I Have E.d.!!!

As much as I dont like to say it, I suffer from it. The problem is that every time I have to perform with my girl I cant have an erection or mantain one. But if I masturbate or watch porn I have a very strong erection and a very strong urge to please my self. For example if I get an erection with my girlfriend, as soon as she puts her hand on my penis it goes away. I do not have organic problems, I`m 20 years old for crying out loud. What should I do?

Based on your other posts, maybe it’s because you think that your dick is not big enough for her. It sounds more like a performance problem than ED.

Have her jerk you off to porn, or better yet have her blow you to porn.

It’s all in your head dude. Work on admiting and conquering your anxiety when getting ready to for action with a girl. They say now eating healthy, excersizing, and sleeping fairly well can also help with getting rid of anxiety, depression, and other psychological problems. You could alaways just do some jelqing or pump before getting with the girl. :)

Good idea BTW about the BJ while watching porn RootCap, if she’s down for that. :)

I reckon the other guys are correct in that it most probably isn’t a physical problem, but rather something making you anxious or even just distracting you. Dicks can deflate sooooo easily!!!

So, I’m just wondering if it would help to think back to times when you have have no erection problems with another person, or this girl, and have had a great old time with them, in order to work out now what is perhaps different, and leading you to some kind of concern when it comes to sex. It may not even be right up there in your upper consciousness.

Is there someone else that is sexier that you think about, or is there something about having sex at all that is taking up your thoughts at the wrong time??

Well the problem is that I can not perform WHEN I MUST PERFORM. And I find myself thinking instead of how pleasurable is this, i think oh shit dont let it go dead on me now, and that`s exactly what happens, and all my excitment and arousal is gone. I just dont know how I can escape that damn thought.

I leaved a message on the thread where avocet8 said that there a couple of doctors here on this forum, hope they will help me somehow…

The problem is that you are thinking about it going limp instead of just having a good time.

You could try using viagra for a while, when you have had sex with her a few times without any problems, you probably won’t be worried about it anymore, and then you don’t need the viagra anymore.

That would work. An alternate approach—I’m not saying porn is bad, I love porn, but maybe temporarily stop watching the porn. Masturbating to porn is a completely no-stress situation, of course you get hard as a rock. It’s also conditioning your penis somewhat. Try instead when you masturbate think of your girlfriend and visualize everything, even the stress. Cut down your masturbation rate dramatically before you have sex with your girlfriend—if you are horny enough and have connected sex with her with having orgasms in your mind, your plumbing will work just fine.

The idea of suggesting watching porn to her is not a good idea. Women under 25 generally take a very dim view of porn, and any woman would be insulted to be with a guy who couldn’t get hard with her alone, but could only get hard watching porn. If you were having great sex with her already and she was a lot older, the occasional mutual pornfest can be a fun alternative, but using porn as a necessary erectile aid will just make her feel deeply sexually unattractive.

Thanks zaneblue for your inciteful post on women. :) I actually believe I need to cut down on my porn use a bit just so I make it a little more special and clear my mind a little. I do think it is very helpful for us PE’ers when you need to maintain a constant erectile state for jelqing and other girth type excersizes though. Everything in moderation as they say I guess. :)

Also zana’s idea about using visualation when you have private time instead of porn is very good. I have messed around with this a bit when trying to test if I could get erections without physical stimulation from my hand or some girls mouth, whatever, and I found not only could I get a erection with visualuation (visualizing what I would do if I was messing around with some hot babe or two I saw on TV for instance, no I don’t do this all the time :P), but I found my erection was super strong and rock hard when I did that. It was all in my mind! It may feel and sound kooky at first, but then didn’t PE feel that way at first and you got over it, you know?

Anyways, I truly hope you solve your problem. Stay positive, try to be more determined and believe you will in time whether that is today or tommorow as long as you stay persitent and keep trying new ways to solve your problem WILL solve it and conquer it. Have fun.