Had a red bump on my penis from alcohol, numbness might have been from your excessive use of it, so get over it, which I’m sure others have already posted.
Oral herpes and genital herpes are transferable. You won’t get mouth symptoms if she has genital herpes. This is what my doctor told me when I had a bad infection of oral herpes last year. I couldn’t eat for about a month and was in bed with a massive fever, which is very rare for adults.