting to have a sex drive. It probably will come back, maybe it won’t. If it doesn’t fuck it man there’s more to life at 45 (i sure hope).

I have endured ED for about 15 years due primarily to diabetes, I am 68 so age is now also contributing to the problem. My T’s were at 240 on my last lab test. To get the job done I had been using 100mg of Viagra and a constriction band around my unit, I started pumping about nine months ago, incorporating Avocet8’s pumping for ED routine as well as prolonged (30+ minutes) at low Hg pumping two or three times a week. I have been able to reduce the dosage to 50Hg, but still require Viagra and the constriction band. You may want to try pumping before you totally give up.

Sorry that things aren’t going well for you! I hope it gets better and that you find what you need.

Just so you know, you do have another sex organ that is not often talked about, it is located in your ass. If your game, you can have your wife use a strap on and fuck you silly and I mean silly. Wouldn’t ordinarily bring this up, but I find a lot of straight guys have no idea that they can completely get off and have an orgasm without even touching their dicks from just getting fucked. So your sex life need not necessarily go completely down the drain, but its going to take a bit of an open mind to say the least.

Yes I did but the pain was too much to take. I have no fat pad so the pressure from the cylinder was killing my abdomen.

Two comments:

1. If you can walk away from the desire to have a sex drive, and be ok with it, well, more power to you. Sometimes I think if I didn’t have a sex drive I could get a hell of a lot more done. (But I do have one, so it is impossible to know what I would think on the “other side”. From my current viewpoint, I feel like I would really miss it. And how it ties into my “male”-ness. But who knows?)

2. If you have the motivation, follow through on the pumping. There has got to be a way around your zero fat pad. I don’t know what kind of pump you have, but some of them have a soft donut between you and the tube, for instance. I know in my own case, pumping re-invigorated my interest in sex several years ago, and I haven’t looked back since. (Although like I said in point #1, maybe I would be a brain surgeon or race car driver by now if I had stayed away from the damn pump! No offense to your situation — just making a wee joke. :) )

Oh I definitely miss having a sex drive. The person I am now and the person I was 8 years ago is literally like night and day. It’s just that there’s no way to ever get it back once it’s gone.

The other problem I had when I had a pump is that I could not keep an erection while in the pump.

I have a ValSeal cylinder from PumpToys. It has a soft silicone cushion around the base and it is very comfortable. As I mentioned earlier, I place a tight constriction band around my package as soon as I withdraw from the tube and it maintains a 7+ erection for 20 minutes. If I take supplements, erection pills and Viagra, I can achieve a 9+ erection, on occasion. Try it with your current cylinder and if it works, invest in the ValSeal cylinder.

I no longer have a pump. I threw it away once I determined I couldn’t use it. Like I said before, I would always go soft right after entering the cylinder.

Good Luck, sorry to hear of your problems.

I used to hear that all of the time back in the Chicago from guys wanting to locate their sex organs up my ass.

:rolleyes:

Formula1, sorry to hear that! Your body has a problem that wasn’t yet solved by physicians…

You shouldn’t give up. Medical knowledge evolves. You may find a better, or more inspired doctor. You could try alternative therapy. When conventional medicine is of no help, sometimes oriental hocus-pocus does the job. Did you try acupuncture? If not, please give it a go! It could be all you need.

I am almost 3 years into lost sex drive for no reason.

It blows