I might be a symptomless carrier of Herpes...anyone else heard of this situation?
Hey guys. I haven’t posted for a while since I’ve been at school. Anyway here goes:
In an earlier post, I mentioned that my long term girlfriend had what we thought was a herpes outbreak. But the test results came back inconclusive, and as far as I knew it was a one time thing.
Then she recently went on Valtrex and told me that she’s had 7 or so outbreaks since then and that she’s managed to keep them relatively secret by segue-ing them into her period or just not being in the mood and/or giving me head.
She also told me that that her whole family has it as cold sores, and there’s evidence that they’re particularly susceptible to outbreaks. However, she says that there’s a 99% or so chance that she caught it from me, since I’m the only one who she’s done anything with (previous virgin, making out and hand-jobs (2) only before me) and it only appeared after we had been dating for a year and a half. And that hers is only vaginal. Cheating is out of the question.
Now, I had previously prided myself on being very cautious in the past. The only girls who I’ve had sex with without a condom are her and my ex, who was also a virgin (and I didn’t finish in the ex because we were paranoid). But then she asks, did you wear a condom when they went down on you? Did you go down on them without a dam? Well…no. Honestly, I’ve made it a point to be tested regularly to know if I was clean or not, and I’ve asked the same of everyone I’ve done more than make out with. They told me they were clean, and since I knew all of them as friends before doing anything with them, I took them at their word, especially with regards to oral.
Damn abstinence only sex-ed.
As one might imagine, this caused a fight. That’s pretty much resolved now.
However, I face the prospect that at some point I caught herpes from someone I made out with, got a blowjob from, or went down on. However, they can’t test me because I’ve never had an outbreak. Anywhere. I know that they say that confirmed cases can spread even when symptomless, but what about cases like me? The only thing we do know is that if I didn’t have it to begin with I have a decent chance of having it now because we’ve kept doing it since then.
While it won’t likely happen, this will be a nightmare if we ever break up and I have to figure out how to disclose this to someone else.
Has anyone else ever heard of this? Or experienced it?